1 Yr. Old Having Issues with Daycare

hi i am an in home day cae provider for 20 years or so and this is totally normal. just a phase. here is the thing the quicker you hand them over the better for you and them . by the time you get back into your car and drive off i am posotive that your baby has stopped crying. be assured and ask millions of questions to your older girls. and there should be an open door policy plus you can call as much as you like to check on them. but remember that if you do pop in the baby will cry again. good luck

Having worked at a preschool myself, it may simply be anxiety. However, we did once have a caretaker who we discovered was really awful to the children when no one was looking. Talk to the other parents and get there feedback about the caretaker just to be sure...and visit the room when you have chances to do so without calling ahead.

More then likely it is completely anxiety. He is figuring out when he sees her you are leaving. I went through this with my three year old in preschool, for two weeks he was fine, then all of a sudden it was a meltdown each day.
If you feel he is fine, like no real reason behind it and your daughters are fine, I would say just kiss/hug and walk away. It is horribly hard, when you have one screaming and crying but I learned if you prolong the process it will make it more stressful for him. Give him a good month before any alarms go off compeletely. I also did a kiss sticker with my son, put a sticker on his shirt and kissed it first and told him he could look at that if he missed me, reassure your son you will be back. At one he has no concept of time either nor a sticker really in that sense, just hug him and leave though and don't linger. He will adjust just fine and look forward to eventually. It took a good few weeks for us to do preschool without any tears. He did this the other night at the gym daycare, he was fine then had a meltdown half way through when other moms were picking up their kids.
I wouldn't worry too much, just keep an eye out, get a report on how he ate, napped and so on and make sure you feel a gut instinct the daycare is safe and good. Most kids that age go through this.

S.- If you feel comfortable with your new provider and have done all the homework then I would think it was just seperation anxiety. Seperation anxiety kicks in at about this age (and can continue up past 3 years) so it is very common. Reassure your child "you're ok- my friend "provider" will take care of you while I'm gone" "you're going to have so much fun here" and maybe sit with your 1 year old as long as you can to show him that you are comfortable with the new provider. Don't cry in front of him or show anxiety yourself -kids can read feelings! After about a week he should be fine. If he's still upset you may need to rip it off like a bandaide

Good luck-H.

Coming from someone who takes care of the kids after you leave it sounds like it is most definitely seperation anxiety. The best thing to do from the stand point of a provider is to make your goodbyes (wether it be kisses, hugs) and then leave. Although they are crying as you leave, it usually doesn't last long once they get involved in the activities and toys. Doing something special helps too, bringing a blanket or toy of their own to keep with them while you are away. I have had parents who will help distract their child and then sneak away (they have already said their goodbyes) and then the child doesn't even cry. As one of the other moms posted if you are comfortable with the daycare and you know that nothing is wrong other than him missing you, then just make a quick entrance and exit to make things run more smoothly for your provider....the longer you linger the more and longer he will cry. Good luck.
J.

S.-I think it is separation anxiety! My 1st went through this as well (and so did I!!) I tried staying to help get him involved, I let him take a comfort bear, I also let him take a small treat to the teacher so that was his transition was giving the treat to teacher while I left, I made a school calendar and gave him a picture of his school to help him get ready and prepared for the drop off. I also brought some light-up Thomas sandals that he only got to wear to school. Everything worked for a period of time and then something new needed to happen. I think the thing that has worked the best lately is giving him a kiss good bye and saying "see you in a little bit" and doing all of this before the door!. What about his provider coming out to the car to get him? Another idea that might work. Hang in there-I DO KNOW it is hard as I still have mornings with my now 3 1/2 year old!

I watch a little boy who went through this. He is now 16 months, but from about the time he turned one, he started having a meltdown when ever his mom left him. He would sometimes cry for 20 minutes, no matter what I did to try and soothe him. It was so sad! It always made me feel terrible, like he didn't like me, but I realized that it was just separation anxiety. He is slowly growing out of this stage, and seems to have a lot of fun with us now. I bet your son is having similar issues. From a caregiver's point of view, I say hang in there, and he will grow out of it.

Its probley normal he knows as soon has the door opens and he see's her that you are going to leave him. My son did that as soon as we walked in and I put him down he through a fit. if you feel concerned about it you can always drop in un announced to see how things are.