I'm Pregnant and He Has Said He Doesn't Want Anymore . . .

Mommy DS.....First Congrats to you. Second you have to tell him. Wait till tonight after dinner and after your guest are gone. (if you are having guest) that way you can enjoy your dinner with family. You have to tell him. It was his choice not to use the condom. He is old enoungh to know what happens when one isnt used!! He might be upset at first, not because he doesnt want this child, but maybe because he is just nervous because of all the changes that are coming your way or because of all the things that have happend in your births in the past!! This is his child too and he will love it as he does his other children. Like I said it was his choice not to protect himself from getting you pregenant. Good Luck to you and believe me it will be in the best interest to till him tonight after dinner. Good Luck and again Congrats!!

Tell him ASAP. Holding out on something like this is not wise. Good luck.

I think our husbands must be brothers... I went through the exact same thing when I got pregnant with our 2nd. My 1st delivery was smooth, but post-delivery was a mess and I lost quite a bit of blood. I slipped in and out of consciousness for a couple hours. Needless to say, my husband didn't want to even chance that again and was determined we weren't having anymore kids (even though I still kind of wanted a 2nd). So, you can imagine the surprise when 2 1/2 years later, my period was 5 days late (while I was still taking the pill). I took the test and learned that we were going to have a 2nd. After he looked at the test, he accused me of all sorts of things I must have done to get pregnant. It took him 2-3 months to really accept that we were having a 2nd. I was prepared for him to be angry, stressed, etc, so I just patiently waited for him to come around. Our 2nd little one is now 3 months old and he is wonderful with her!! I would just be up front with your hubby with the understanding that he may not be as excited as you right away!! Good luck... and congrats!!

First off.... Congratulations! Secondly.... he's adult enough to know that "chancing it" meant he was taking a chance! This "OOPS" was a joint effort - no need to point the finger. It takes two to tango!

Also, every pregnancy is different, although I know it's easy to compare what you have already experienced. You're positive attitude about this and "we'll handle this together" may help. He may be upset at first but - perhaps he'll give more thought to that vasectomy next time around.

Probably there is no better time than to share it with him today - just one more thing to be thankful for on Thanksgiving!

No doubt, tell him. This is wonderful news just like it was with the first two pregnancies. Congrats!

Well, chancing it got me in this situation.

Not sure what to say other than "Well, chancing it got you BOTH in this situation."

I was in a similar situation this summer. My husband was happy with the two children we have. He didn't want more. I am 25 weeks pregnant and we couldn't be happier. It did take a while for him to get to that point though.

I don't think you should hide it from him. I think that would cause more harm than good.

But I think you need to NOT blame yourself and realize it takes TWO to tango.

Good Luck!