I Want Another Child?!?

I hate to tell you, but you have sooo much time to decide this. Take every precaution you can to not get pregnant at this time. Two kids are really expensive - and they only cost more the older they get. Your kids deserve the best, so finish college and get a great job first. Make sure your fiancee does the same. Then get married - then decide on the next baby. The one you have now will love being the center of your attention for a little longer. Good luck!

S.,

As a now 32-year-old Mom who gave birth to my daugher (now age 13) at age 19, while attending Pharmacy schooland working full time. I would just suggest that you give yourself more time. Life for all of you would be much easier once you have finished your education. You and your child both deserve the benefit of a fully committed relationship with financial stability before making any additions to your family. You have plenty of time to add to your family, I did last year! My husband and I have now been married for 12 years, and we are the proud parents of a beautiful baby boy and a beautiful teenage daughter. Just a bit of advice from experience, do not make life more difficult than it has to be for either yourself or your daughter. If you have concerns about your fiance favoring a new addition over your daughter, you need to voice these concerns and develop a clear path before moving forward with a marriage.

Good luck and God Bless!!

Your young and already have alot on your plate...I would enjoy life and have fun now w/ your little one. Then later you will know for sure that its the right time to have another. I had my daughter 4months early and we werent married. I wish we would have been b/c I always beleived in that and now I cant really preach to the choir to my little girl about foucsing on marriage and getting up on your feet and stable before having a child. I know your never ready or perpared enough to have one but its sure nice to have as many ducks in a row in your life as possible. Things all happen at the time it does for a reason and thats the way we have to live. Hope this helps and good luck and I commend you on everything you are doing at your age..Im 26 now and I dont think I could have handled so much then.

I wish all the best for you, but my big advice would be to get used to marriage first. It seems like it is just a piece of paper, but marriage takes a lot of work, and you probably need some time to get to know each other before having another baby.

If he develops a strong relationship with your current dd before having his own, it seems he could love them both without favoritism! Make sure you talk to him about all of this first, and maybe discus all of this with the pastor/marriage counselor before you get married.

Also, praying about it would be a huge help! You are smart to be thinking about this first. And keep in mind you have plenty of time to have another baby if you decide to wait. A big advantage of being so young right now! ;)

Best wishes!!

I have a 18 month old, stay at home and am going to school full time and I can't imagine handling another baby right now! My thoughts are that you have plenty of time for a new little one, take it slow and enjoy the time with this one and finishing school will be much easier and faster with one 3 year old as oppose to one 3 year old and a newborn! Time is precious and you want to make sure the new baby gets just as much attention as the 3 year old and vice versa. Hang in there! I'm with ya!

I am 21 and had my first child when I was 16 and a second one at 20. Enjoy your life. You are way to young to be thinking about another child. I work 50 hours a week and on my days off its my girls, husband and me. I love my girls to death but I dont go out, I dont have money to go shopping. Enjoy living life to the fullest while you can. Start thinking about the future plans. I have been with my husband for 7 years and by having kids you dont get as much quality time together as you deserve and it hurts. You have some much more time to think about kids after you get a house, own a car and have a saving.