I Want a Baby!

Well, I don't want another. However, when my son was around 6 months I kind of got sad he wasn't an infant. I told myself all the reasons I can't and shouldn't have another baby. Not enough money, Not enough space, terrible pregnancy, feeling overwhelmed with two, etc. I sort of let my head and logic talk my emotions out of something. It really did help

Now, I am 100% sure I don't want another child. Up until I reached that point, it just took telling myself...hey...things are great right now. Enjoy your son, stop thinking about the one you don't have. And, I just enjoyed him and accepted it.

You need to sit down and draw out your goals on paper. A timeline. College, job, etc. Then, based on when those goals would be accomplished, figure out when it would make the most sense and you would be the most prepared to have another baby.

I'd go for AFTER you have graduated. And if you're planning on working, after you have a steady income. :o)

focus on your studies and your 16 month old who is having troubles (from your previous post).

I would sit down with my husband and find out if we can afford another child. I know many say that if you wait until you can afford one - you will never have one - but adding a second to the mix double diapers..food, etc. so consider that when wanting a second child.

i have two boys right now - 9 & 11 - when do you want them?

Hmmm, do you want to finish college? If so, I'd say you should wait until you are out of school to even consider intentionally trying to get pregnant.

I also agree with Cheryl, that your possibly Autistic 16 month old needs a lot of attention from you, and will probably need much more as he gets older & stronger.

Truthfully? I think you are mourning the sweet little baby now that your son is in toddlerhood. You are probably overwhelmed with his issues since you are having him assessed for autism.

Are you happy with your studies? Are you having trouble concentrating? Looking for something to make you feel better while life "happens" to you is understandable, but will get you in trouble if you don't really focus and handle the reality of your life, right now.

Handling your son comes first. Getting lots of help and advice and keeping a structured environment for him will not only help you now, but help shape what he is to become. That's a lot of work, and I'm sure it isn't what you expected. I really think that wanting another baby is for a "do over", and though having another baby is understandable, in your own situation, the reason you are jonesing for another baby is not going to help your son or your studies.

Focus on these two big parts of your life. They will both make a huge difference in your future. I think that if you are very structured with your studies and with your son, it will help you get past this.

Good luck,
Dawn

Yes. I have a 3 and 4 year old.. Both girls. Come pick them up fir the weekend. You will soon change your mind lol.. But seriously.. I wanted another baby when my youngest was about 1 1/2.. But I was on Mirena.. So I waited,Now I'm pregnant due in march.. I would suggest waiting. At least till you finish school..

Prioritize
Make a goal for yourself about when you want to have your baby, I'm pretty sure you want to finish college first. Keep your goals in mind and you will stay focused.
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Good Luck