I Ruined Father's Day...what Do I Do?

I agree with karen. He wanted you to keep drinking and this is what happened. Sounds like it's on him.

I don't think you ruined it... if anything, it was a 50/50 effort :-p. Seriously, though, if he is a decent guy, I don't think he'll fault you for it.

I also agree w/a PP that men don't put the same stock into these types of days as women do. Men are simple beings, they don't need the whole thing that women seem to require.

Not to mention, you already celebrated, didn't you? If you really want to make it up to him, order some food for delivery that he likes, and give him some good sex when you're feeling better :-).

Drink some water, have something salty, take a multivitamin and go back to bed. He was the bartender and he overserved you.

He kept encouraging you to drink more?? Why??

I don't think you owe him a "do over". Go back to bed and sleep it off. When you get up, fix a good dinner and enjoy the evening. You'll be fine!

T.:

Your husband encouraged you to drink more. Sorry - but in my head - he's part of the problem. You don't owe him anything other than an apology for not stopping when you should have and a thanks for helping clean up the mess he encouraged.

Sorry - i think it's pretty darn disrespectful of a spouse to push alcohol on their spouse.

Let him spend the day with the kids and go back to bed after you take some ibuprofen and drink more water!!!

Hope you are better soon!!!

Um...sounds like a mutual decision to drink too much.
Let go of the "guilt"!
As for the hangover, try a large McD's fries and a giant vat of Coke to work wonders (salt, salt, sugar, sugar!).

How is it your fault? Your husband encouraged you to drink and you were hardly in a clear state of mind so you played along. As a bartender he knew what he was doing!
Why do you need a do over on the Father's Day plans? You already went to dinner and gave him presents. Sounds like plenty to me
So let him enjoy his day with the kids, and drink lots and lots of water :)

As we mature in age, we cannot do what we used to do while younger.
You did not ruin fathers day. Your husband pushed you to drink! Who does that? Especial lily at your ages...

I would just try to recover today and thank him for helping you last night, but also talk about how it looks like you are going to have to be careful with your alcohol consumption.. Not a big deal...

He should take the kids out and spend time with him.. That is what my husband always wants on fathers day.. That and a nap!

You got in today's situation together and it sounds like you both had fun getting there (minus the 'cleanup') so don't feel guilty.

Mcdonalds egg mcmuffin and a bloody mary cure lots of morning after ills.

He was part of creating the problem - not sure why he kept encouraging you to drink. But you're both responsible for the situation last night - you aren't used to drinking like that so there's nothing you can do. You've been married a while so you should be able to get past this. Everyone in life gets a do-over -- so go to bed, sleep some more, let him bond with the kids, and just deal with it. Apologize (for your share of it) and get better. There's nothing else you can do now.

Are you positive that it was the alcohol and not food poisoning from the restaurant? That sort of thing still happens and it's usually several hours after eating. Happened to my son a few months ago.

Stop making yourself feel so bad. If he encouraged you to drink you shouldn't feel so bad. He should understand. Just apologize and make plans for a different day. It happens sometimes.

This is not your fault.

Let him have a real Father's Day and be a FATHER and spend time with his children.

Yes, STOP beating yourself up! Your husband poured the drinks, granted he didn't spill them down your throat, but if you were at a club and the same thing happened....the BAR TENDER and ESTABLISHMENT would also be held responsible.

You heart is in the right place you'll be fine.

Blessings....

I have to give you props for accepting responsibility that YOU drank too much!!

You were in your own home with your husband, he did not slip you a roofie. We make our own choices (it was probably fun for you at the time you were enjoying cocktails) and unfortunately you are not feeling well. He may have encouraged you but you consumed 4+ drinks and got sick....you know this, I'm just stating the obvious.

It sounds like you celebrated Father's Day but if you had something cool planned for the family it can always be done on another day. You can laugh about this later, don't worry about it.

I remember all of the "my Mother's Day sucked posts" here. If their husbands were drunk and hung over they would have been furious!! Once again, I think it's great you are accepting responsibility and knowing you limitations moving forward. Hope you feel better soon!!

Hi.
LIke I do for birhtdays...make it father's day season!!!Please do not be so hard on yourself.
Laugh it off. It happens. celebrate again next week. It is only a date on the calendar that can be moved.

Enjoy Father's day next Sunday.

Best, Jilly

First of all, don't worry about it. Apologize and move on. Sounds like it was in the evening, not the beginning of the day so I'm sure he had a great Father's Day. If this is the first time that your husband has ever taken care of you in such a manner, you're in pretty good shape :) My husband and I went through our early 20s partying, so we've been there, done that.

Anyway, go get a big greasy hamburger and fries. Those are always good for a hangover, lol ;) And drink some coffee; caffeine helps quite a bit.

Things happen. Don't be so hard on yourself. Relax. Try to feel better.

Drink lots of water.

Maybe try to eat a big hamburger from a fast food drive through.

Rest.

You can always make him dinner tomorrow night but only if you want to.

You already went out to dinner & gave him his gifts.

Stop with the water you need Gaterade or Powerade - the Electrolytes and all the other stuff in it will help your body better than water will. In addition - the more you move the better your body will be. If you dwell on how you screwed up it will be the black cloud you are making it be. Honestly, you did not screw up father's day - you drank too much having fun with your hubby - he had a hand in it too! And honestly - why does it matter if you have fun with your man today vs any other weekend. I never understood the "pressures" of today and other simmilar holidays.

didn't you just say dh was bartender? and made the drinks WAY stronger than normal, and kept encouraging you to drink more? (when my hubby acts similar it is usually because he hopes something "will happen" later lol) i think hubby did this to himself (and YOU.) no need to feel guilty on this one!?!?

well the day is over so i hope you were able to feel a little better and have a nice day (even if it was quiet :))

but stop feeling guilty. hubby is just as much at fault here. he kinda got what was coming to him! lol!

Energy drinks are the best for hangovers. I like Monster but any will do. SOme people swear by coconut water too.

Its not your fault dear husband served you a drink you could not handle. He should take some responsibility for his own day being ruined.

I am so with Adansmama. He was getting you tipsy in hopes of another kind of "gift". Men...lol!

This may be too late, but a breakfast sandwich and OJ seems to help me. Maybe try a gatorade or smartwater. Hangovers stink! Every few years i do it to myself and curse myself.

Ugh! I am 35 and just got my first hangover and had my first experience with puking from drinking last Saturday. Seriously, I thought I was going to die! It was awful. I am not a lightweight, and I can keep up with the best of them when drinking, normally, so this came out of nowhere. I ended up in bed until 4pm last Sunday and did nothing but drink water and bread and butter all day.
Good luck!

If he encouraged you to drink, then it's on him, not you. Too bad if he feels like you did something wrong...he knows your limit and pushed it, for what?! If he wanted to get lucky, does he need you drunk to do it?

I hope you feel better, but I wouldn't be apologizing for it if I were you!