Hi ladies..
Its about 2am and I just left the ER with my sick daughter. She has been sick since Sun with a bad couch and fever between 100.8-105 up and down with the most recent one Wed. 102.5. They found pnuemonitis and a Upper repiratory virus. I took her to her ped. on Mon and she prescribed antibiotic with albuterol and pulmicort nebulizer treatments. Anywyas...long story short... I was scheduled to go on a all expense paid 3 day 3 night cruise to the Bahamas (today-Thursday) with my husband and a coworker of his with her husband courtesy of his employer for making high slaes for the year. I thought she would be feeling better by now! Eventhough my mom agreed to watch my little one and do the round the clock breathing treatments, I chose to stay behind because my mom watching her would mean that she had to go to daycare thurs and fri because my mom works and cant take off. Originally it would have not been a problem had she not been sick because she has permission to pick up and drop off my child. Anyways, I just dont feel right leaving my sick baby behind to the care of anyone else, even if it is my mom. I know she would take good care of her, but she shouldnt have to miss work and wake up in the middle of the night and all that fun stuff! Well, my husband is going without me and is taking a buddy of his instead of me, (I initially suggested this, because the tickets are non refundable and I didnt want the company to lose their money on my behalf), but deep inside I wished he didnt go without me. I have major trust issues with him for all the right reasons and things have been great with us and we have been working together to mend things yet I still feel a sense of uneasiness and worry. I have been uneasy about my decision and was debating whether to go or not, it would have been both of our first cruise and our honeymoon we never had, but it turned into a "guys night out fun cruise" cause Im not going anymore. What did I do??? It will be only me and my little girl until Sunday. I dont regret it though I wouldnt have been able to live with the fact that I made her inconvenienced when she needed me most because I wanted to have fun an take a once in a lifetime chance of a free cruise. Maybe one day I can tell her this story of how she got sick during my first week of classes and my first chance to have a cruise and she will appreciate me staying behind to love her :) Eventhough it seems like hubby might not. How do I get rid of this gut feeling of insecurity and being left behind by him? I dont think he realizes the reason why I am choosing not to leave little one behind sick. He was SOOO quick to call his buddy and I could hear his buddy shouting with glee "Alright!" I'm going on a cruise while hubby was talking to him on the phone telling him he could go cause I wasn't, maybe I shouldnt have suggested it? Maybe I should have just went? But I love my little girl and she's only small one time and money can't pay for that!
Thanks for taking the time to read this...I just feel a little overwhelmed, overworked and TIRED!
My little one seems to be doing much better! It's been really hard to keep my mind off hubby and what he's doing on the cruise. He called me from the Bahamas Fri. morning and said he would call me back before getting back on the ship, but he never did. I havent heard from him since. But honestly, the time alone with my daughter has been fun, we went to the park, slept in late, watched elmo...all those memorable moments. Thank you sooo much for taking the time to read my little story of fustaration. I dont know you ladies personally but you sure found a way to put warmth into my heart in knowing that I made the right choice! Thanks again for caring! :)
Hey, don't feel bad, I think it was the right decision to stay with you baby, just enjoy the time that you have just the two of you, sometimes men don't understand the mother instinct.
Congratulations on being such a dedicated mom, and working so hard at your career goals. We need nurses so badly and we are lucky to have a future one who cares deeply about helping people. Have faith, in my experience (35, married 4 years with a 15 month old), most men feel absolutely helpless when someone is sick and look for a way to be away from the situation. Not because they don't care, but don't know how to help. He will probably appreciate your sacrifice much later down the road when you least expect it. Bless you and hang in there.
totally understandable. Maybe your mom can watch your daughter one night while you go out with friends? You need to take your mind off what your husband is doing because it will do no good anyway. You did the right thing and you know it in your heart. There will always be another time to go away with your husband when your daughter is not so sick. Maybe when he comes back you can try to plan something for next year so you have it to look forward to?
This is a time to concentrate on yourself and your daughter. It should make your husband realize what a great mom and wife you are. Seems to me he should have considered staying home to.
Try to do something for yourself during these few days. Facial, nails, massage. You deserve it!
B., i can't give you much suggestion with your husband, because thats a relationship i am not privy to, however, it sounds like you need assurance that you did the right thing, and you absolutely DID. She needs you, and you would have been miserable on the trip right? so just take care of her, love her, and deal with your man when he returns. If he doesnt get why she needed you home, then you have some issues. Maybe try counseling if he'll go, and if he's just one of those guys, you have to decide if thats what you want. If he listens understands and is sympathetic to how you felt, then let it go. I would just approach it quietly and without fighting. Just bring it up later, like "hey, you know, I just wanna make sure you understand why i had to stay with the baby" and "I really missed you, did you have a great time or what? tell me about it so i can decide if we should try to go on our own" things like that, be diplomatic, the more you yell or cry the more he'll clam up and get defensive.
Good luck and remember to rest while the baby is resting to stay sane!
