I was talking to my boyfriend on yahoo and a few minutes later he said "I g2g" and I said why did he have to go so he said "I have to go do some work…" and I said okay bye. Then I just went on invisible on yahoo and closed it three minutes later I look on my yahoo to see if my friend was online and I see that he is online. I was wondering if he was just lying to me about going to work and also was wondering if he was seeing another girl. Can you please help me?
Between my three computers and my phone I always appear online.
I don't see this as even remotely indicating he is seeing another girl.
Sounds to me like he just forgot to log out of the messenger.
You sound too young to worry about what some guy is doing-find someone you trust or better yet-be alone for a while and gain some confidence!
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Just because it shows he's on-line doesn't mean he's there!! i've forgotten to log out of Facebook or yahoo in the past and people have tried to message me.
If you don't trust him - dump him. You don't need that stress and worry in your life. I will say this though - what your accuser accuses you of, is what your accuser is guilty of....so I would think long and hard before you start accusing him of something....
I think you are making a mountain out of a mole hill.
I agree with others that being online doesnt mean you are, but I think while you're young you should evaluate the reason why you jump to it?
Has he given you reasons not to trust him?
Is your childhood filled with untrusting people?
I would say instead of concentrating on him, concentrate on you, and get a head start to figuring out why your brain jumps to that conclusion, so that in 10-20 years when you are older and have a kid you arent on here still dealing with those insecurities. I know I would've done better if I worked on things when I was younger and issues first presented rather than waiting until I was 26=)
Don't make problems where there aren't any. I often tell people that I need to get moving, but leave my chat program up and open.
LBC
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Very interesting first question.....
There are lots of things that could be going on here.
None of us will ever really know.
But if YOU ask him, and you trust him, that's probably the best way to go.
Good luck!
Have you talked to him about your concerns?
Hello - One thing always to remember: you *can't* read what's going on in anyone else's head (nobody can mind-read you, either). When you ascribe a motive to an action, that's coming out of your head, not his. But why not ask him? Can you do it and stay cool, without seeming jealous?
Either he is faithful or his isn't. If he isn't it will reveal itself in time. If you are unable to trust you don't need to be in a relationship. You need to find out if you are just insecure or if there is really something there. Either way you probably would be better served getting a hobby and developing your own sense of self and confidence.
I was insecure at one point in my life and I worked very hard to destoy that relationship by looking for some mystery woman around every corner. I eventually drove that very good man away. It left me totally devastated but I did it to myself. I'm not that same girl. I'm confidant (probably too confidant) and assured of myself. I'm married and even if there was a time in the future that my husband cheated I'm definitely better prepared to deal with that being secure verses being insecure.
As many have said it was probably nothing but may have been something either way work on your own self confidence and sense of who you are and who you want to become.
