I Need Help with My Teenagers and Dad...

hi R., I have 16 yr old twin daughters and one went through a phase thinking she was a lesbian or bisexual. They're young, they're experimenting. And I've always said what you say, "whatever makes you happy". Just love your daughter and give her time to figure out who she is. If you give her extra attention because she thinks she's bisexual, then she'll continue the behavior for the attention. Think back to when you were a teenager...we probably all had odd crushes, on teachers, friends' older brothers or fathers, etc. Good luck!

Hi R.:

I have a 16 year old daughter and even though I have never had to deal with what you are, I haev two friends who have and it seems to me to be a stage that she may be going through. I would suggest just to support her and be there for her to talk to. My Best friends daughter who is 14 todl her mother over the summer that she was bisexual and than two months later said she wasnt and she just had thought she was...teens, ugh. If I were in your shoes I would just be there for her. Hope that helps.

Well I can feel for you..I have a 18 year old daughter and we went through the same thing. She was 16 and hung out with boys all the time, but didn't have a boyfriend. She started hanging out with this girl and at first I just thought it was a friend. I started wondering when every time I walked in her room and the two of them would jump. I just started noticing wierd things about the two of them. I happend to go on myspace and found my daughters space and it said she was in a relationship, but I never saw a boy around. Then I went to her friends space and noticed she was bi..I was so upset,but wanted to be cool about and not push my daughter away..I just sat her down and she admitted to me they were a couple..She said that she didn't think or look at her as a female..that she didn't look at girls in that way. It went on for about 6 months..The other girl caused a lot of problems at our home..I almost lost my daughter. She was ready to move out as soon as she turned 18. I kept thinking maybe its just the attention, because she didn't get along with my new husband and she felt I wasn't there for her like I was when it was just her and I. I also heard that this is going on in the schools a lot right now and maybe she was just experamenting..Well I am so glad to say they got into a fight and after a few months she has a boyfriend..I really do think it is some what needing the attention..I hope things will turn around. It sure was a feeling I hope I won't feel again. I hope this will help you some. Have a great night

R.,

Hello my girls are not that old but I myself am bisexual. For me I was about her age or a lil younger than her when I suspected I was attracted to girls. So I understand what she is saying but I understand what you are saying because nowadays its become more "okay" to be that way and alot of people are testing it out sorta speak. When I was in high school it wasnt something you could tell your parents or your friends for fear of being made fun of or worse. I think its great that she came to you and confided in you about it that shows a lil maturity. I think that you really should show her some respect and be there for her no matter how it turns out. It may not be for the attention it may be true to how she really does feel and if you react badly to it and that is how she truly feels she may resent you later. Be thankful she feels she can have an open realationship with you about things like this. That is the best thing in the world to have with your daughter is an open, close, relationship you will be thankful in the end. Take care and just be there for her! Have a great weekend!

A.