My 7yr old is just starting 2nd grade. I usually have my neighbor get her on the bus on the weekdays i work, and there are no problems. But on the days that i or my mother happen to be home she throws the biggest fit. I men to the point where i can't even get her on the bus. She has already stayed home 1 day because i was working and my mother doesn't drive. She threw this huge fit and screamed because she didn't want to get on the bus. Now today i was home and she did the same thing. I was furious and yelled at her. Told her she was grounded for a week from playing outside because of her behavior. I then drove her to school. We said a prayer on the way and i reassured her that i would be home when she got home and she seemed to be fine. Then when we got to her class room it started again. "the fit" she clenched on to me screaming and crying, "don't leave me mommy". I sat her down at her desk made her let go of me and i calmed her down. Then as i got up to leave she started the fit again. The teacher told me to go. I did, but the whole time as i was leaving i could hear her crying for me. I was hysterical by the time i got to the car. I wanted soooo much to go back into the school and bring her home with me. Does anyone have any advice or words that may help me deal with this better and to get her to deal with it. Please help.
Hi P.:) Does your daughter say why she does not want to go to school? Is she having problems with a bully, a teacher, a friend? Anything else you can think of? Or do you think she just wants to be with you?
i have a friend who had this problem from elementary school to middle school, and they finally sent him to a counselor who determined in 8th grade that he wasnt just throwing fits for the hell of it, but he had really bad anxiety. the only time it would show is at school, he was fine playing with friends and other things but would get abnormally nervous before school. maybe she doesnt flip out with the neighbors because she isnt as comfortable throwing fits around them? or maybe its a way to ease her into school each day?
perhaps you should have her talk to the schools guidance counselor. but be careful... i dont have any kids yet, but i have several around me, every kid nowadays will get diagnosed with something, whether they have it or not. they tried saying my brother and cousin had ADD in 2nd and 3rd grades, and my dads friends son had this, my other cousins had that.... theyre just kids, they do stuff like that, but maybe the counselor will be able to come up with soemthing to help.
P.,
Have you considered homeschooling? Give it a thought. There are many ways you or your mother can homeschool your daughter. There are a lot of resources out there for homeschooling that could help you educate your daughter at home. Also, its wonderful for keeping your Christian values front and center.
Read Mary Pride's Complete Guide to Getting Started in Homeschooling if you are interested.
L.
I would definitely ask if the school's guidance counselor or psychologist (if they have one)could talk to her or give you ideas. Last year my seven year old daughter was having extreme anxiety about being near other kids who were sick after she saw several of her classmates throw up at school. I asked the guidance counselor for help and she talked to my daughter to help her through her fears. I also suggest you ask the teacher to help you figure out exactly what the problem is, what your daughter is afraid of, like that other mom suggested. Sometimes, kids just have irrational fears that they have to grow out of and it just takes time... This has happened to my daughter a few times at different ages and stages of her life and it is always so hard for both her and me to get through! So I wish you the best of luck! Keep trying different things until you find whatever works for her.
Has your daughter given you any input as to why she doesn't want to go? Tell her you understand that she doesn't want to go, but that you need some reasons as to why she doen't want to and need to know if she is having any problems? You need to find out if it's a bullying kid, shyness, anxiety, a psychological problem--let her know that you need her to explain so you can understand and help her. Tell her without you knowing, it's hard for you to understand and you really want to help her.
My advice would be not to get angry with her or too forceful at this point. I would definitely call the Doctor and take their suggestion. Meanwhile, if possible, it may be a good idea to have your neighbor get her off to school since she does not experience these problems.
