K.V.
Hi L., a few questions. Who exactly is your friend, and how could you take the child from her? Is there a legal situation going on here?
Second, does she already have children? Boys or girls?
Third, is there a father involved?
Many times pregnant women have intense desires for a child of a particular gender. It's not bad when mom is upset if she has the other! Most commonly, she meets the child and comes to love him or her quickly.
It is almost impossible to raise a child as the opposite sex. When the child is in the toy store, dolls may look really good to a girl--it's genetic!! Also, she may insist on a pink frilly dress on the first day of school!
This woman need prenatal care with a provider who can catch her up, and provide the time and emotional support she needs. Sounds like a midwife to me!
Call if I can help--###-###-####.
Kathy Vande Giessen, Certified Nurse Midwife, North Houston Birth Center