I Have a 3 Mth Old Son and I Just Found Out That I'm Pregnant

I did the same thing. My daughters are one year and two weeks apart. Sometimes they seemed more like twins. If you want to talk feel free

M.,

I had a 5 month old when I got pregnant with twins. Let me know if there is anything you need help with....questions, support, etc.

D. B.

M.,

My daughters are 14 1/2 months apart. I found out I was pregnant with my 2 year old when my twins were only 7 months old. I would love to talk with you. It is difficult, but definitely not impossible.

J.

M.,

Yes hunny actually I have. I have two children that are only 11 mos apart. The rest of the story is that I have 5 children I gave birth to and 3 step children. My birth children are 13, 8, 7, 6, and 4. I stair stepped the last four. Hunny if you need to talk please feel free to email me. I can't give you a lot of advice since I don't know your situation. Let me know if you need someone to talk to privatly. I remember the feeling of OMG you have GOT to be kidding me feeling. No matter how much you love your children, it can be overwhelming having them so close together. Like I said let me know if you need to chat.

K.

M.,

I have two that are 17mos apart. My oldest was 8 mos old when we found out I was pregnant again. It was a shocker at first, but I knew that with the love and support of our family, everything was going to be okay..They are now almost 4 and 2 1/2 and are the best of friends...It was also easier because I still had all of the baby stuff...You will be fine:)

E.

M., first of all,how old are you? Honey all I can say is, if you do not feel you can go thru this again, then I would talk to family planning or consider adoption. It all depends on how you feel about the situation. I have 3 kids (all grown,Thank God!)and the 2 youngest are 15 months apart. If you have this baby,it would be like having twins. I can not tell you what to do. I only hope the best for you and your family.

I totally feel your pain. I was talking to someone about this a few days ago. I was once in this same situation. My son was 4 months old and I went to my annual checkup and my doctor told me that i had to be at least 5 months. Of course I could not believe this because my son was only 4 and thought this was impossible. I was true, according to them. I decided not to keep the baby. I was a choice that me and my boyfriend made because our son was so young. I don't think I could have had handled it mentally, or physically. I was also having money probrems at the time. You might say well why weren't you on birth control, the thing is I was. So not saying it is the right choice, each person situation is different. I'm 22 at the time I was 20 and I just could not do it. I thought I would share since I have been down that road.

I haven't been in your situation, but I am here if you want to talk. I also have a 3 month old son, and if I were to get pregnant right now, I know it would be hard, but it can be done. I'm sure you will be just fine. Please email me if you need to talk, I will listen. :D Hugs

M. -

You won't believe this but I am currently in the exact same situation!! I have a 4m/o and two weeks ago I found out I was pregnant again. (I also have a 3 y/o) I go to the dr next week but I'm guessing I'm about 5-6 weeks along and I was on birth control. My husband and I have no idea what we're going to do. We definitely don't want to take anything away from the two boys that we already have whether it be attention or material items but we also can't imagine not having the baby. The scariest part is the finances... daycare for three is extremely expensive and I will not quit working. My job is my only break from the day!!! Feel free to email me any time you want to chat. Not sure how much I can help but we can just be in shock together!!!!!!!!!!

M.--I work with a lot of moms who've been in the same situation. Know that you are NOT alone. Who can you ask for help--practical help, like taking care of the baby while you rest, making a meal every now and then, helping w/ household chores? Also, who can you talk to? You need a safe shoulder to cry on--the message board is good. Is there a friend, sister, or mom, though, who can help you get through a hard day, right away?

Taking care of yourself--in spite of the demands of your babies--is the most important thing, right now. It's not selfish. Doing so will help you be more available for your son and your new, growing baby.

If you need to connect with some of these moms, feel free to respond to me. We have a support group that meets once a week.

Dear M.:

I am a 41 year old mother of 3 grown children and 1 2 1/2 year old grandaughter who lives with us.
When my oldest daughter was only 6 months old I found out I was pregnant with my second child. I was devestated because I was only 19 and had been using 2 forms of birth control when I got pregnant. I wanted to be a perfect mom with my first child and I was so afraid that being pregnant was going to take so much away from my daughter. Needless to say, my daughters are only 15 months apart and they are closer to each other than typical syblings. They have always been close and my oldest has always been such a "mommy figure" to her sister and brother. Instead of it hurting or harming my oldest, it really helped her excel and learn to be a caring individual because she started at such a young age.
I struggled, of course, trying to take care of 2 infants, and provide for them (my ex was basically worthless) so my stress level was out the door!!!! But, I would not change anything for the world!!!! I had my son 2 years later, and I still to this day have an extremely close relationship with all 3 of my children. Having them young was truly a blessing, because I am still young enough to be able to roll around on the ground,
run thru the park, and do any other crazy stuff I want to.

If you need to talk, just email me at ____@____.com and I will give you my number.

M.,
I don't really have any words of wisdom, but wanted to let you know I'm here to talk if you need. I hope I'm not overstepping my bounds when I say that I don't think God would give you this obstacle if you weren't meant to overcome it. Are you married? What does the father say? Please feel free to email me if you need to just talk. I know it's been done before and you can do this.
T.

M., I have been in your shoes....several times! I have four children. The oldest will be 8 in November, my second is 5 1/2, my third is 4 1/2 (exactly 13 months younger than the second), and the fourth will be 3 in October (18 months younger than the third). I had three in diapers at the same time! I still have four in carseats/booster seats. It hasn't been easy, but I would not trade it for anything. There are challenges, but there are so many rewards. They are there for each other. Take care of yourself and it will all fall in place. God gave you this child for a reason. Make sure you still treasure your baby that you have now and all his little milestones. Take lots of pictures! If you ever need to talk I am here! C.

M.
I had my son and when he was five months old I found out that I was pregant again I chose to keep the baby and now we have a little girl and my children are so close and love each other so much it kind of like having twin everyone think they are twins anyway I did not want it this way but I would not change it if I could now hang in there it will all work out for the best

Dear M.,

Hi. I haven't been in your situation, I just have one little 5 month old daughter...but I have friends who have and who have lovely closely spaced children as a result. I do know, however that they had to take careful care of their bodies during the second pregnancy and got plenty of rest and good nutrition. So, please, contact your OBGYN right away for prenatal counseling and get started on those prenatal vitamins! Don't let others dictate how you feel about this new life...either to stress you out or to make you feel guilty for being stressed out! You have the right to feel however you feel right now :) Do try to get some help with your little son, as you need rest just like you did when you were pregnant with him!

M.,

I was in your same situation last year around this time. It was shocking in the beginning because I work full-time and already had a 3 yr. old daughter and could not fathom adding another infant in our lives which was already so hectic. Within just a few days I realized it was God's intention to bless us with a 3rd child. Natalie is now 10 weeks old and my son Ryan is 14 months. Yes our lives our hectic and exhausting but I would not have it any other way! The more love in the house the better.

WOW! M., you must be an extraordinary woman, because that's who these things happen to, is women who can handle it! I have 2 boys 18 months apart, but that's nothing compared to 12 months apart/or so. All I can say is that I would love to be there for you to talk to, ask questions to, or to give you pregnancy, labor, or postpartum help. I am a DONA Certified Doula, and would love to help you out. Feel free to call me any time at ###-###-####! You definitely shouldn't be going through this without excellent support!

M.,

I had a five month old little girl in May and found out that I'm expecting as well. I also had a two year old (he's three now).

Initially, there's definitely the shock factor. But, after I saw my baby on the sonogram last week, it made it all better. I know there are elements that are difficult about it, but later on, they will be friends and it'll all be okay.

God doesn't make mistakes. He thought that you were such a great mommy to your little one that he wanted to bless you with another. Take care!

J.