5 Month Old and Just Found Out I Am Pregnant Again!!

My daughters are 12 months 9 days (10 during leap year :) ) apart. Finding out my 4th child was coming was a huge blow and I hate to say how scared I was.

It has been very hard for me, but now that they are 3 and 2 I can't imagine life without them. I just wanted to say I can relate :)

Good luck!

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! Seriously, you'll be just fine girlie!! Mine are 13 months apart (my 2 little ones) and when I found out I was pregnant with #3 (#2 was only 5 months at the time:)).... I CRIED like a crazy woman....called the hubby at work, he thought someone died!! It was a little rough towards the middle to end of pregnancy, with the "baby" inside AND the "baby" outside, but now they are almost 4 and almost 5, and while it's pretty much chaos most of the time, I think the worst is over! (okay, okay, so it was a bit rough at times when they were babies) It can, just like anything else in life, present challenges. But, you will survive, and your little baby boy will have a buddy to play (and fight) with. My last two are pretty close, and I really enjoy that part of it.

It'll be fine. When you hit a rough patch (and you probably will) just remember:

"THIS TOO SHALL PASS"

Good luck to ya'll, and congrats again!!!

Difficult but you will be fine. I have an 18 and 17 yr old boy/girl and a 5 and 3yr boy/girl. So basically I've done it twice. It's funny how when you have the second baby you have to relearn stuff (you would think it would be fresh in your mind). Your kids will always have someone to play with and they won't be bored. You will amaze yourself and find that you are a SUPERMOM at times. Congrats and enjoy!!

Boy, do I remember those days! It took us 8 years to conceive our first - went to infertility specialists and the whole nine yards... after he was born we didn't do any kind of birth control and our second child was born three years later -- perfect! When I went back for my 6 week check-up with #2 the doc said, "let's talk about birth control", I said, "nope... don't need it" -- he said, "you'll be back..." and he was right. When she was 6 mos. old I found out I was pregnant with #3 and I thought my world was going to just crash down all around me.

First, I felt guilty because I wasn't happy AT ALL. The entire time I was pregnant I wasn't happy about it. Second, I was embarassed because people were teasing us like crazy about being "rabbits" when they had no idea of the 8 years of fertility treatments we had been through to get our first son. Thirdly, I was TIRED! Second child (daughter) was a handful - she had been difficult from conception through the first six months of life - NOTHING was easy with her and I was so tired. Well... fast forward 9 months and the day that our third son arrived (#2 daughter was 14 1/2 months old) and I held him in my arms I just LOVED that baby boy so much and it was like all those months of unhappiness washed away when I looked in that precious baby's eyes. I KNEW that he was a special gift from God and I agree 100% with you when you say that God's timing is perfect. I've seen that will all three of my children - from the one we waited so long for - to the one we "planned" to the one that was a "surprise" -- God's timing was perfect.

Now, fast forward 6 years! Youngest son is 6, #2 daughter is 7 and oldest son is 10. It has NOT been an easy road. There have been times I didn't know how I was going to make it through the day without pulling all my hair out! haha and to this day I tell people that youngest son is the reason I now color my hair (to cover the gray!) But I wouldn't change a thing. The youngest two fight like cats and dogs at times but when they aren't fighting (which is actually most of the time) they have such a close relationship, love each other so much, take care of each other, play really well together -- it's amazing. And now that youngest has completely caught up in physical size people ask me all the time if they are twins.

It's not going to be easy - but you'll get through it -- GOD will see you through it -- and it's worth it.

Everyone else has given great advice on things "to do". I just wanted to send you some ((hugs)) and let you know that you're not alone. You'll be amazed at the number of people who have children as close together or even closer than you do and some day you'll be giving advice to someone else going through the same thing!

P.S. My little sister has three kids and her youngest two are exactly the same age apart as my youngest two. When she found out she was pregnant with her 3rd when her 2nd was just about 6 mos old she freaked out and called me -- it's been good for her to watch me "getting through it" and seeing her raise her three precious daughters has been a blessing to me as well!

Take care of yourself! Get PLENTY of rest!

Happened to me too! My kids are now 6 & 7. Well, let me start by saying...get your baby sleeping through the night ASAP! You will need your rest. Sleep as much as you can! Train him to sit in his swing and watch you do laundry or cook or what ever, that way when the next one comes and you need to set him down to entertain himself it won't be new to him. Introduce PBS and Nickolodean...I know this sounds bad, but Barney is a miracle worker when it comes to holding their attention long enough to feed the littler one or make a phone call. Start now making your husband be the older one's partner. I had three kids back to back. My husband partnered up with the oldest, my teenager with the middle and I took the newborn. Each of us was in charge of making sure the diaper bag was fully stocked so we could just pick up and go...I mean crackers, empty sippy cups, bottled water, wipes hand sanitizer etc...Mostly you need to keep a routine schedule. Structure and organization will help keep you sane. Watch an episode of Jon&Kate plus 8 and you will see that if they can handle all those babies, you certainly can handle 2! Congratulations and good luck!

First of all Congrat's. I know you must be scared of whats going to happen now with 2 little bitty babys at the same time but its really a good thing. Your babies will always have someone to play with and that will give you a couple of breaks during the day. This is the biggest bonus for you double the hugs, kisses, and love.

I am a mother of 3 and a extra mother of 2. My children are all 2-5 years apart and they refuse to play with each other, they dont have anything in common what so ever which makes it harder.

My sister and I are 11 months apart and we use to play together, had the same friends, hung out at the same places, shared everything. My sister and I still call each other everyday. So I guess growing up together created a special bond between us.

A little advice IF you want to wait alittle next time: Talk with your doctor about your opions on birth control since right after you have a baby your very fertile.

Congrat's again on your little baby's and good luck

Dear H.,
Congratulations and hold on tight! You are in for such a wonderful ride. My daughters, now 17 and 16 are twelve months and two weeks to the day apart. Niether one can remember a day without the other. They fight like mortal enemies at times, but you better not get between them. They are as different as night and day and each others best friend. My brother and I are 11 months apart and when someone asked my Mom what she did when she found out she was pregnant again while holding her two month old, she said "I cried, I didn't think that should happen to anyone". But in the long run, all was well. Take her message to me to heart, she always said, "You can't do it all and raise twins." Meaning be kind to yourself, now and after the next one is here. You will be just fine, God has a purpose in everything he does.
Best of luck,
M. T

Congrats! After trying so long to get pregnant, this is great news! Yes, God has His OWN timing. It always amazes me that people think you are bound to get pregnant while having unprotected sex. According to the Scriptures, every child is a gift of God and it is GOD who forms the child in your womb, He is the one who opens and closes the womb, and He is the giver of life. So, He chose to give you another wonderful little treasure to care for. How awesome is that?!

When my first was 5 months old I found out I was pregnant. I was terrified. The dr had told me not to get pregnant again because I have a uterine abnormality and was scheduling a tubal ligation. But, I was already pregnant so I found a new DR who had experience with women like me. As it turned out, although I had a month of bedrest and a preemie who spent 9 days in the NICU, things were great! My girls are the best of friends and I can't imagine them being farther apart in age. It's perfect!

You're still in baby mode, which makes it easier too. The parents who have time to feel like they are themselves again (no more sleepless nights, diaper changes ect) have difficulty adjusting to role of parents of a newborn again. You won't have that issue.

When my second was 6 months old I was pregnant again! this time I was happy and those three are my little princess. They are so precious to watch dancing around and playing tea party and dress up. I love it.

When my third was 13 months old I got pregnant with my fourth, and while the extra time was nice because my youngest understood better what was going on and enjoyed the new baby, it was a little harder to get into the new baby thing with an almost 2 year old.

Now my fourth is 12 months old and I wonder what God has in store or me. Honestly? I'd like to get pregnant again in August- to twin boys!

Feel free to PM me,
S., mom to four precious little girls

My children are 13 months apart. I found out I was pregnant again when I had just gone back to work at a new job and my daughter was then five months old. I was really scared. No one in my family had a happy reaction about it except for my husband who was thrilled. We just talked about it the other day and can't imagine the past two years without Clara. She is the perfect puzzle piece for our family. The two girls are extreme opposites and they play together so well! The only thing that you will have to watch out for is that since they are so young they also get into a ton of mischief together! Don't turn your back on them for one second! Congratulations!

MommaB: I cried too for a long time when I found out

God always suprises us. I always think of that saying about tell God your plan for life and hear him laugh. He is in control. What a blessing for you. WE too are trying to get pregnant and had problems with our first one. I hope we can do this natural but maybe God doesn't see its the right time. What a joy your house will be.... Congrats!!! :) You've done it once and you can do it again. My aunt did the same thing (she was 40 too!) and they two girls are about 13 months apart and they love it. Clothes get handed down faster too and they didn't have to keep all those toys so long.

Hi H.,

You are going to be fine girl. My babies are 1 yr and 8 days apart. At first it was hard, i won't lie. But it gets easier. Now they are 2 1/2 and 1 1/2 and its more like having twins than them being a yr apart. God only gives us what we can handle. He will never make your load too heavy. I would agree about doing all that you can with your 3 month old cause he'll have to grow up pretty quick when the baby comes. We transitioned Hannah to a toddler bed early, so the baby could have the baby bed. Got her off of the bottle early so she wouldn't be stealing his. They are best friends already. They will not take a bath, or go to bed without each other. It is so sweet. They are always gonna have that special connection which I think is awesome.

My advice, hold on tight, the party is about to get started!! LOL :)! But you will be fine. If you ever need anything, let me know!

D. Mattern-Muck
The MOM Team
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Congrats H.! All you need to do is gets lots of sleep and show your 5month old lots of attention. I got pregnant with my second child when my baby was 8 weeks old. They are 11 months apart. Yeah, they have the same age for a whole month. But they are so close to each other I wouldn't have it any other way. Good luck and enjoy every moment!

Hello !! We are 2 H.'s going through the SAME thing right now!!! lol My baby girl is almost 8 months old and I got pregnant again in January when she was 5 months old!! OH MAN was I scared to death! I still am. My hubby is fine with it and always jokes about wanting a boy this time. I can't tell you how many times I look at my baby and think HOW IN THE WORLD am I going to do this?! All I really could trust is that God has the plans and I just need to follow. WHEW that is making it easier. I am here for ya if you need anyone to talk to. My sister in law and cousin in law went through this and they said it worked out MUCH better (the kids being close together like that) because they will entertain each other and be best friends and NOT fight as much as kids that are a couple years apart. OH please let it be true! lol anyway I just thought it was awesome to find someone else that was thinking exactly what i was! email me if you want to .. im sure there's a LOT to talk about!
H. in Katy, tx