I Hate Being Pregnant. There. I Said It.

I.HATED.BEING.PREGNANT. I'm never being pregnant again, ever ever ever. It's seriously my biggest fear in life. Even more then sharks. (Too much jaws as a kid.)

Ever damn moment of it, till they pulled him out. For me, it never got better. I was dreadfully (scary) sick the entire time. I had to take medication to drink water. I was puking on the c-section table. For MOST women, the second trimester, is sort of the spring of the pregnancy. They feel new and lovely. I hope you get that magical 2nd trimester energy and loveliness.

I hated being pregnant, but was worse was that I had NO reason to hate it.

I wasn't nauseous/never threw up
My boobs got bigger but only to a reasonable sexy size (Versus my normal small nothings) and they weren't at all tender
I had to pee more than often but that's really not all that horrible
My weight went from 115lbs to 105lbs within the first trimester (From cutting pop out of my diet) and was only 135lbs by the time I delivered (And then was back down to 120lbs when I left the hospital 2 days later)

My point is, I had a VERY easy pregnancy and my labor/delivery was super easy as well.

Why did I hate it?

BECAUSE IT TOOK 40 WEEKS!!! And I'm pretty much the most impatient person on the planet.

I hated it too.

I puked all 3x from about the 2month mark up until I delivered them all...seriously, I puked in the labor room with all 3 kids. I was supremely miserable the WHOLE DAMN TIME!

Love. Love. Love my big loud family I got out of it though!

Congrats woman!

Ephie,
After having experienced pregnancy I'm amazed that we humans are not on the brink of extinction!
Take care of yourself and send your husband out to get those black bean noodles and donuts!

When anyone asks what do you want for Christmas... Tell them, black bean noodles and donuts...

If I were your friend, I would kidnap you for an afternoon and drive you there myself.

Get some rest, ask for help... And ask for what you want and need. You deserve to be cared for...

there were 49 answers when I found this post. Man, doesn't that say something about you, Ephie? We LOVE you! You are one of the best role models we have here on Mamapedia.

It is 1:30am here in mid-MO. We just pulled off the road....been gone all day. I'm staying up to let the dogs have some companionship. Soooo, I sat down at my computer & was uber-excited to read your post!

It's a.o.k. not to enjoy pregnancy. It's a.o.k. to feel like a mud blob from the pig sty. Because while you're feeling like this, the rest of us are overjoyed with your Blessed news. & it is a Blessing. You have your daughter, you have your niece, & now you've been Blessed with Boom-Boom! &....what?....by summertime, you will be holding an AngelBaby!

For me, reading about your pregnancy is like receiving the Best Christmas Gift......thank you for giving me this Joy!

I love your writings Ephie... and it seems pregnancy has inspired you.
I hope to hear more as your little Boom-Boom continues to mutate.

Oh man, I HATED being pregnant. I thought it was going to be all romantic and exciting and like the movies show, with me being radiant and all of that. Instead, I was morning sick all the time, threw up every day, had to stick a slice of orange in my mouth at work to keep from barfing on my desk and couldn't walk into ANY kitchen or look at food even on the TV without wretching. My husband would bring dinner into the living room (no going in the kitchen) and I would stab it with a fork while looking AWAY from the food to keep from puking in my plate. Once I started eating, I was kind of okay, but could only eat a little. We learned in my 4th month that I got car sick, so I couldn't eat and then get in the car, or I'd lose my dinner.

Ephie, I didn't know how terrible I actually felt until I ended up on bedrest and I wasn't working anymore. That was with my first pregnancy. No sex, no caffeine of any sort, even chocolate, I could finally eat after the 5th month, but laying in bed and eating made me gain a bunch of weight. My second pregnancy, I made it through without going to bed, but couldn't eat much the whole time. I gained a bunch of water weight and was lucky to escape pre-eclampsia.

So yes, I hated being pregnant with a passion. Between the waddling at only 4 months and my hips hurting so much, and all the rest, I was DONE at two kids.

The only thing that kept me going was keeping my eye on the prize. You do that too, Ephie. Eye on the prize. Like getting all your ducks in a row for a big final exam. Just remember that when you want to scream at everyone. The not getting upset with your family can be equated with quizzes, and eating all the right foods (and not the donuts) can be like papers you have to turn in.

Feel for you, dear friend!!

Hugs!
Dawn

Well I got Acupuncture (per my Doc's suggestion) with both my pregnancies because I had UBER bad morning sickness, plus migraines. Daily. 24/7.
Oh and my Asthma acted up with my 2nd pregnancy. Not fun. I could not breathe at times.

ETA: with my daughter, she'd be kicking me a whole lot, boy was she active in my tummy. I had such a hard time sleeping. Thankfully she is not a hyper person now. Just a typical girl.

Then, my stomach was HUGE. And people would CONSTANTLY (even strangers) ask me if I had multiples in my tummy. No. Just one and thanks for telling me I am HUGE in my stomach region. Then even strangers would want to touch my tummy. Ick! Then after I had my kids, I got Diastasis Recti. Great. Lucky me. Then, I had to explain... to Hubby, WHY my tummy didn't just shrink down after I had my kids, like other women. And even though I had 6-pack Abs before I was pregnant. Uh gee Honey, well my abdominal muscles SPLIT in the middle... and NOTHING will put it back together. HENCE my stomach bulges out even if there is no baby in there anymore.
And while pregnant and HUGE in belly... well, I was like a super fat Duck waddling around and I had body aches like a 90 year old. Oh but gee, does anyone help me with the household chores? NO!

Oh but gosh, love my kids. So cute when they were born. By C-section! One being an emergency.

Anyway, can't imagine life without my 2 kids.
They are 6 and 10 now.

Well I loved being pregnant,....I hated giving birth. but this was funny and gave me a laugh. I have to say I was a biatch while pregnant .... so they say. I thought I was fine. I also had boobs the size of basketballs and peed every 4 min. I craved vodka, never drank it .... just really wanted it. I also could not stand the smell of coffee, meat cooking, tuna fish or the sound of my husband breathing. MMMMMMM maybe I did not like being pregnant after all. hee hee

Ok to answer your question did it get easier......no.

Awwww...I won't offer you any advice because my pregnancies are so easy that I'm literally a paid professional (gestational carrier). But...just had to say Congrats! Muscle through it girl, you're an awesome mom and it'll be worth it in the end. Treat yourself to warm baths (I used to soak in a eucalyptus bath while pregnant with the twins...that was heaven! I got the salts at CVS), acupuncture can work wonders on the nausea, and massage is nice too. I wish you a truly healthy, happy pregnancy.

Oh, honey.
You'll be fine and it's okay to hate everything right now.

My sister hated being pregnant so much that she swore she would never do it again. She never did. Her only child is 21 now and she never had pangs to put herself through pregnancy again. She didn't have morning sickness, she didn't have weird cravings, she didn't have any complications, she didn't gain a ton of weight she had to worry about losing.
She simply did not embrace the pregnancy thing.

She's a good mother. She loves her kid like crazy, but even while she was pregnant, she made it clear she would never do it again. She really hated it.
I'm not sure why, but that's how she felt. My daughter has a 17 month old and she doesn't want another kid. It's not the baby, it's the pregnancy thing.

So.....don't beat yourself up for feeling how you feel.
If I was closer, I would bring you whatever you want. I would make you some good matzoh ball soup because I truly believe it can heal whatever ails you.

A beautiful and healthy baby will make all of this go away once he or she is here.

Just keep your eye on the prize.

Love ya!

I DESPISED being pregnant. That's why I had 3 kids in 3 years; to get it over with.

No reason for me to hate being pregnant; never got sick, no nausea, gained normal weight, pushed them out in a couple hours (last kid was 40 minutes). I just plain old hated being pregnant.

Wish I found that solution of overcoming the hate of pregnancy. You may just want to volunteer yourself to the pig farmer.

Congrats and best wishes

Im with you! I did not have a glow....I was a hot mess! There is nothing fun about puking and feeling like you have a hangover day after day. That's is the reason I have 2 kids and they are 10.5 years apart! I shall never go down that road again! Your not alone....

first two I LOVED IT.. the attention. I didnt have the swinging hormones, and I was a Watercolor, Rainbow laughs and butterfly farts pregnant woman for them.
The third, my son. I HATED every living, breathing, second of it. Pain, misery, hormones, anger, sickness, headaches, bone breaking pain. It was 9 months of pure-agonizing hell. He will probably be my last. I dont think I could ever do it again with what I went through with him. I love kids, I thought I could go on and have 10 more with they way the first two went, but number three left me shell shocked with PTSD of being pregnant.

I had a scare last month where I was certain I was pregnant again. I bawled for days. Not cause of anything mood related, I just bawled cause I didnt want to have to go 9 months through it again.

Me too, loved being a mom, hated being pregnant. I could never figure out what there was to like about being pregnant. OK, the baby kicking is pretty cool. But gaining 50 pounds, feeling sick, being unable to roll over in bed and having your belly button pop out, well it's just no fun at all. It never got easier for me. At least it only lasts 9 months...

BTW Ephie... Congratulation on the new boom boom!

I can take or leave being pregnant. What I really hate , is the 6 to 8 weeks , afterwards. The recovering from a section ( not horrible but not great , either), constant bleeding & pads, huge & leaky boobs, unpredictable nursing baby, & night sweats. I'm sure I'm leaving some things out. I will remember soon enough. I will be going through it again, soon enough.

I am with you. I truly HATE being pregnant. I like the end result, but the process sucks out loud.

I throw up more or less from about five weeks until the day I deliver. Add to that the heartburn, all-consuming hunger, ligament pain, mood swings, exhaustion and unsettling ability to smell what people are eating in the next county, and I am a cranky mess.

We have two kids, and my hatred of pregnancy is one of the main reasons we don't and won't ever have three.

It isn't forever, and the payoff is pretty great, but I wish I could just mail order a baby :-)

Take care of yourself and don't feel bad about not enjoying pregnancy, just do the best you can, then go take a nap.

I loved being pregnant, but if you want to read a funny blog post about someone who hates being pregnant, I would like to direct you to pamie.com. This is the one about all the issues she's having, but there's a couple more if you're interested. http://pamie.com/2012/11/every-day-is-a-miracle-of-scienc...

Sorry I loved it.

But hey relax and work it girl, tomorrow tell hubs to strap the kids in the car and take them to get the noodles and donuts. Then you go do what you need to do. Go shopping for new bras and a good pair of shoes so your back doesn't hurt so much. Then tell hubs you need a foot massage and a back rub. Or just take a nap.

Congrats and welcome Boom-Boom. {I love the name. :-))}

I hated it too. For me the attention was the worst part, so the bigger I got the worse it was, and I got HUGE. Like at least 3-4x per week someone would either ask me if I was overdue or if I was having twins. Also people try to touch you, which I hate, and when I would tell them not to do it, they get all offended. I had PIPPPS, or whatever you call that awful pregnancy rash so the last thing I wanted was people rubbing me when I was all rashy and itchy.

Then people want to ask you the same idiotic questions over and over, when are you due, what are you having, what are you naming it, blah blah blah. Why do they care when they dont even know you? With my dd I didnt have an exact due date, since I didnt know my last period day, so.they had given me a few different dates all at the beginning of July. I had some lady I barely know throw a fit because I wouldnt tell her my exact due date.

Yeah, the more I think about it, the more I remember how much I hated being pregnant, lol.

Yeah sister.
I puke all through my two pregnancies,had a twisted pelvis and a constant pain down my left leg and foot .

Sending love and strength to you

x B. k

Hey Ephie, first of all, CONGRATULATIONS!

Secondly, I hated being pregnant, too. REALLY, REALLY hated it. When I found out I was pregnant with my third, I sobbed. Not because I didn't want another child, but because I'd already been pregnant twice, it had totally sucked twice and the thought of going through it again was torture.

But I have three awesome kids, so, of course, it was all worth it.

We were at a party last night. There were 7 month old twins there. I spent a good 20 minutes carrying one of them and enjoying every second of it. For a split second, I though, "hey, I could do this again!". Then my brain kicked in and I was over it. The thought of going through pregnancy again is...well...I don't even want to think about it.

So, you are NOT the only one. I am a fairly calm, reasonably rational woman who is content with life and generally healthy, I consider myself a good wife, mother and friend...and I will stand up and say "I HATED BEING PREGNANT!"

So I wanted to offer my congratulations, my dear. I have a theory if you'd care to read it.

It's that the birth and subsequent caring of Boom-Boom will be easy peasy since you are having an uncomfortable time carrying her.

So, play the pregnant card all you want. Fly off the handle, get crazy, mope, shout, get as frazzled as you want. You have permission.

I do hope it gets better for you though.
Congratulations!!!!

I adore my daughter, but I hated every minute of being pregnant. I didn't have a particularly difficult pregnancy, I just hated morning sickness (which I had all day long), peeing every five minutes, the backache, the sore breasts, the hemmorhoids, the exhaustion, the acne, the mood swings - all the things that go along with a normal pregnancy.

((HUG)). It may not be PC to admit it in "mom world," but I wasn't crazy about being pregnant, either, at least not during the first trimester. Why do they call it morning sickness when it lasts all day?

For me it got better once I got past feeling pukey all the time (at about 14 weeks the first time, 18 weeks the second).

As for hints on how to stay sane, one of the best things I ever did for myself and my family during my second pregnancy was to hire a college kid to come in a few hours a day several days a week so that someone would be with my toddler so I could take naps. Seriously - I hired a sitter so I could sleep. Or lay on the couch trying not to puke. Or take a shower without my 2 y.o. Or take a walk without the 2 y.o. If your budget will allow it, I highly recommend hiring some part-time help.

I hated parts of pregnancy. For me, the nausea in the first few months was the absolute worst. I had a hard time functioning and it lasted all day long. My 2nd pregnancy was harder on me because I was running around after a toddler - my kids are exactly 2 years apart. I just didn't get the same luxury of resting like I did with the 1st one. That is one reason why I don't have a 3rd. I cannot imagine being pregnant and running after 2. Now that my youngest is almost 5, I REALLY cannot see doing it again.

I hate it 5 out of six pregnancies, the first one wasn't to bad, it is not always a nice experience!

I am sick beyond sick, loose on average 20 pounds, I have it to spare. food is my enemy. My house falls down around me, cause I am to sick to care. I'm tired beyond tired, and the list can go on and on.

the good news? the baby at the end. Once that happens, nothing else mattered.

I hated being pregnant too! BUT, it was worth it in the end and I have 3 beautiful healthy children to show for my 30 months of hell! So, would I do it again....you betcha!

I didn't hate pregnancy, but you are certainly not alone in not enjoying the extra fun. At the beginning, I fell asleep on the couch early in the night. At the end, I was up all night with heartburn. I hope you are one of those that has a great 2nd trimester and a lot of the symptoms get easier. If it helps, ask for a foot rub, or eat ginger candy, or buy stock in tums. Ask someone else to please bring you noodles. Take naps. Say, "My back really hurts and I'm having a tough time right now." Sometimes it helps just to make it known what is specifically bothering you. "I have a cold and can't take anything for it. I'm just going to eat dinner alone tonight."

You are not alone!! I hated it too. Physically, that is. I felt sick all of the time and just so dang uncomfortable. It was always so irritating to learn of how much some people just 'loved' being pregnant. The good thing is it does not last forever and there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
I wish I had some advice for you. Maybe the watercolor rainbow mamas can chime in :-)

While I enjoyed feeling my child grow, I couldn't wait until my due date. I didn't like the TIME, but the feeling brought me joy.

I have a really rough time during the first trimester. I too turn into a wicked beast. With this third pregnancy, I spoiled myself. We did a lot of take out. I put the kids in front of the TV every afternoon and took a nap! It took some of the edge off....But mostly, I just reminded myself how momentary it all was, and how I would feel better in just a few more weeks/months.

I also took myself off to bed extra early, and just tried to make sure I got lots of sleep. And yes, I dragged myself out of bed every morning and exercised. The exercise helped with the terrible mood, so if you aren't watching your sleep and your exercise, I recommend making a big effort to take care of yourself.

One last thing, when you are feeling grumpy, two things I do that help me: (1) remember that you decided to do this, that it's something you want, and (2) that there are only bad moments, not days.

I felt physically awful and emotionally extremely depressed when I was pregnant with my 2nd. So weird, because I had really wanted to get pregnant. Fortunately, once the second trimester started I felt normal again and the rest of the pregnancy was very easy. Hang in there...I think maybe surging hormones can make the first trimester really difficult sometimes.

I will say this I loved being pregnant however with my son I gained close 100 pounds and had gestational diabetes. I had to give myself insulin injections daily at least six or so. I had a severe needle fear back then and I cried and bawled my eyes out every single time I did it. I went into premature labor that had to be given drugs to stop it(sorry I forget what it's all called now)and eventually I did give birth early w/o drugs.

Years later I've still never lost all the weight but life is what it is ya know?

I wish you the best delivery and healthy baby possible.

Your feelings will change quite soon-best of luck!

I puked 3-4 times per day for 8 1/2 months. I swelled so much that I couldn't wear any form of shoes to work.

I hated being pregnant too but the thoughts of the baby that I would one day hold in my arms made the suffering I was going through all worth it.

But I hated being pregnant too.

Well said , Ephie. I disliked it as well. I was horrendous, gigantic, and had the most god-awful heartburn of my life.

As I am a peaceful and optimistic person by nature, it really wasn't the best time of my life. My husband and SIL( who lived with us at the time) made up a board of what they titled "Rae-isms" In it were quotes I made when I was pregnant. It kept things amusing. The f word most notably was used, but I came up with all kinds of phrases. It honestly made me laugh and got me out of the moods. They always tried to see what else I would come up with..

As you are wonderful with words, I thought this might help you out too :)

The first time was fun for me because it was all new. The second time was not so hot. I felt the same, but it was a necessary evil to get the job done. I hear ya. Remember, it's temporary and your long term memory of it will probably be better than the reality. Plus, if it's really bad you get to guilt-trip Boom-Boom later about it :)

ok i admit i had a super easy pregnancy. and if it hadn't been for the things you mentioned (fear, uncertainty, instability) i probably would have been on cloud #9.

but you have to give yourself a break. all women's bodies do not respond to pregnancy the same. it really isn't your attitude. you're miserable, physically. i didn't have that. your back hurts, your boobs hurt, your emotional and you can't eat. of COURSE you're a mess!!!

don't be so hard on yourself ephie. it's not how "tough" you are or how "good" you are at being pregnant, or even whether you like it or not - it's really just that your body is treating you like dirt right now! that does not happen to every woman. i would be a nightmare to live with if i was going through what you are!! hang in there dear!

Wow someone else who isn't a "watercolor rainbow" pregnant person.

I think the first time it was new...and although I was miserable physically and a mental emotional mess...I assumed it was becasue I had recently lost my mom and working full time. Oh the days weeks and on and on of nausea...I didn't puke either...

On to round two...I was stable, no close emotional loss...a two year old to chase...and still miserable...

So I am with you girl...the end result is good...but the process is not enjoyable for me either...HUGS!!!

I hate it as much as you do. I decided to not have another because I can't stand pregnancy. Granted, we have a nice, big family.

There will be no 6th child. I could not take it. I love my family and would raise 10 kids.

But I cannot STAND being pregnant, plus trying to care for the others.

I hated being pregnant too. Mine weren't even that bad and I just hated it. Mostly, I hated how being pregnant gave everyone free reign (or so they though) to talk about how huge I was getting. As if I needed the reminders. I hated my clothes, I hated the constant, mild nausea, feeling like I had no control over my body and questioning everything I ate, drank, etc.

I have two kids and I hated it both times. I can't imagine doing it again.

Congrats on your pregnancy, but oh i feel your pain!! I hate being pregnant this time!! I'm 19 weeks and most of the yucky symptoms are gone with the exception of the heartburn, that one is sticking around til the end i think. The nauseous feeling went away around 13 weeks.

If I'd known what I was in for I probably would've thought twice! But I'm glad I didn't because I'm so excited to be getting my baby boy:) I have 2 girls and both were a breeze compared to this. Silly me thought it would be the same, not so.

I too felt exhausted, (still do more often than not) felt nauseous all the time but never puked either, i had a disgusting sour metallic-like taste in my mouth that would happen randomly after i ate anything (thank God i think it's subsiding), had headaches from the third to the fourth month, and oh yes it's still fresh in my mind how I wanted to eat everything but it all sounded so gross and after I ate it I never wanted to touch it again.

Don't even get me started on the heartburn from hell. I forgot what it was like to eat whatever I wanted and not worry about it burning up my chest and throat. Yuck. I still get backaches and have excess saliva or my mouth is too dry. I have gas that smells so bad it rivals a sewage plant. Gross. Ughh can't wait to feel normal again:( seriously sometimes sleepless nights sound like cake compared to this!!

oh honey. i didn't hate being pregnant, though those first three months of 'morning' sickness that kept me sick 24 hrs a day were awful. then it was a joy up until 7th month when i just couldn't move. pregnant with twins, underweight to begin with, i couldn't carry that weight. so i loved that i was pregnant, except the 'side effects' of pregnancy, i wasn't thrilled about those.

Part one, give into your food cravings. Make your husband go get your foods if you really aren't up to going.

Speaking of food, are you by chance talking about Chajangmyun? Korean dish, meat and veggies in black bean sauce, served over usually buckwheat noodles(or white noodles in cheaper restaurants)?

Nong Shim makes a quick serve one called(I think for the English speaking folks benefit) Chapaghetti, and I tell you it was a lifesaver because I didn't have to make it myself. I have seen it at Meijers and Walmart before.

If you are of the cooking and such type, Here:

Chajangmyun

2 cups black bean paste
2 Tbsp minced garlic
2 Tbsp sesame oil
1 Tbsp sugar
6 cups water
4 medium potatoes, peeled and diced
3 carrots, peeled and diced
2 medium onions, diced
2 cups diced Kalbi or bulgoki(Korean marinated beef). Some use diced pork, so it's all in what you like.
4 Tbsp cornstarch
1/2 cup cold water
3 lbs flat, thick noodles I have access to the Korean Market in Chicago, which I visit several times a year to stock up, but if I can't get there, I cheat and use grocery store soba noodles(I've even been so desperate once to use linguine noodles!). Any good Asian market will also have the black bean paste for making Chajang(some spell it jajang)
In a large oiled skillet or wok, saute pork and potatoes for 2-3 minutes.
Add onion and continue to saute for 2-3 minutes.
Add bean paste, sesame oil, sugar, and garlic to the pan, stirring to combine.
Saute for 3-4 minutes.
Add 6 cups of water and the carrots and bring to a boil.
Reduce to simmer.
Mix cornstarch with 1/2 cup cold water and pour into sauce to thicken.
Cook for 15 minutes, or until vegetables are tender.
Prepare noodles according to package directions.
Place a large helping of noodles in a big soup bowl. Ladle the Chajang sauce over the noodles (myun).
Some folks like it a bit sour, so I leave a bottle of rice vinegar on the table for them to splash on their noodles before adding the sauce. I have a problem with raw onions, so I also don't serve them on the side as some do.

I was not a happy rainbow Mama(as strangers wouldn't quit touching my @!#$%^& belly like it was a melon!), and often, folks saw me coming(saying I was positively radiant), and ran for their very lives. I am normally a touchy feely type, but not with my belly. I did a lot of pregnancy safe yoga, lots of walking, ate and drank lots veggies and juice, and told people to @#$% off! whenever possible. It was about the only time I indulged in not being a doormat and giving every @#$%^ that deserved it a piece of my mind. I've since grown out of doormat phase(since the ex took a stroll with everything useful, and left me to fend for myself, but that's for another time), but I remember fondly the joy in being myself for once. I looked like Mama Cass Elliot and Margaret Cho had a love child.

Just be yourself. Try not to stress, and have family help. It will all be over before you know it.

Hugs to you Mama!

Every pregnancy is different.
I've known women who were feeling great the whole 9 months the first time around only to be sick as dogs the second time.
But I've also heard of one woman who was so horrible while pregnant she'd regularly cut into everyone around her and make people (her husband, too) cry.
(I guess she figured if she was going to feel miserable she was going to take everyone with her and make them feel miserable too.)
Be open to the possibility that history might not repeat itself.
I only have one son - and I loved being pregnant - I was very fortunate in that mine was not difficult - no nausea at all.
Sure there were times I was exhausted - some days it seemed like all I did was eat, pee and sleep (I worked 40 hours a week, but it went by in a blur).
I learned to keep snacks on hand to keep my blood sugar level from dipping too low.
I could go from fine to H-U-N-G-R-Y! (don't get between a pregnant woman and the food) in no time flat - and my temper got short when this happened.
I suppose the biggest problem for me was hot feet.
They didn't swell till the last month, but my feet feeling hot made it very difficult to sleep sometimes.
I actually put ice packs and damp frozen washcloths on them to help cool them off.
Keep a journal - you'll love reading it later on.
This time next year, you'll be celebrating baby's first Christmas!