I Feel like I Have No Relationship Anymore with My Daughter

The best thing you can do is refocus on something else and don't try too hard with them.

I remember being your daughter's age and I was the same way. I wanted NOTHING to do with my Mom. It took some time, but when I was about 22 my Mom and I became the best of friends. Especially if this is a serious relationship for her, she is embarking on very new feelings she has perhaps never had before and she may be doing things that she probably knows you might not approve of. It was hard for me to be close to my Mom or look her in the eye when I was in my first love/sexual relationship at a relatively young age.

Just keep your ears and door open to her and she will come back to you!

Hi L.!
Ditto to what Lori has said in her response!:) When I was 19, I only visited my parents if there was something I needed. But when I became more serious with a boyfriend and actually talking marriage, then I began confiding in them and asking them for advice. Make sure you keep the line of communication open with her, occasionally go out to lunch together, just continue to let her know you are there for her. Maybe invite the two of them for a night out...pizza and a movie?
Hope this helps!!! ANG

it wasn't long ago that i was 19. and so i say this from your daughters perspective. currently he is the world to her and i am sure that they are "in love" for now and i am afraid you may not get your little girl back (the one who would talk to you and share everything with you) for a while she is still exploring her new found freedom. when something important happens you'll be the first to know if they break up or get engaged something along those lines and thats when you'll finally get her back. the best thing to do is try and get at least a day or 2 a week where its just the 2 of you and go shopping or something but just wait it out.

She is 19....I too like everyone else in this world was 19 once. This is a new stage in her life. You are honestly the most important person in her life. She can always depend on your support, guidance, friendship, and love. Love is a very important emotion, and she is figuring out how it is a part of her life. You have supported her, and she will always come to you when she has no one else. Her boyfriend probably feels your tension, and is confused as much as you are. This is a new realationship for everyone involved, and truly it is everyone. You have taught her to be a strong woman, and to work hard at a relationship. You have taught her to work hard at her successes, and to choose her goals carefully. She can only do these things if you step back....She will come forward to you when she needs you.

I remember being this way with my parents. Wasn't until I was around 22-23 that I took an interest in what my parents were doing, although some kids are different. I have 3 younger sisters and some did this and some didn't at all.
I think it is all part of the "breaking away" phase

Sit them both down and tell them how you feel. Build a relationship with both of them. P.S. I think they call this the teenage years!