I Feel like a Bad Mom Today.

Vodka? Chocolate?

Seriously, try to keep it in perspective.

Your 5 year old is getting independent, and starting to have a mind of her own and her own personality, likes and dislikes--you must have done something right, yes?

Lots of kids poop WAY after the pee-mastering part. TRY to be patient. Sounds like he's doing awesome for two!

And kids get sick. :(

Again--perspective. It's not like you beat them with a belt or something truly heinous like that!

Ease up on yourself.
Being a mom is the hardest (and often the most thankless) job on the planet.

Now.....where's that chocolate? :)

Sounds like a bit of burn out, and gee, I wonder why?

You sound like super mom to me!

I would put 2 year old in pull ups and give the pooping in potty an break, at least it'll the baby is better.

The 5 year old needs to be ignored and sent to her room, EVERY time show throws a fit or does not use her"regular voice". Do not give in. never give her what she is demanding when she acts like this.

This weekend, have your husband spend the whole day with the kids on his own. You go and take a day off, even if it means, borrowing a guest room at a friends home or renting a cheap hotel.

Take a bath, order take out and watch tv all by yourself. Or schedule a date night. Get a sitter and go and have a grown up meal, maybe a movie.

I usually put the kids down a bit early, get something yummy from the kitchen and curl up with something like 'Say Yes to the Dress' on Netflix that requires absolutely no thought whatsoever. Tomorrow is a new day!!! Hang in there :D

I get a cup of coffee and take a short breather or I shut myself in the bathroom for a couple of minutes (too long and a 2 yr old can make a disaster).

If the 5 yr old is snotty, then tell her she can go to her room if she is going to react like that or remind her that she needs to use words and/or if she slams doors, she can go to time out. It is SO hard to do but sometimes it really does help to count to 10 and stay calm and not give in to the urge to scream back.

If the 2 yr old is not ready for potty training, then take a break. I do not believe that you are a bad mom nor do I think that all 2s are ready for complete potty training. Pull ups or diapers. You have a lot on your plate. My DD's pediatrician didn't bat an eye at her 3 yr visit when I said we were trying to train her but she wasn't there yet. Less than 6 months later, I can take DD on road trips in underpants.

Baby's first cold, no matter how many babies you've had, can be wearing. Just do the best you can. Hang in there. You are NOT a bad mom. You're a good mom with a bad day.

Sounds like you're an overwhelmed parent who dearly needs a break! Any chance you might get moment to take a bath/walk/anything, alone, any time soon?

I feel for you, this sounds like quite a handful. It will get better and you will feel different soon. My sister once said, parenting is more of a long distance run than a sprint, so focus on the good points of the journey and let go of the harder ones. They do pass.

Well there is not much you can do about the 3 month old being sick or the 5 year old having an attitude problem. These things are just facts to deal with. If you think 5 is bad...well buckle up, it's going to be a bumpy ride.

But about the boy....put him in pull-ups for Pete's sake. A kid having poos in his pants is simply not trained and you are making it harder on yourself because of some faulty premise that putting him in pull-ups would cause him to not be trained. He's not trained now. There is no reason to push it. It'll happen for real in time.

Well, you are not a rotten parent....first of all.
When I feel like I just can't take another rolling of the eyes, stomp up the stairs, child screaming at my leg I do a variety of things. I eat. (which may explain my weight! lol) I scream right along with them. I get downright mean. (did you just roll your eyes at me??? God is not going to help you! Go downstairs and PICK UP YOUR CLOTHES!!!) I call my husband and tell him that I am about to sell my child to the first person that gets him, I don't care how much they pay me (LOL!). I get down on the floor with them and play.(if I haven't been able to give them the attention that they need because I am trying to do dishes, laundry, make dinner)
Phew. When the husband gets home, take a shower and then leave for a little bit. The library has become my refuge. I will go there for a half hour or so and pick out some books, get on the internet, sit in my car and talk with my girlfriend. Anything that doesn't include kids.
L.

We are living (sort of) parallel lives!
I had a "fight" with my 5-yr old daughter just this morning. When I dropped her off at school I said "I love you" and she said "I don't believe you" and walked away. Broke my heart.
My 3-yr old daughter won't even pee on the potty consistently!!
I don't have a sick 3-month old (God bless you), but I feel your pain.
I think you did the right thing by reaching out here when you felt like a "rotten parent." I was about to do the same thing! This mommy thing can be really difficult, and we need to have each other's backs. Sending you lots of love and support!! You are not rotten! :-)

My son went through a door slamming - actually, since he is 15 now, he has been through several door slamming phases. My solution - threaten to take the door of its hinges. No bedroom door, no slamming. Anyhoo, since I had once taken all the interior door knobs off, after he locked my out of the playroom when he was 4, he understands that I was serious and the door slamming stopped.

At 5, your daughter is developing her reactions to frustration - you need to correct the unacceptable behavior and teach her a reasonable verbal response and appropriate outlet. It takes time and patience, but she will get it.

Let the two old take a break from potty training - he might not be ready yet. It is okay, he will get it also when he is ready. Mine got the pee thing fairly easy, but would literally get his own pull up on to poop. Drove me crazy - until I just let it go - he knew how to poop on the potty - and he did when he was ready.

Give the baby a kiss from me - poor little one to be sick.

When I feel like a rotten parent, I stop and look around and count my blessings. I have been able to provide a nice home, food, clothing, stability, and a moral compass to my son. I remind myself that while I love him unabashedly, that my job is to raise him into a responsible adult. If he is not happy with my decisions, it is okay, because I have 30 years more life experience than him and I really do know better.

Take a deep breathe.
You are good parent.

Oh honey. Take it easy on yourself. I like what Jen B said.
Like the song says "My momma said there'd be days like these."
Everything you & your kids are going through are normal.
Give yourself a break:
-Rest when you can since you have a 3 month old.
-Your 2 year old.....it's okay. They pee better than going poop on the toilet. Especially boys. I have a just turned 3 yr old that is awesome (most of the time) peeing in the toilet. Pooping? Whole other issue. Most girls
pass these milestones quicker than boys.
-How about diapers for your 2 yr old? He won't regress because he's obviously not "pooping" in the toilet.
-Your daughter might just be going through a delayed stage of "terrible two's" or adjusting to new baby or just feeling like she needs more of your time/attention. It's all o-kay and all normal.
-Take anyone's help that will offer.
-Rest as much as you can whenever you can. With 3 little ones @ different stages, you need all the rest you can get, all the help you can get
-Hopefully you are leeting somethings fall by the wayside as necessary at this time: some household duties, anything extra etc.
You are not a rotten parent. You are stretched thin.
You need help and/or need to let some things go by the wayside so you can relax, come from a calmer place as a parent etc.

So sorry -- that would be overwhelming to just about any of us. I think the two-year-old may just not be ready for complete potty training. Both of the older two are probably still trying to adjust to having a new baby in the house. I agree with the others about finding a way to get a break and some time to yourself.

You need to get those kids to grandma or daddy and relax! We are super moms and we forget we are just human too ( although amazing ) and need a break too! Get you a warm bath and get your nails done, feet massage or anything like that you enjoy. With a clear and rested mind its easier to deal with poop! O yes girl! My daughter will be 5 next month and she is a hot mess! Attitude all over the place, smart mouth and she thinks she needs noones help and we all know she does! I just entertain her. Fine, do it yourself and if you need help let me know. She almost always asks for help. I still do time out. If she gets too big in the britches she can go sit in her room and be quiet until she chills out. Terrible 2s my butt! I guess I really don't have any constructive advice but im sending you big hugs!!

Sneak chocolate. ;)

You are not a bad mom. I have 3 kids as you do close in age to yours. Heres what I think is going on....
Your oldest is bored, has more responsibilty and is pissy about it.
Your middle child is a boy, they are a pain in the butt to potty train, poop always takes awhile. I know its hard to be patient with that, but it will come together.
Your 3 month old is sick and that makes everything else thats going on around you even harder.
I get it! Its tough, and some days you will feel like pulling your hair out, or locking them in a room so you can take a nap, or not have to hear them. (I"ve never done this btw)
You are stronger than you think, you can do this!! You're def not alone!

Just shake it off. As much as we'd all like to be better than we are, there are just times we're "human". First chance you get go have some "me" time and recharge your batteries. Remember, "tomorrow is a new day".

go to the car and scream?... i would take a shower and cry.
your doing a great job. when oldest child acts up put her in her room until she is ready to listen. hang in there with your son. try to pattern when he goes poop (after lunch etc). as for baby i know that can be hard. just give lots of love ;) hang in there and breathe. have a glass of wine at the end of the day.

my 4 year old (5 in march) is that way. i make her sit in her room until she and i am calm. then we have a talk and she appologizes.

Smile! yup my three boys are grown. I know these things seem overwhelming right now, yes I was there. Right now I would love to go back and get one of those big hugs or kisses from my boys. Try to focus on the good, and say to yourself,repeatedly if necessary, lol , by next fall this pooping stuff will be history. So love that little pooper up, think of something the kids love to do and then go do that. Make an indoor pup tent with blankets, pack p&b sandwiches and eat in the tent. Read a good story or better yet make up a good story. I used to tell mine a made up story about the backwards boys who got up everynight and ate breakfast and went to bed in the morning. I reversed the letters on their names from Randy and Nicholas to Nandy and Richolas who had a dog dashow instead of shadow. They loved it and still remember. You are making memories that will last a lifetime. It will pick up your spirits and theres ' as well. Wish I was there to give you a break.