I have a beautiful daugheter who will be 2 in March. My son will be 3 months tommorow. I upon a hunch and missed period for a week (though hoping it was just something irregular) took a pregnancy test today and it was positive. I am embarassed that I've just returned to work from maternity leave and I am pregnant again. I am embarassed of what people are going to say. ( I already know this is crazy!! I was done with 2, God had other plans for me) I am afraid of what our family is going to say! I am afraid of missing out on each of their precious moments being preoccupied with another. A pregnancy test in marriage should make you happy and I am in tears. (I am sure it is hormonal) But I need advice and understanding from other mothers going through this or who have gone through this. I am going to have 3 kids under 3. Is there any support/playgroups out there?? HELP!!!
I would have to say that spiritually speaking... God never judges you. You have options. Don't be affraid of what others will say or think because they don't have to live with your decisions. Be honest with yourself and don't do what you think society wants you to do.
Good luck and God bless!
Hi R. -
Congratulations! I actually went through the same thing. My last two are 1 year apart. I felt embarassed and ashamed myself, even though I was also married. I finally told my family when I was about 5 or 6 months (after my boss ASKED me if I was preganant again!) Very awkward situation, but everything worked out. We ended up moving here to Vegas after my daughter was born, and we are doing great! Like you said, sometimes our plans for our lives aren't always what God has planned for us. But we can be sure his plan is going to be Bigger AND Better!
We also live up North, so if you ever want to get together and have a playdate, let me know! My email is: ____@____.com
Hay R., I just read your posting.. and even if I have no advice for you I though I would send you some positive thoughts :) When I met my husband he had a son that was 10 months older than my son (Who was almost 1 at the time) when we started getting serious and going places with the kids together people always looked at us like we were nuts! Comments everytime I turned around, but to tell you the truth... My boys are SO close!! The bond is HUGE!! and to watch them interact its almost like having twins.. and one more nice thing... when they are finalllly out of diapers they will all be out of diapers.. Better then having to do it all over again in 2 years right? Good luck!! and enjoy those babies!!! They are runnin off to school before you even know it ;)
Hi R.,
Congratulations, you have been blessed with another baby!
I agree w/Tracy, don’t worry about what other people will said about you, you're married and have the support of your husband other people they are not going to help you to raise your kids so be happy because you are going to have another one.
I think if my first married workout years ago I probably have all my kids with very close age.
I love kids, so be thankful for this one.
Welcome to Las Vegas!!!!!
Josie
I have two boys 6 and 4. When I found out that I was pregnant with my second, I had just started going back to school and a new job, and felt the same way you do now. I made it through it just fine and time goes by so fast. I am just now going back to work, but this time it's a better job and I figured out what I really want to do with my life. Putting your life on hold for two years to be there for your kids seems like a long time now, but it will go by so fast and no other job will have sch an impact and be so rewarding at the same time it will be hard. Just take deep breathes and have fun.
I'm also in the NW area. Although my kids are a little older, they love play dates at the park. I know how important it is to get out of the house and how lonely it can sometimes feel. You can contact me at ____@____.com
Good Luck!
Hi R..
My name is S. and I'm going through a similar situation. I have 3 little ones - two girls, ages 4 and 6 and a 1 year old little boy. I had only had 2 periods after breastfeeding when what should have been a 3rd was late. I didn't think much of it at first, but after several days I decided to take a test. I BAWLED when it came out positive. It's been 2 months since I found out and I still get down about it.
I feel the same way you do - that God had other plans for me. The main reason I was so dissappointed is because I had a lot of plans I was really looking forward to for this coming year and am now missing out on a lot of much needed opportunities. It seems the world is passing me by as I sit home pregnant or with a newborn. I don't have anything to say that will make you feel better because nothing really makes me feel better yet. I just have a lot of faith and hope that when I see that little one on his or her birthday, I'll know this was right and he/she was meant to be part of our family. And, that missing out some things will be insignificant in 10 years, even though it hurts like hell right now.
Good luck! Don't be embarrassed - I always let people know my annoyance with being pregnant again and they turn into my cheerleaders. Just be honest - this was unexpected but you'll deal with it and so should they.
