Husbb's Aunt to Take Care of Baby

free isn't always better, even though it's nice that he'll be with family. but you know as he gets older, they may start putting things in his head or causing problems. i'm trying to get out of my mom taking care of my son just becuz i always feel like a crappy mother to her. she says it in not so many words. i would try an in home day care, enstead of a center. i think he would get more attention there and maybe not get as sick as most kids do in centers. it's up to you but sometimes family isn't the best for this situation.

It sounds like you should try your husband's aunt out, and if that doesn't work, look for a good family day care (generally less expensive that centers.)

I may be out of line here, but many of the comments imply that day care providers will not care for you baby as well as family members. I don't believe that's true. The two day care providers we've used were loving, nurturing people. I consider them dear friends now, and I can tell that they loved every child that they cared for. They were also certified providers which meant that they had extensive training for emergencies (CPR, first aid, etc.), and also training for general behavior issues, nutrition, and child development. I'm not saying they're better than family, but I don't think they should be viewed as secondary option unless money is main obstacle. Both women I used for my kids were in the business for 20+ years, and they were not doing it to get rich. They were doing it because they loved it.

My son goes everyday to my Mothers house for daycare. Your correct daycare is expensive. The nice thing about it is he spends his day with someone who also has his best interest at heart. And days when he's cranky and wants to read and rock all day...he gets that attention. The downfall is that he doesn't get exposed to other kids his age. But there are groups out there, like library and such, that he can be taken to, to meet other kids. Is taking your son to the Aunt's house instead a better idea? This way there is nothing to report back. If not, make sure your hubby gets involved if things become an issue. He has the right to stand up for the way your raising your child and any future children. Just let her know...She raised her kids her way and you will do the same.

I would say to go ahead and give it a try, if it doesnt' work out, you can always change later. You know that he will be well taken care of by his aunt, because she is family and loves him. He is not just another dollar sign to her. I would say that you ask ehr to please not go to your mother in law letting her knwo all your business. find a nice way to ask this, of course. If it becomes a problem with your mother in law giving unwelcomed opinions, and trying to interfere, then speak with the mother in law and tell her that while you all lvoe her and respect ehr opinion, you will nto tolerate her contradicting you and your husband, or trying to take control of situations that have nothing to do with her. If it continues to be an issue, decide then what you would feel most comfortable doing with your son. If the aunt is doing a good enough job for you, and is the most affordable option, then i would say screw what your mother in law says. let her say ehr piece, and let it roll off yoru back.

You may want to consider, though, that the downside to family watching the child is they do love him, and they will let certain rules slide, allow him to get away with things you don't necessarily agree with, and may brush off some of your wishes, because tehy feel they are harmless, and want to insure his love and affection.

Good luck.
liz

OK so you need to lock up your mail and get a separate phoneline...only kidding...just make sure that things that you dont want her to see are hidden away and things you dont want her to hear are discussed afer she leaves. ALWAYS have everything she made need out so she doesnt have to search for anything. AND anything like illnesses that have to do with the baby just downplay so that you dont get a million ?? from MIL. It will all work out, you just need to keep to a schedule and you will be fine. R.

well not sure what you don't want getting to ur MIL sounds like the babysitting offer is too good to resist hope it works out