Husbands Wanting Female Friends

what he is doing is inappropriate and unless there are changes, his behavior could lead to the demise of your marriage. I only know of one male friend who has more female friends than male. The difference there is that him and his wife have a total open policy about all of those friendships. I am one of his female friends. I exchange 2-3 emails with him a month (mainly comments about our blogs) and have lunch about every 6 weeks. I would NEVER consider talking to him on the phone like your husband is doing. nor would I ever go on vacation with them. completely inappropriate.

This is not healthy and if not stopped, will cause ruin in your marriage.

Men do not just have woman friends they call and speak to at lengths daily and want to take on vacation, there is something more intimate going on here. No, nothing physical may not have happened yet, but just his feelings for her are intimate, too personal.

I went through something similar with my husband 10 years ago. Same thing actually, I looked through his cell bills and I called her and she assured me everything was fine and they were just friends.

It wasnt but a few days later when one of my husband's friend's wives came knocking on my door to tell me that she had decided she had to tell me about this other woman. She said she had been thinking about it over and over and if her husband was doing this she would want to know. She told me about how there was a joke that his friends called her his "counselor" and she told me she was a married mother of three who lived NEXT door to my husband's mother and father.

Do not allow this to continue. Your husband may be bitter, you may lose him, but you are losing him anyway if it continues. Stand up and try to save your relationship from this, I did and I won.

I am sorry R., you may not want to hear this, but something more is going on. Think about any of your friends. Do you obsessively call them 9 times in a row when they don't pick up? Do you hide friendships from your husband? He is hiding it for a reason, it is inappropriate probably in more ways than one. You shouldn't expect anything from the girl such as weaning the calls, etc. But, you should from your husband. He needs to stop the obviously inappropriate relationship. You are going to have to be honest with him about the bill, calling her, etc. You have to be honest with him if you want him to be honest with you even if he gets mad. The vacation is crazy and out of the question. Don't even entertain that thought. PS, how old is this girl?

YES this relationship is unhealthy. It doesn't matter if you went through the cell phone bill. If he's done nothing wrong then he won't mind you knowing. If this relationship TRULY is platonic, then he won't mind being honest with you. There's a lot of truth in the saying, "If you have nothing to hide, then don't hide it." Basically, what it comes down to is this: if your request is reasonable then he should honor that. I don't hear you saying that you don't want him to have any friends, just not with a woman who he calls multiple times a day and keeps secret from you. If he wants women friends, it would be more appropriate to be couple-friends with another man & woman together.

What is more important? his relationship with this woman/girl, or his relationship with you?

I'm glad you talked to this woman and she's on board with ending the friendship. Sounds like he wasn't being honest with her either.

OMG the nerve of some men; I don't even know what I would do if my husband had the audacity of inviting a female friend to our vacation but believe me it would not be pretty.
He is being completely disrespectful of your time together as a family, I don't think is appropriate at all that he brings a friend to your trip and to be honest I think the friendship it's completely inappropriate. just my opinion but I don't believe in male/female friendship.
It's good that you talked to her and he shouldn't get mad you did, he is the one sneaking around to talk to this woman and he expects you to sit back and just watch, come on.
JMO but this so called friendship needs to be nipped in the bud before it gets physical,

Ditto on what everyone else has said...This is wrong! Do not put up with this!