Ok so I asked a ? about a lunch for my husband a few days ago and I just wanted to vent about this stupid situation. My husband tell me he wants spinach dip in his lunch. No problem I can do that. Then he tells me how to make it HE has NEVER made it before and he is always bossing me around in the kitchen telling me how to cook better. I am not the best cook in the world but he is a VERY picky eater. So right away I don't even want to take the time to make this dip( and anyone who has made it knows what a pain it is since you have to dry out the spinach and if you don't do it right the dip is ruined.) So I pack his lunch anyway like an idiot. This is whats in it 2 sandwiches,2 handisnacks,veggies,dip,2 bottles of water(wouldn't want him parched while he eats) a paper plate. fork,knife.spoon. napkin. Does this sound like a "sweet" lunch?
First thing I hate store bought spinach dip so I won't buy it and I wouldn't have a problem making it but I don't want to told how to do by someone with no knowledge of how its done.Well for everyone who finds this amusing since it absolutly is this what happened after I posted this last night. I went downstairs and he wanted to know what was in the lunch so I opened it up(i put in a brown grocery bag and stapled it,lol) to show him. He wanted to take the plate and water out. He said everyone would know I was being a jerk putting the plate in there since they all know what a big deal he is making over this lunch I said I just want to make a SWEET lunch so you shut up and I thought by going a step above and beyond all the other wives and GF's would make alll the other guys jealous! Well Mr. Wonderful didn't appreciate my sarcasm..He also tells me he has water on the job sight so he doesn't need water. Well HE forgot his lunch this morning! After all that. He calls me in the morning and tell me he forgot his lunch and there is NO water on the job today and he thought that would make my morning go good!..lol After all that. I just want everyone to be aware that I am aware of my my husbands flaws ansd have no problem telling him or other people what they are . I know exactly whats wrong with outr marraige and I can't fix it by myself and I don't believe divorce is the answer .
The first time he told me how to make his dip, would be the first time he made it himself.
He is an adult. He can make his own lunch...
I make the children's lunches, but my Mr. makes his own lunch...
LBC
Somehow I think the problem isn't so much the lunch, but rather how he treats you. He will continue to treat you the same way as long as you tolerate it. You deserve to be treated with kindness and respect. Not saying he's a bad guy- he might not even realize what he's doing. Try to find a way to communicate to him how it makes you feel. Pick a time when you're both rested and in a good mood to talk. I wish you luck :)
If my husband told me HOW to make his lunch, I'd suggest he make it himself. Sounds like your guy needs to learn what to do when someone makes him a nice lunch - say THANK YOU! : )
How old is your husband, 5? He can't pack his own lunch if he doesn't like how you do it? We can't just buy the spinach dip at the deli and have that be good enough? Or if he is that picky, can he have his mom pack his lunch and make sure she cuts the crusts off the bread?
Sorry to sound all snarky, but men who act like this really irk me. I'm glad I have a husband who is capable of fixing his own lunches and doing his own laundry and ironing - especially since I'm the one who works and he's the one that stays home! I'd being telling him that if he thinks he can do a better job, than do it! Either that or he can go move back in with his mother!
And if you are still going to keep making him lunch? "I need you to show me a little less attitude and a little more gratitude!"
Your story is a real soap opera. My husband LAUGHED at your previous post about the "sweet lunch." He's currently working overtime and can't wait to hear about the latest dramas from this site.
Btw, MY contribution to making his lunch was GETTING OUT OF HIS WAY so he could make his lunch. He has a very strict (post surgery) diet and his mood changes from minute to minute so when it comes to what he wants to eat I stay out of his way.
GREAT, since reading this ALL I can THINK OF is spinach dip! Guess I'll be BUYING some tomorrow (and add lots of water chestnuts) when I get home...
Uggh! This would irritate me. Have him write down exactly what would be in 5 sweet lunches - one for each day. Then, write out a shopping list for him, send him to the store, when he gets back hand him the box of baggies and his lunch box and say goodnight and go read a good book and let him make it and pack it! I pack my husband's lunch because I want to and because I can make sure no food goes to waste and help him with his diet for blood pressure and cholesterol. He says I don't have to do it, but I do. He often even says thank you. He never complains about what I pack or tells me how to make things. THAT is how your husband should be treating you! I realize not all husbands are going to be thanking their wives all the time, but even him saying nothing at all would be an improvement over how he acts toward you now.
It sounds like a sweet lunch and you sound like a sweet wife and he still sounds like a jack a** that doesn't appreciate either one. I hope he's worth this fuss and bother on some level!
When my husband gets too bossy, I smile and sweetly say, "I am planning on doing _______ this way. If you think it would be better a different way you can do it." Its a win-win. Either I do it my way, or he does it himself.
ps - just buy spinach dip....
Will you marry me?
What a shmuck!
Totally awesome. Forget the dip. Or buy a jar of it, spoon it out into a bowl, and act like you made it. He's lucky you make his lunch in the first place! But it's nice of you.
Why are you packing your husband's lunch? Is he 5? If he's so picky, maybe he should do it himself.... or maybe you should start making really lousy lunches and he'll be more than willing to take over....
I get those questions a lot: "what are WE serving?" "how are WE going to prepare it?" "when will WE do the shopping for the party?" We? WE?! My husband has never cooked a meal from scratch in his life, can't go food shopping without forgetting something important or buying bags and bags of junk food, doesn't even know where the mixing bowls are (we've lived here for 2 years!). WE? Really? So I understand your frustration. I would get all the spinach dip ingredients and ask your husband to make it himself. And he's damn lucky you pack such a nice lunch for him. I don't even pack lunch for my kids, much less my husband!
I have no problem with making lunch for your husband...in fact, I think it's great. However, if you have children, I would value my time better than to make fresh spinach dip. I make it at Christmas, and that's it...
...why not buy a jar and see if he likes that?
Is he trying to be bossy and controlling, or is he telling you that he ate some spinach dip that he really liked and asked them how to make it, and is showering you with his newfound knowledge? (ha) YES he does need to show you some appreciation, but I would hope there's more to it or that there's a misunderstanding.
Spinach dip is super easy, and honestly: we LOVE the recipe for spinach artichoke dip on the back of the knorr packet. You don't have to be a good cook to make that great (but my family love tomatoes so I do add 1/2 a can of drained rotels but that's us); I serve it on baguettes in the bakery section. Don't stress so much about the lunch itself. I pack my husband's lunch all the time (4-5 days/week) but that's because I want to (it's my way of making sure he has certain food groups, lower cholesterol, and staying in the weekly budget that I'm working with instead of him eating out everyday... and yeah, I'm trying to love on him too. For some people, we show or perceive love through food, dunno why).
What I would think is that the lunch itself isn't the issue at all. MAYBE he's not feeling loved on or appreciated (it may be stupid, but that doesn't make it wrong), or MAYBE you guys need to work on communicating skills (how to talk without getting flustered or aggravated, how to say what you want or how you're feeling). Just a thought...
Lunch is the least of your problems. You and your man need to have a good sit down and talk.
Your lunch menu sounds basically adequate, it does not sound "sweet". As far as the spinach dip, a pack of frozen spinach needs to be placed in a strainer and squeezed free of liquid...not so much a pain, but spinach dip needs time to blend.
Again, lunch menus seem to be the least of you and your husbands difficulties.
I would say, he should purchase what he likes and fix his own lunches until he can understand what's really wrong in the relationship and/or appreciate that his wife has been willing to fix it for him.
Blessings.....
Seriously? I think he sounds like a real weenie. I would never pack a lunch for someone so unappreciative or demanding. Why are you doing this?
In my opinion, it's a very "sweet" lunch the fact that you still went ahead and prepared it when HE could not make it himself after being so bossy about it. I would have let him buy the spinach dip or make it himself if he is that picky about how he gets his "sweet" or "free" lunch...wow..you are so sweet, lol
I would have told him to make it himself!
My 10yr old makes her own lunch for school!!!
Anyways, my hubby works 3rd shift so he takes his lunch and most of the time I do pack it but it's because it's convenient for me. I am cleaning up from dinner and I can pack some leftovers for him to take. He takes 2 hot pockets, 2 sandwiches, leftovers from dinner, canned beefaroni (opened and put in a bowl), pasta bowls where you add water. 1 soda and 1 bottle of water. Fresh fruit, fruit cup, yogurt, pudding cup. Crackers, chips, cookies, granola bars, fresh muffins, etc. And then poptart/honeybun for a 1st break snack. I toss in a fork, spoon and sometimes a love note and he is set!
Sometimes I ask him what he wants and most of the time he says he doesn't care.
Good luck!
S.
Right after I got maried all I could make was chicken fried steak, cream gravy and mashed potatoes or rice. We ate that for a month. One day honey bunny comes home and asks what for dinner and I told him "chicken fried steak..." his answer was "don't you know how to bake a chicken like my mother"? Now, I wasn't too upset about the chicken but "like my mother"?! Yeah, I don't think so. We have been married 25 years and I have NOT made checken fried steak since. He also commented on my ironing abilities. So, he started ironing his shirts as well. Hey, if he can do it better I'm all for it! That being said, my husband is wonderful and he tell me "thank you" all the time.
YUMMY.
But I hate my husband's "help" doing anything, especially cooking or sweeping. If he can do it better, he should. I welcome the change, but not the supervisor telling me how to do it. ARGHHHHHHH
he's old enough to make his own lunch. ;o)
hehe, this is a little off topic, but just today, DH set his alarm wrong and was late to work. (again) And left me with laundry in the dryer and dishes in the dishwasher, minor details but with 2 homeschooled kids and a 4 month old, even if I am home all day, he knows there were bigger things I wanted to do (like walls and windows and baseboards today) and heck the dishwasher was done and the laundry at least ready for the dryer while he was playing his computer game last night. And of course all of this after i had cleaned the entire kitchen, ceiling to floor yesterday, only for the dear man to be nice enough to clean up after dinner, and not even bother to wipe the stove.
So he came home from work today, and my stuff is done, the house is clean, and the dishes and laundry are exactly where he left them, lol. Considering I showered on his lunch break and didn't dit down till he got home, i figure I had just as full of a day as he did, and while I am grateful he helps at all, well, he is a part of this household as well, and we ALL have jobs to do.
