Husbands Client Made Him His Favorite Dinner. Weird?

she didn't serve it to him at her home alone with candlelight and soft music, right?

sounds to me like a nice way to say thanks.

it's just lasagna.

khairete
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Unless there's something else going on that we don't know about, I think this is lovely. It's her making an effort, and providing a big lasagna that we all assume (and she assumed) is to be enjoyed by his family. That means by you. So in fact, it was a better gift than something just for him - something that couldn't possibly be construed as something between her and him, I'm sure she thought.

What are the options? She can give him cash, but it's commercial and he'd have to declare it as income. She could give him a shirt or a scarf, but that's way too personal. She could give him alcohol maybe, but that might not be his and your taste.

She didn't invite him over to her house for dinner. She didn't take him to lunch. She took a lot of time to make what I think is a big nuisance to make - delicious but a huge pain. If you're the cook in the family, you know she gave YOU a gift too. She gave him the biggest comfort food many of us can think off, to be shared in his home with you and one that would give you both at least 2-3 nights of no cooking. How lovely of her.

Was it a pan of lasagna for your familly?

Why would you object when the thought behind it was a thank you, she sent enough for your family and nothing was secret about it?

If you are upset about this ,then something else is going on that we don't know about regarding your relationship and your marriage.

Around here, it is common to share/give food to neighbors for thank you, someone who is sick, new baby ,etc.

I don't get why you'd be upset. NOW.. IF it was all a secret and he was hiding all of this, I might raise an eyebrow but at the same time, my marriage was solid and I would not have thought twice about it.

I would have been thankful for dinner that night so I didn't have to cook and could spend more time with my husband.

Wow, I've given homemade goodies to coworkers (male and female) and never thought anything about it. People usually love food, especially homemade food, and isn't the point of a gift to be SOMEWHAT personal? It sure beats another coffee mug or gift card.

Totally overthinking it. I make goodies all the time I send into work with my hubby for his co-workers, both male and female. Its just about sharing good food, and in this case saying thanks :)

Get a good loaf of garlic bread and a nice bottle of wine and enjoy that lasagna with your husband. And tell him you appreciate him, for his helpfulness and his skills and his work ethic. And ask him to tell the family he does work for that he and his wife enjoyed their delicious lasagna.

Have you never ever made someone a pie or a plate of cookies or muffins to say thank you for helping you out, or for being such a good neighbor?

Clothing is personal. Jewelry is personal. Hate to break it to you, but in almost every country in the world, people are expressing gratitude and appreciation by sharing food. It can be as simple as a single ripe tomato from their garden, or it can be something that they cook or bake well. It can be a feast shared from affluence, or it can be meager, shared from what little they have.

If you're bothered by a gift of food for your family to say thank you, then you've got some thinking to do. I wouldn't say you're "overthinking", I'd say you were thinking incorrectly, inappropriately, or just plain wrong.

People in our neighborhood make baked goods for each other.
Cookies, cakes, breads, etc.
We trade garden vegetables too and baby sit neighbors chickens and keep the eggs when we do.
Sometimes a meal is just a meal.
The lasagna is his favorite but it's also for your whole family.
Unless your husband has demonstrated in the past that he can not be trusted - relax.

I kind of get what you are you saying. I would not cook or bake a male client/counterpart something either - probably because I wouldn't want it to look odd either ... if he was married. I just wouldn't want to give the wrong impression. However, I haven't baked/cooked for female ones either.

My husband had a female employee's husband bake bars for us once - because my husband had loved them once at a staff party, and the employee had told her husband. We all enjoyed those.

I bet it was as harmless as that.

I'm guessing you are bothered that someone the client found out that your husband's favorite dinner is lasagna and she specifically made him one. That does seem like a bit of a bother and slightly personal (to me) but it's also very generous and kind, and meant for your whole family. It is for a job well done too - I am assuming the job is finished?

So I get it, but I am sure it is nothing. Think of it as a neighbor sending over a plate of brownies (which I have done) and I could see my mom sending some special soup or something home with her carpenter or something if he'd ever had any there. To some people, that would just be very typical if they are a cook. It would mean nothing to them. Me a lasagna would take all day - to other people, who love to cook - nothing :)

Enjoy it!

You are overthinking this. She wanted to show her appreciation and this was a thoughtful gift that benefitted your entire family. It took some expense and a lot of her time to put together the lasagna, and knowing it was your husband's favorite does not require a deeply personal conversation. I've cooked for many friends and all it means for me is that I wanted to share something that I know they will enjoy. And if you love her dish, by all means please ask her for the recipe!

I would not let it bother me. Shoot she did you a favor you don't have to cook dinner. It's not even like she sent home just enough for him (Which personally would not bother me either) but she sent home enough for your family. She was being very sweet. Don't over think.

It’s fine. If you want, ask your husband to tell her that your wife really enjoyed the lasagna. Other than that, leave it alone.

I guess it is good news that your hubby actually came home with the food, so that means he's not consuming elsewhere and wiping his mouth clean before coming home. Secondly, i think it could also be good news that there is a tinge of perhaps healthy over-thinking jealousy that another woman made food for your hubby. That said, if you are concerned, watch for any repeated pattern. If you wish to return a kind gift (and perhaps send a subtle signal), make something nice and ask your hubby to give it to the family with thanks. :)