Husband Not Taking Unplanned Pregnancy Very Well

Don't worry things just happened so fast that he didn't have time to prepare. Maybe its a finacial issue with him or its just that the way the world is today its kinda hard to raise child.You both will have to come to an arrangement on how this baby will change your lives for the best. He or she is a part of bothof you and will need uncondional love. Your son needs to see you guys.Things will work oout for you>JUst have faith... I wish you all the best and May god be with you through this rough time.... I will keep your family in my prays.......

I went through this with my second child as well. My husband was scared because my first pregnancy ended in a life threatening way, and he didn't want that to happen again. Regaurdless of the reason, he cried when I told him. Not happy tears, and not the reaction I wanted. He doesn't cry often, so it was a big deal.

Listen to his issues. Be understanding. DON'T let his problems steal your joy. It's okay for you to be happy about this baby, no matter how he feels. And you didn't make the baby all by yourself. No birth control is 100% effective, and he wasn't using condoms with the film. He can't put it all on you.
My DD is now the joy of my husband's life. We can't imagine not having her here. It will work out in the end. He just needs to get used to the idea.
The main thing is to talk to him about it, if you can get him to talk to you. If you have to suggest counseling, then do. Try to be as supportive of how he feels as you can. DON'T let him steal your joy.

He might just be thinking things through. Remember men and women respond to things in different ways. Just offer your love and support and let him work this out in his head. This is a huge change in both of your lives, and he is probably just trying to accept it. As a man, he feels he is responsible for being the provider in the family, and that's a lot of stress on him. One thing I have learned over the years is God is in charge and things work out - what might have been unplanned for us isn't unplanned for Him. Good luck!

Give your husband time, he will come around. If not oh well, ever child is meant to be. God has entrusted you to have another child, pray and God will help you all out. I am happy for you, I know your 7 year old will be happy also. Also good for you, about home schooling too! God Bless B. A.

I am sorry you are having a hard time, but I have one thing to say to your husband. YOU DIDN'T GET PREGNANT BY YOURSELF!! He will have to deal with it just as you are having to deal with it. This child will be a blessing. Give yourselves a little time. : )
Neither of my grandchildren were planned and my daughter had the first when she was just 18. They are the joys of my life!! They are 9 years old and 2 years now.

Sorry this is going to be a little long ... We also had an unplanned pregnancy and my husband wasn't happy AT ALL! Seemed to stay distant with me for the entire pregnancy. It hurt my feelings a lot but I just kept trying to keep peace in the family and move forward. He wasn't ugly or anything, just not involved with the pregnancy and seemed to act like it wasn't happening. I could have gotten mad and all worked up, caused lots of fusses (you know, the old, "it takes two," "grow up!" but I didn't). A difficult thing for any pregnant mom and those emotions at peak level!! He was a great dad to our older child (8 at that time) so I kept the hope that all would be well after the baby was born and he would be just as happy with our 2nd child. Following the delivery, he was just as caring and loving with the new baby as ever before. We did grow apart a bit because of the distance the 9 months seemed to put on us but we are closer now than ever before and our children are the light of our lives. I have a feeling he was just very worried about finances and taking care of us. Things seemed very out of control for him at that point so I'm glad I kept a low profile (trying to just ignore my growing tummy and the excitement that comes along with the moving baby while at home with him was tough!) but I'm glad I did to keep our family together. It was all worth it. Both of our children have him wrapped around their little finger and he would do anything possible for all of us. If you love him and you know he loves you, just be patient. These are tough economical times and like us, the 1st child for ya'll is pretty easy to take care of at their age and we had to get used to having a "baby" with us again and taking that quiet time away. It will all work out if love surrounds you all! A couple of months after the baby was born, I had my tubes cut/tied because I knew we were better off with just the two children and I'm so glad to not have to worry about birth control any longer. By the way, congratulations!

Sounds like he needs to put on his big boy pants and deal with it. You didn't get pregnant all by yourself. If he sulks much longer I would confront him. Maybe talk to you pastor.

Wow. I could've written this myself. I was using the film and got pregnant for my second child. Although the pregnancy was welcomed, it was unplanned. I think he was worried because of my health and that the doctor told me after my first that another pregnancy would be risky (I had a postpartum dvt). My husband gave me the silent treatment for a long time. He didn't want to talk about it. I didn't hold it against him. I think it was just a shock for both of us. We both wanted to have another child, but just not at that moment. Give him time to digest it. He's probably worried about the future. Let's face it, the economic stability in our country is not great and times are tough. If he's anything like my husband, he will come around and see that this is a blessing. We love both of our daughters and cannot imagine life without them.

Pray for him. It works.