Dear Jennia,
I am not a Psychologist; but, as I see it, you have two choices here, either have faith and help your husband to get his drinking under control, or move on to another life.
You say you have "threatened" to leave. Why a threat ? If you are not prepared to carry through with what you say, then, perhaps it is best not to say anything at all. Lay your cards out on the table. Tell him in no uncertain terms what you are prepared to do and to not do. Think it through clearly and thoroughly and maybe do some research into dependent personalities and what your options could be.
Could it be your man really has no idea how serious his alcohol is, and he truly does not know where to begin recovery ?
Since you did not give us details to work with, do you have children ? Is he drinking and driving with the kids in the car ? Does he blackout ? Are you certain that the information you received about the last year is totally true ? Are his binges occassionally or every day ?
Jennia, I am not taking up for him; but, is there any chance he would enter a counseling program ? Would you be willing to help him with that ? If there is hope and you love him truly, would you be willing to give him some time ? These serious questions need to be answered.
Jennia, I so totally understand. Addictive men almost never recover, no matter what the addiction, women, drugs, drinking, gambling; but, it has happened. It all hinges on how long and to what extent you and or your family can tolerate it and see a road to happiness.
My best to you. I am praying all can be resolved. You obviously are considering this very seriously, or you would not be asking here on the Mamasource. Peace be with you.
R.