Hubby Thinks I'm Boring!

I totally agree with the other moms I would tell him to get lost personally!!! How can you be boring, if he only knew how hard it is to be a mom!!!

Wow!!! I bet you don't have a minute to be bored. Do you talk about all the things you get to do all day with 3 boys? Talk his ear off about all the wonderful things your boys did and said all day. All the things daddy got to miss, because you're at home working to death. =>

I take karate at the same school I take my kids. If my husband says I'm boring he'll find my karate skills quite interesting. =>

Happy Holidays!!!

I joined the babymine playgroup at meetup.com There is a message board, so even when you are stuck home, you can talk to people. And they have play dates all the time so you can bring your kids. They also have mom's nights for the days your husband stays in.

I know it is so hard to meet people. I feel the same way as you. I am new to the playgroup, so i haven't really met too many people yet, but I am sure as I get more comfortable I will. It seems like a good group.

Huh, your husband said that????

How about he calls a sitter, and takes you out to a fancy dinner and a movie? I bet you'll be less "boring" if he throws in a little fun! You're a bit busy taking care of three kids, and you just gave birth three months ago!! Hello?!

Seriously. How about he gives you a night off to take a class? Dance or knitting or anything that tickles your fancy? (How long has it been since you've done something for YOU?) And maybe he can hold the baby for an hour while you take a bath? (How often do you get to even shower and brush your hair??) And maybe he'll stop by the book store on the way home, and pick you up a couple of good books? And maybe, on the weekend, he'll watch the kids while you go out to brunch with friends?

Huh. I bet you wouldn't seem so boring, if you had those opportunities. I hate it when our husbands say crappy things without even realizing it!

He is quite lucky you didn't respond to that. Are the majority of all men dopes? Although at times it is persoanlly nice to hear that you don't own the only blubbering idiot or male chavanist of the gender...it still makes my blood boil every time I hear a story like that. I give you credit for taking the high road! So... what makes him so exciting? What has he done to add to your excitment? We put our lives on hold for everyone else and then we are put down. DUH..I just don't get it. You must be too nice to him ha ha ha!

Hey S.!! Don't listen to him. that is nuts..
You are working 24 hours a day..Taking care of kids is a hard job. So, just go out and take a walk when he gets home. Go to the library w/ your kids there are alot of free programs for kids and you can meet moms there.
Also, PTA they always want mothers to be a part of there meetings and etc. Also where do u live??

Hi S.! It is obvious that you are committed to your marriage which is wonderful! But remember that you are a person too! As moms we often lose sight of that, busy making everyone around us happy. Spending time for yourself is a must for all moms but make sure you are doing it because you want to do it, not to please your husband! The first couple times you do go out, give yourself a break! You will probably be worried and checking your cell phone every ten minutes.. but trust me it does get easier and is so worth it! Check your area, there are lots of mom groups who do Mom's Night out! These have been life savers for me!! If not, pull out your high school year book and reread what interested you back then, and try to find something similar now! Did you like to write? photography? take your camera and go for a drive! Did you read a lot? Find a coffee shop and spend a hour with a good book! If it's for YOU then you will find stuff to do!

S.,
Wow, that must have really hurt. Are you ok? That would make me feel that not only is he uninterested in me, but he's uninterested in my days with the kids and their goings on as well. I agree that leaving him with the kids for an afternoon so he can see what you day is like is a good idea. I also agree with getting a babysitter so the two of you can go out. But you might want to explore this issue deeper with your husband so he knows how much that hurts and see how he can help resolve this issue because it's one between the two of you - it's not your fault. Maybe you sign up for a local class and leave him with the kids for a night (even just Adult Ed), so you have a chance to get out and be someone other than a caregiver. Good luck!

Hi I'm A.. I can definitely see where you are coming from. I have seemed to seperate myself form other adult moms and now I am also looking for a "mom' connection. Where are you from?

Do you & your hubby get to go out by yourselves. Does he think you are boring then. I dont get out much myself and I provide childcare @ home during the week. I have an almost 8 yr old son Justin and 2 girls, Maggie 4 & Allison 2. My husband is always busy doing something. Mostly work and taking my son to baseball and soccer. I'm kind of a home body. My hubby has never said I was boring and wishes I would go out more. Financial hardships usually keeps me from doing more outside of my house. I grew up in Ulster County. Now living in Hyde Park, I dont know anyone that I didnt meet through my husband. I only know a few moms from my sons school.

S.,

That really is a pretty harsh thing to say since your days probably consist of puke, poop, and temper tantrums. The best way to have someone appreciate you is to have them walk a mile in your shoes. I say this weekend you say SEE YA!! and go Christmas shopping all day. Go to the mall, get a manicure, pedicure, have lunch, take the day to your self. Then when you come home you will have so many wonderful stories to share with your husband about your day out. He however will probably be so stressed out he will be sure to keep his big trap shut next time he thinks your boring. It infuriates me that you think you have to think of ways to make yourself more exciting, don't you have enough on your plate with 3 kids under 3 years old. How about he thinks about what he can do for YOU to make you feel EXCITED!! Happy Holidays!!

Hey S.,
Don't feel bad, my husband and I go through the same thing. We don't have much in common and we don't spend much time together because of work and things like that. When we do have time together, we are usuallu doing things around the house (we just moved to NJ from Manhattan) or we sit down and watch a movie which means that we aren't even having a conversation. My suggestion is to get your own hobby or make a new friend. Maybe once you are busy doing things for yourself that you enjoy, he won't think you are so boring anymore. I'm too busy to worry about what he thinks is fun and boring...I have fun with my son.