Hey, there ~
First of all, I admire your willingness to accept suggestions, comments, wisdom AND CRITICISM. I've found a lot of moms are only interested in affirmation and can't handle even constructive criticism. Kudos to you for wanting to make a wise decision based on all the facts and opinions you can get. And getting her involved in as many social situations as possible to strengthen your daughter is awesome. It sounds as though she's ready for the social aspect of kindergarten already. Your little girl is obviously well loved!
That being said, you seem to have mixed emotions about your desire to go back to work. Are you "feeling guilty" or do you not think you're being "selfish"?? You seem to be somewhere in the middle. I imagine that's frustrating. I truly believe one parent or the other in the home while his/her child is there is the ideal. I realize there are circumstances which make that impossible in some cases. I also realize there are women - and men - not entirely fulfilled this way. But our children aren't intentionally trying to get in the way of our fulfillment; they're just trying to grow up. And I firmly believe the best way for them to do that is to be in a stable environment with someone who loves them and nurtures them like no one else can.
Don't get me wrong; I'm not saying it's healthy to spend all day every day in the house with little ones running around. That's enough to drive one crazy - believe me, I know. I think some part-time work (few hours weekly), volunteer work, adult socialization, etc. are all good things. But it would break my heart if I had to put my children in a daycare where I'm not there, I don't see what's going on, I don't know the care-givers, I don't know what my kids are being exposed to mentally, physically and spiritually, and someone else is - in effect - raising my babies. Especially at such an impressionable age. If you can possibly wait until your little girl is in elementary school, that's what I'd recommend.
Search your heart, sweetie, and decide in your baby's best interest. I'm sure it won't be too hard. You apparently love her so much!
~ R.