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I experienced the same problem after the birth of my baby - and it really REALLY distanced my husband and I, and we even considered splitting over the issue. But I went to the doctor, told him what was going on - and as it turns out, I was suffering from mild depression. I had given up my career to stay at home with my child, had limited contact with other adults, and was either too stressed, tired, or bitter at my husband for not helping at all around the house. All of those normal, negative feelings just build up and build up, and POOF, the sex drive goes away.
So suck it up, and go to the doctor. Tell him what is going on - I would go to your OB about this as opposed to your general practitioner, as they will be more compassionate and understanding of the issue. My doctor put me on a low dose of the drug Wellbutrin which, unlike many other anti-depressants, has no sexual side effects. With the help of that medication I am much happier, able to deal with stress more appropriately, and actually really feel like having sex again.
Also consider that, also like my husband and I, a fear of getting pregnant again so quickly after the first can also put a damper on the sex drive. I would consider couples counseling: as a psychologist myself, I highly recommend it. It can help in many aspects of your life, and can resolve some of the feelings that lead to a decreased sex drive. It sounds as if your life is very busy and filled with alot of stress - finding time to just be together, and be happily together, can be hard. Take a weekend and go away with your husband, WITHOUT the baby - reconnect as friends and lovers.

Hello, I am a sahm and I have a 4 year old... my sex drive disappeared during my first pregnancy and never returned. I am surprised we managed another child, due Feb. , so I feel for you and our poor husbands. We used to fight about it, now we laugh about it. I figure we have a long time in this life together and why run thru all the fun of eachother so quickly! We are learning different ways of communicating and showing affection to eachother. I think it has taken us to a place where we have to learn something new about life and eachother, and if I go another 4 years with no libido, I will be visiting a doctor... I would take a pill. Good Luck, and good day. A.

Wow, you have alot on your plate! I was exhuasted just reading it! That may be a big factor in your sex drive. I stay home w/our 2 boys but I still don't have the sex drive I used to. Bite the bullet & go to your OB. They may suggest a blood test to check your thyroid. For some women, after giving birth, their thyroid changes which can cause changes in your libido. Have you said anything to hubby? I did after a very long time, close to a year, & he was veyr understanding. For me, it was that I was emotionally tired at the end of the day & felt too worn out for sex. But, I also had some anger over his long work day (which makes it possible for me to stay home) & that I felt I was parenting alone. Tell your husband how you feel & maybe together, you can come up w/a way to lessen your load. Good luck!

Hi, I dont know much about the subject however, I did talk to my Dr. about my lack of sex drive and she said that there isnt a ton they can do for women but we could do a simple blood test to check my hormone levels. Once they review your hormone levels there are some hormone therapies they can do. I am not sure what they entail since I havent crossed that bridge yet but I would suggest asking your Dr. to check your hormone levels and go from there. Good Luck

You didn't ask my advice but I don't think anything is wrong with you at all....I think you have given yourself so many responsiblities you simply don't have the energy for sex too. We are only given so much energy.......my guess is you are using most of it on tasks......but on the outside and not taking in any energy to feed yourself.......EVerything seems to be going out and not much replenished........Hard to think about having sex if it isn't about connecting and receiving........

i have the opposite problem, it's my husband with the low libido. i know how it feels to have to be the one to mention it or initiate it. I recently tried this stuff from Passion Parties that you put directly on your clitoris. It works really good. And if you feel strange talking with your dr, it may be very well worth changing to a woman dr. I love having a woman dr, and don't think I'll ever go back to a man dr.