How Would You React? - Huntsville,AL

I highly doubt that she had a temp of 105 F, she would be too lethargic to dance with a fever that high. Yes in my opinion you are over reacting.

I would ask the mom point blank was it really 105. 105 would not be able to do a dance competition. but 100.5 would lol. bet she just got it messed up.

That was her mother's call. At 14 the child still has to be driven to the competition.
Are you sure it was 105*? Seems to me that with a fever that high it would be impossile to dance and the mom would have known.

If it were lower, maybe 101*-102* she could fake it and tell mom she was fine just excited.

I remember in high school when we had to be at competitions we would lie to our parents and tell the choir director we were fine so the show could go on. Fevers, sore throats, stomache ailments,.pulled muscles, even a pregnancy (not mine) were inconveniences that had to be put on the back burner until after the show.

Give your daughter plenty of vitamin C. She'll be fine. Make sure she is taking care of herself to be as healthy as possible for the competitions.

Did she truly have 105? You know how girl drama is.

My daughter is on competitive cheer with her school squad. One girl that could never hit the jump as needed announced to a teacher that she had had 15 concussions.

What happened? Said teacher told the coach, coach involved the principal and parents of the girl. The girl was just being a drama mama and everyone knows that... BUT, coach informed her and her parents that she can't compete due to concussions and the school will not allow her to be active on the team. Her mom said she had never been diagnosed with concussion. Still, no go on the squad and the big Pep Rally was the next day. So mom took her to the Dr. and got a Dr. note saying she was ok to cheer. At the pep rally... she was doing back flips. What a recovery!!!

Bottom line, do you know the whole story for real? 105 is pretty high and I would not think she'd be capable of performing with a temp that high. Sounds like your daughter's team has a drama mama too.

I'm thinking C blew everything out of proportion so she could get kudos for toughing it out while being sick. She probably actually had a fever of 99 and laryngitis. Not really a big deal.

I think you are overreacting a little by being upset with C. Your daughter comes into contact with germs all day everyday. Get her some hand sanitizer and call it good.

My daughter is also a competitive dancer, and it seems like nothing will hold these girls back. We were taking our girls to the stage for another number when one of the older girls threw up all over the floor. She was sweating and obviously sick. Next thing I know, she's on stage. My daughter didn't get sick and everyone praised this girl for going on sick.

I don't agree with it and would keep my kid home if they were that sick...we'd be in the ER with a temp that high...but that's not how a lot of "dance moms" are, unfortunately.

With that said, there is nothing you can do about it, so no point in being upset or letting it get to you. Maybe ask about the sick policy? But I'm willing to bet if it's that day, reworking the routine would be so difficult that they'd rather her go on sick :(.

I would be more worried about her mother's choice to let her daughter go anywhere with a temp that high and a vocal infection...if that was my daughter I would have just told her sorry hun...you need to relax and get better and make her stay home.

I'm sorry, if the girl had a fever of 105, she would be delirious and unable to function...not going on stage and dancing. She may have had a low grade fever (no higher that 99.9) and the beginning of strep or something.

I would react like this: I'd ignore it because the girl is obviously looking for attention for "toughing it out" and being so "dedicated" to the team. I have no doubt she may be sick, but I doubt it's as bad as she wants to claim it is.

Did she really have a 105 temp or was she being a bit exagerative and just not feeling well?

I think she is dedicated to the team, but dedication should only go so far. Her dedication may hurt the team more in the long run. I don't think there is much you can do, but hope your daughter doesn't get what ever C has/had. Honestly, if you are upset at anyone - it should not be C, since she is only around 14, but more her parents for letting her go eventhough she is sick. As parent it is our jobs to protect not only our kids, but others around them the best that we can - even if that doesn't make us their favorit person at the time.

Unless you want to confront her parents about your concerns... let it go. Also as parents and people, we need to pick our battles - so ask yourself is the a battle you want to fight? If so fight it, if not let it go.

Good question. Here is the game I just played with myself. . .What if it was a football game and a dad drove the son to a get on the bus to play JV and the sick kid "toughed it out" made some great plays and helped them win the game? He rode the whole way there and back with the team, his coaches didn't ask if he was sick, just sent him on. . .
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What if she was 16 auditioning for Julliard?
What would my reaction be. . . I think it was fine that she was there. The parent wants just as much as the child to particpate, see the fruits of their labor and hard work come to fruition and in the world of anything competitive there is a different level of sacrifice and commitment.
I'd let it go:)

A fever that high would mean hospitalization. There's no way she'd be functional. If she had a fever, it was likely low grade so someone is exaggerating.

If the girl was out sick from school during the day and this was a school function, she should not have been there at the competition. Her mother should have known better. If she was at school that day and spiked a fever and was at a school function that night, her mother still should have known better.

I think someone's pants are ablaze.

I would immediately wonder: WHY would her parents allow her to do that?!?! as well as the dance instructor... or the whole team for that matter.

105 isn't just your ordinary fever, either! That sounds so screwed up that she would do all that in that condition as well as expose others to it. No, I wouldn't admire her for it. I'd be worried that as she gets older and doesn't listen to her body, she will wear herself out quickly and worse could happen- especially since it sounds like her parents aren't stepping in and caring for her when they need to. ...and then I'd be mad that my daughter was with her all that time.

I wouldn't be mad, people go to work and out in public sick all the time. I don't blame the girl for not wanting to miss her dance competition. Tell your daughter to wash her hands -- it's the best way to avoid getting sick.

Your right, but then again if you were the girl & this meant EVERYTHING to you would you have gone @ 14? I would have, I'm not saying it's the RIGHT thing & as a mom with a daughter who is likely to 'catch' whatever the other girl had you are right to be concerned.

Keep an eye on your daughter, hope she doesn't get that 'bug'.

It's done now, but I would definitely talk to the dance team coach, who is responsible for the team as a whole, though she can't know if a parent sends a kid sick unless the parent and/or kid tells her.

The coach, if she heard the kids talking about the girl being sick that very day, should have phoned the parents immediately and said that if the girl was that sick she must be removed. I agree with others that the girl likely wasn't as sick as having a 105 fever, but she should not have been there with ANY fever. I'd tell the coach that she should investigate, and I'd ask the coach: "What is your policy if a child turns up sick? Do you send her home or let her stay?" If the answer is "Let her stay" I frankly would tell the coach you find that attitude to be irresponsible towoard the rest of the team, and are considering talking to school officials about creating a written policy and sending it to parents of kids in extracurricular activities. Others may think that's going too far, but some parents will send their kids sick to anything and figure it's no big deal; it is, because it spreads sickness and then the chain keeps going -- right back into school time!

Again, if the coach knew nothing about the sickness on that day, she obviously could not have called the parents and sent the kid home; I'm just referring to what the coach's attitude is if a child shows up visibly sick and/or the coach is AWARE of the sickness.

During August I had a fever of 105 and was hospitalized with pneuomonia. I barely remember that time I was so damn sick. Deliriously sick. There is no way she was there with 105, she is exaggerating. Now, she probably was sick though! I wouldn't be mad, I would be impressed that she thought so much of her team that she got out there even though she was sick to make sure that her team didn't lose. Besides, your daughter was probably breathing in a LOT of different illnesses that day, not just "C's".
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I have had a fever over 102. I could not drive or function. I am sure she is exaggerating.