I met my ex in Dec and we really connrcted, we shared the Xmas Holidays together and we really hit it off. On New Year's he asked me to be his gf and then 2 wks later he said he had to leave town to work 5 hrs away. We agreed that he would come visit me once a month & to give him 3 mos to work out there to get back on his feet. Well, he would not call me as often and would not text me like he used to. When we did talk, it was for a short while and I felt like I was not important anymore. He says he would get off late and was tired at times with no energy to talk. So, I assumed and accused of him of cheating on me, which that was probably a mistake on my part. But, I told him that if there was trust, communication & patience that we could make it work. Well, he failed to communicate with me and at times gave me signals that he didn't want to be w/me anymore. He left me hanging and I didn't know what to think anymore. He would not answer his phone and I assumed the worst cause I didn't hear from him and I figured that he wanted to ended it the easy way, by ignoring my calls. I think what hurt him the worst was that I told him that, he was a coward and that he was not worth it no more. I was frustrated & didn't of the consequences. Also, what really pissed him off was that I told him he was no good in bed, so I hurt his ego I guess. Also, that I was too much of a woman for him. He text me quickly and said he would call me & that he was not coward and that I was wrong for thinking he was with someone else. Well, he called alright and broke up with me. Saying that I attacked him with all my accusations and that I'm not the sweet nice person anymore. I told him that he gave me reasons to think the worst and he did not understand my feelings. He says, he understands me but, he sounded sarcastic. So, he broke up with and said he is going to focus on his job and that maybe one day if he's in town he'll call me. I told him communication is important & that if he would of told me that he was working a lot I would of understood him. But, he didn't understand my thinking. After the call, I text him saying I'm sorry and for us to give it another try & that I was going trust him and respect his job & that I miss him. But, he has not responded back. What should I do? Or wait to see if he thinks things over and asks me back. He sounded hurt over the phone and I think he does care but, he got offended with the sex part. One time he said "I love you" when he was drunk. Then, when I told him "I love you" first when he was sober he said "thank you thank you". So, I'm really confused...Should I move on, give him time or ask him back.? I really miss him and want him back. He also told me about a gir that he knows thats lives near his job that she's only a good friend & that he's never had anything to do with her. He told me that it would not be a good idea for me to visit him but, after a week of him being down there he mentioned that this girl went to visit him. So, I suspected that he was out with her and lost interest in me. During the break up call, he said that she's the only person who's understood him and that doesn't get upset if he calls or not. So, that makes me think that maybe she's more than a friend. I'm confused...
It is now Feb 4 and he basically blew you off mid-January...after no more than one month of knowing you? Let it go. Long distance relationships are hard...and you did not have a strong relationship base before going long distance...just a few weeks of hanging out together. It does not sound like there is any relationship to get back. Try and view it as a learning experience to move slower next time. Good luck.
I'm with the other moms! I don't think there was anything there to begin with...the "relationship" at best was 2 weeks? Time to move on...
Sounds like you are waaay too involved for this to be someone you just met in December.
All this has happened just since December?
IMO, any relationship that has major hardships/break ups in the first year ain't gonna make it!
Forget about him, move on and focus on your KIDS!
M., no one thinks this is a good idea. Do you have a mom, sister, friend, priest, or anyone in real life to talk to about this?
How does a single mom of 3 even afford a hotel room? Who would watch your kids while you are throwing yourself at him? Do you believe sex will win him over? You already had sex and he has moved on. Sex is not what makes a relationship. Sex is what makes babies. You have 3 already and I assume the daddy is out of the picture. You owe it to your kids to focus on them.
Yep, this got serious way too fast it you probably freaked him out a little, and then a lot when you went off on him. I think if you dont leave him alone your going to look like a huge psycho. Not trying to be mean, but take things slow next time and dont expect a man to give you the world after a month of dating.
You need to think more highly of yourself, and not waste your time on someone who isn't worth it!! Have you read the book 'He's Just Not That Into You'? (Yes, it was a book before it was a movie, read the BOOK)... go buy it, read it, and realize he's NOTHING. Go find someone who will treat you with every ounce of love and respect you deserve.
you both sound very immature (sorry) to be in a relationship. this was, what? 4-6 weeks long? not long enough to know each other yet youre calling each other names and trying to hurt each other.
both of you sound too selfish and immature to withstand an actual long standing relationship and you need to focus on your child(ren) and move on.
seems like you both are manipulating each other with whatever you can (you're not good in bed... this other girl gets me) bla bla bla.
leave that all behind!
move on.
love yourself.
Honestly? You don't need to try to get him back...you need to figure out why you needed so much from him so very quickly.
Try to learn to focus on YOU - what YOU want out of life, how YOU want to spend your time, etc. If you can learn to do that in a healthy way, a guy who can meet your needs...will become incidental and also, not so hard to find.
I wish I had spent my younger years more focused on my own goals and less focused on having a guy in my life. Believe it or not, the guy really is secondary.
This AIN'T happening.
Just move on.
It is not meant to be.
You are both, not compatible.
Don't force it.
A 'forced' relationship or friendship, is not a relationship or friendship.
This is not happening.
It is not natural.
It is not mutual.
It is just drama.
Because... it is not meant to be.
Let him go.
Go your own way.
He... deserves to have his life.
You do too.
But not together.
It is not and was not, anything to count on.
It just was not happening.
He's just not that into you. Really. And you are really not that into him either, and that's clear by the way you've treated him. You two have only been together 1-2 months and are already having these types of problems. You need to stay away from each other.
Take this as a learning experience as how to not handle a relationship in the future. Delete his phone number from your phone and never contact him again, and if he contacts you tell him you are no longer interested and never talk to him again. Hold your head up high and walk away with as much dignity as you can muster and be thankful for the learning experience. Yikes.
Just move on already...you've barely known each other 2 months, with a good deal of that time spent apart, and you are acting like this is something really serious and he is the love of your life. You've already said things to him that were uncalled for, he does not appear interested anymore, just let it go. There are more important things in life than just having a man around.
You barely know this man, yet you're acting like you've spent years together. Why are you chasing after him like a tween aged girl? This man obviously has moved on and you are not the person for him. It's time for you to move on too.
Please find someone that you can talk to about this and who will help you sort out your feelings.
I would never even consider getting back together with a man who had such high demands and negative judgments about me after only a couple of weeks together. You hit him where it hurt, and then you REALLY let him have it by putting him down sexually. What did you expect to gain by that – that he would become a fabulous lover? If this request is for real, you sound like a pretty high-maintenance gal. And really young. And you've probably had a pretty chaotic life so far.
Be good to yourself, and let the poor guy go. You're harassing him. Your kids need you to be a positive role model.
Please leave this poor guy alone. You already put him down so bad there is no coming back. Go find a guy that can fill your need for constant attention and is man enough for you. Clearly, your ex is not.
Sorry..this is probably not what you want to hear but he's not into you. Ask any guy's opinion and he will tell you that when a man is interested in a woman, he will do whatever it takes to keep in touch, new job or not, long distance or not. Move onto someone who's actually interested! Good luck!
So you two were together for how long? 6 weeksish?
I am assuming you are college aged and I am going to give you a rule. Don't date (or sleep with... because for some reason you have to say that now a days...) a guy unless you have known him a year. That means actually being at an event you both see each other at/talking to him as a friend once every other week or more often. That way you can actually gauge if he is actually worth putting the time into to have a real relationship with him.
If you really want him back, this is what you have to do. Get a life without him. Men enjoy the chase. So go out on dates with other guys, don't blow up his phone with your calls. Give him a chance to miss you. If he doesn't call, at least you have occupied your time with meeting new and interesting people closer to you. Also find a hobby or an interest or go to get some additional training or take some classes in something you have always wanted to learn. Occupy your mind and time. Men find a woman with a plan irresistible. Being clingy and needy is man repellant. You must learn to resist the urge to cling to him. If he is for you he will be back and if he is not your time will be occupied with other people, places and things. This is a win win for you and it really does work.
Move on...I am sorry not trying to be rude but you gave him the goodies and now he has moved on...This just happen to my friend....Respect yourself and find someone who will treat you right.
Forget him. Just take a break from all men for a few years.
dont exes are exes for a reason
umm sorry but this other girl is more than a friend. Move on to someone that lives closer.
Um move on.
He totally played you and it got way too serious WAY to fast.
You don't need that.
