I have been trying to enforce no to my 10 month old and I feel like Im not getting very far :/ any tricks??
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How do I stop her from biting now that she has teeth? Before she had teeth that was her way of kissing...I knew this day was coming... :/
Well she is 13 1/2 months now! And she has stopped for the most part! All of her front teeth are in and I believe that was the main reason she was biting! me and my husband both tried to bite her back...kind of hard...and SHE LAUGHED at us. Im learning that she is a VEEERRRY tough cookie! Like..no joke! But I did try fake crying when she did bite me...like dramatic soap opera crying and she eventually stopped and she would hug me and start crying herself. :) thank you ladies so much for the input!
I would remove my daughter from the situation and then ignore her when she came back to me. I only ignored her for a few seconds, and she got the message. She stopped biting pretty quickly. I know it sounds mean, but it worked for me.
At 10 months, "no" is a puzzlement. She can tell you don't like something, but that may not connect well in her mind to exactly what part of what she's doing that you want to discourage. She's acting on pure, spontaneous impulse, and will do that for quite awhile yet. "No" doesn't begin to make real sense until a child is several months older.
I've watched young kids get really confused about what they can do without getting yelled at – almost any action they take they may sort of flinch or look around anxiously right after. That suggests to me that they really aren't clear about what the "NO!" actually addresses. And that "no" can be seriously overused, too often to the exclusion of modeling our preferred behaviors.
My grandson did an open-mouthed bite-kiss for a few months, too, at around the same age, as I recall. We worked with him consistently to get him to soften his little attacks of affection. "No" had no effect, but knowing when the kiss was likely to come, and intercepting him by gently holding his face and allowing only a soft contact, and showing him again and again how a puckered-up kiss looked, eventually worked. Until that comprehension comes, the behavior is likely to continue.
What works well with most kids is to model, demonstrate, and describe the behavior you do want. Kids are natural imitators, and most of what they learn best comes through copying what they see in their parents or older siblings. "Yes" works much better than "no" as an educational tool.
I agree that you might get some help from Dr. Karp's Happiest Toddler on the Block. Lots of great tips for a child on the verge of toddlerhood.
if you are thinking about the Pearle's recommendation - go to Amazon and read the reviews. IMHO there are lots and lots and lots of other ways to do things than what they teach. Pick something that is socially acceptable instead.
Sounds like she just doesn't understand that her biting hurts the other person. Can she understand with your facial expressions? Can you gently stop her at the beginning of her kiss to show her how its done?
She doesn't understand much and doesn't understand it hurts. Skin is squishy and probably would feel good to bite - like a teether, so I can see how she would do this, but since she's not doing it in anger, teach her how to do it gently - like "LIPS".
Redirection is a great tool in toddlerhood (well, almost toddlerhood). There are some great books out there to help you develop your parenting style. Harvey Karp has "Happiest Baby on the Block" and is on youtube. The Dr. Sears Baby Book is a good resource. Another one I just found out about and really like is "The Science of Parenting" - which is based on studies done by brain researchers that measure the effect of different parenting techniques. If that doesn't help you pick a child raising strategy that will benefit your little one for the rest of her life, I don't know what will.
Maybe it comes down to parents who want easy answers and parents who want to set their kids up for success for their entire life....
Bite her back and telling her no cause she is still very young my son is 10 months old and only has two teeth and enforcing no to him is very hard so i put him in his play pen for 10 mins without any toys when he miss behaves and it does him good they are not going to be to happy when you do that but dont let her get away with doing it
Probably the best book that I've ever read for parenting is TO TRAIN UP A CHILD by Michael Pearle, It deals more with little ones. One thing it taught me was the importance of the word no. One thing to never do is say NO and then give in. Another thing is if they get a hold of something like your keys or eye glasses don't just say no and put them up where they can't get it. That does not give them the option to learn, it only takes away their chance to learn and use self control when they are told no.
my son use to bite when he got teeth from his kissing it took a lil time but i would tell him ouch and reshow him how to kiss it took about a month but he finally learned i also had him make the kissing sound so when he kissed his mouth would be closed....with the no i would tell him no and if he did it again i would tell him no and put him in his time out chair (which i made sure was not a chair he used or liked otherwise he wont understand and his favorite toy becomes a punishement) he got the hang of it after about a week
We JUST barely got over this with our son. It is such a relief now that he isn't biting. He usually only bit me and my husband, but one time he bit a friend we had over. I think he was doing it for play because when we played we would fake bite him, and he thought it was soooo funny. We somehow got him to stop through a combination of saying no, yelling out, spatting him on the mouth, and biting back. If he bite me on the arm, I would yell out and then bite him back in about the same place. I wouldn't bite hard, just enough to shock him, not hurt. Then I told him no, no. We don't bite. It's Ugly, and spatted his mouth. He always cried afterwards, but I put him down and away from me so he would know I was angry. He always came crying back to me, and I would apologize for having to be mean while he loved on me. It may not be the nicest way, but it worked for us.
I yelled OUCH! We don't bite, that hurts me and gives me a boo boo. Can you kiss my boo-boo please?
offer some cold teething rings or get a semi wet wash cloth and put it in the freezer for about 10 or 15 mins and give to your baby. That is for teething.
For biting because they are acting out you need to stress that it is not ok. I started my time outs with my baby girl around 10 months...it took awhile but anytime your 10 month old bits someone, you need to sturnly tell him its not ok to bit and sit him on a time out chair or corner and make him sit there for one min...he WILL cry but that is good....it means he is understanding it (but doesnt like it)
Also try teaching her to BLOW kisses
Bite her back. At this age, they don't know that biting hurts. If you bite her back (gently but hard enough to hurt) then she will get it. She won't bite again! Good luck.........biters are usually kicked out of daycare so nip this in the bud!
