From my experience moms are expected to be on top of this stuff, but I wouldn't "bite the bullet and shut up about it". I feel everyone needs to work together to contribute to household maintenance.
Something that I've done in the past that I would like to get in the habit of doing again is keeping up with cleaning/stocking on a daily basis. I used to assign one or two rooms to be cleaned on each day of the week. I would check things like soap, toiletries, detergents, pantry staples, etc and write them on my shopping list if they were low or completely gone. That eliminated a lot of issues with running out of items.
I'm lucky that my kids are good about telling me when things are running low. They are 4 and 5 and can't write well yet so it is up to me to add it to the list. As long as I keep the list posted on the fridge my husband will also contribute to it.
As far as turning out lights or refilling used items like putting tp on the roll...I am at a loss where hubby is concerned. Mine could be the only person home and have lights on in 4 rooms of the house. And when he takes out the garbage he doesn't replace the bags he took out of the cans. Drives me nuts! Do your kids receive an allowance or do you use any kind of reward system with them? If so, maybe incorporate that into your system. Maybe something like everytime they leave a light on, take 5 cents out of their allowance.
You could also get them involved in the planning. The day before a planned shopping trip (or an assigned day of every week) give the kids a pen and paper and send them each to a room to restock tp rolls, soap dispensers, pantry items, etc and write down what is low or depleted so you know what to buy. If you want them to check certain items make a checklist for each room (save it on your computer so you can print it out when you need to instead of rewriting it). That will give them some ownership in keeping the house in order and give them some idea of how much work is involved in doing so.
If my husband leaves things lying around I put the items on the table next to his recliner or I leave his dirty dishes at his place at the table. He then cleans up his spaces before he can use them again.
I just remembered something my SIL did regarding dirty dishes. I laugh everytime I think about it. She packed up ALL of her dishes and put them in the attic. Then she assigned each person a color and bought one plate, bowl, cup and I think even set of utensils in that color. Each person was required to wash their dishes and put them away in order to be able to have dishes to use for their next meal. And since everyone knew who was assigned each color it was easy to tell whose dishes were left lying around. I think the message was pretty clear as I recall her kids then started washing pots and pans or putting them into the dishwasher immediately after using them to keep the kitchen in order.
Good luck to you. A family needs to work together to take care of a home. It should not be up to one person. Whatever method you choose to handle the issue be sure to be consistent and be clear in stating your expectations and any consequences.
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Is there anything you do on a regular basis like a family night out or pizza night? You could discontinue those until the electric bill comes down. Make an announcement and let your family know that you need extra money for the high bills and they will need to be more responsible about turning out lights, etc to get the bill to come down. When the bill is lowered you can resume the fun stuff.
Maybe there is a way you can incorporate filling the mundane tasks into the chore chart. For example, each week assign a child to a room(s). On M, W, F they are responsible for filling the items you dictate - tp, soap, plastic bags, etc. If those items run out during the week in which they are responsible they get docked allowance or lose a privilege.
If you don't like the idea of incorporating that into their allowance I think proactive, preventative measures would alleviate many issues, such as having each family member help restock freqently used items on a regular basis. It might not totally prevent the problem, but it should cut down on the instances. You could also take other measures to make sure items are handy. We bought a tp dispenser that holds two rolls and simply hooks on to the back of the tank. So there are usually two tolls within easy reach. Good luck to you.