How to Help My Daughter Be Ok That Daddy Isnt Here

I wouldnt advise your husband to quit his job, not now that you finally got out of your MIL's house and have a new beginning. Jobs are too hard to find right now.
Our kids survive parents that work a lot of hours. You have to do what is best for your family to survive. Don't get yourself in another position to be dependent on another set of family members if you can help it. Your daughter will be fine, you have to show her you are both strong girls. When she talks him about him all you have to say to her is "Your daddy is working hard for you and me and we will see him soon."

I'm glad your husband is missing you. That's a good thing. I hope that not living with family will help you both.

As far as your daughter is concerned, I think it's the whole kit and kaboodle that is so hard for her, not just her dad being gone. I'd keep her pretty busy and on a very strict schedule. If you have ever had her in daycare, use a daycare-like schedule. It will really help. If she has meltdowns, be kind but firm. Don't yell or get mad at her. If she is awful, just tell her that she must be tired and put her in her room until she "feels better". That will give you a break, and her a break. When she is ready to come out, give her hugs and tell her you love her. That doesn't mean not to discipline her, but putting her in her room because "she must be tired" gives her an out that she needs right now. And she REALLY needs for you not to get angry at her.

I think having a good schedule, same times to rise in the mornings, eat, nap, playtimes, and bedtime along with once a day Skype talks will be fine. Even if the Skype talks can't be that often, it's okay. She will get used to this.

When your husband DOES come home, it is very important not to change her schedule. Explain that to him and ask him to work with on this.

Good luck,
Dawn

Your daughter will be fine. It is called adjustments. The whole family is going through this. Hubby is working in a different location than where you live. Like being in the military and deployment. Find things that you can do together like the park and library. Make new friends or join a Mother's Day Out program.

As another poster mentioned don't quit the job before you have another. Otherwise you are out in the cold and back where you started with the mother in law.

It will take about six months before you all have adjusted. Keep the Sykpe coming and plan for certain days that you will speak. You can get through this.

The other S.

My kids used to each sleep with one of their dad's shirts. Sometimes they cuddled it, sometimes wore it, sometimes just wanted it there in the bed. Spray it with his cologne if you have some with you.