How to Discipline or Rather Punish a Child

I highly recomend the book "The happiest Toddler on the Block" The book was recommned by her doctor and Dr. Phil endorces it on his show. Good Luck!

You might be interested in "Love & Logic" style discipline. It's mainly a technique used for classroom management (no doubt your daughter's 1st grade teacher uses it!), but it's highly effective at home too. I've read the book "Parenting with Love & Logic" by Jim Fay and Foster Cline, but I still want to get a good grip on this (I have a 3 yo and 1 yo), so I've organized a class at my church. A trained Love & Logic instructor will teach the class on November 11 at Grace Temple Baptist Church in Denton. It's from 9-5 and I can send you a registration form if you're interested. This class is specifically for parents of children birth through age 6. Deadline for paid registration ($35 per person, plus $10 for a workbook) is November 1.

I was recently looking for this same thing for my daughter. I found the following:

http://cyfernet.ces.ncsu.edu/cyfres/browse_3.php?keyword=...

I really liked this one. http://www.ces.purdue.edu/extmedia/CFS/CFS-180.html

Good luck!

I also wanted to suggest "Love and Logic"- it's awesome! The website is
http://www.loveandlogic.com/.

Try Supernanny...she is awesome. Are there things that she loves that you can take away? Are there activities/outings that she loves that you can take away?

Hi S., just wanted to let you know about this book I read about 6 years ago and with 3 daughters now ages 11,9 and 6 it is still working to this day!! Its called 1-2-3 Magic! You can find this book on Amazon.com in used condition for around $3! I know you mentioned time-outs not being very effective and this book is focused around time-outs but you could substitute that punishment for another that I'm actually using right now. I have written different consequences down on seperate little sheets of paper like no tv after school, take away favorite toy, extra chore, early bedtime, etc. Now what you would do is explain to your daughter that when she misbehaves that you will say "ok thats 1" if she continues to misbehave you will then say"ok thats 2" and if she still doesnt stop you would say"ok thats 3" If she gets to 3 she will then need to(without looking) draw a piece of paper out of the consequence jar and that is what the punishment will be for not stopping her bad behavior. I tried to describe this book as best I could but will probably want to read it for yourself. This book was amazingly helpful for me and I hope this will help you as well! Good Luck!

I am currently taking the Love and Logic class through the Duncanville ISD. Awesome course. My husband will go in the Spring. It is working too!!!

I recommend it for any parent. It teaches the child responsibility, ownership of the problem if it is their problem, teaches parents not to be helicopters yet not be drill sergeants either. It is just a wonderful class. I've learned so much.

The key to timeouts in kids this age are to keep your even voice tone (make it matter of fact) and make them sit in an awkward public place like a bottom stair, or a chair in the middle of the room (no place interesting or comfy) with both feet on the floor, hands in lap for a set amount of time. If they try to get up, just add minutes/seconds.

Another tactic is to take away things that really matter to her...don't know what that would be.

Have you tried positive reinforcements also? Maybe you could keep a chart for all the days she goes without a timeout and get her a new book/trip to the library if you're on a budget for each time she goes a week without doing it.

Hope this helps-this comes from my experience as a tutor and teacher. I also have a masters in education, and these are some tactics we learned-maybe one/some will help! Good luck! I know it's hard when you want so badly for your child to JUST BEHAVE and you don't WANT to punish them!!

R.

You may want to try a positive approach. Reward her for good behavior may motivate her to do better.