The Grandma will be staying with you, right?
You can't change him or his attitude.
He is "disappointed" perhaps, that the 2nd baby is another girl? And not a boy????
You have a girl, now, right?
I don't have any answers, except maybe your Husband was hoping for a boy this time???
But still, he should not be having that attitude. Its sad.
Did he want a 2nd baby or not?
Was it an accident?
He will have to face a HARD reality, once baby is born.
And if he can't... well maybe counseling is needed.
Regardless, his attitude, will affect the children.
TELL him that.
He is an EXAMPLE... for the children. He is a Dad whether he likes it or not. It is not a choice. And if he is a Man... he needs to step up.
Or, is he Depressed for some reason?
Since he seems so apathetic?
If so, he needs to see his Doctor.
And, you are his Wife. You are 34 weeks pregnant.
He needs to take care of you.
What if you strain yourself or fall?
He needs to do, chores too.
Be a Husband.
If he "assigns" things to you. Tell him NO.
HE can do it.
Ya gotta be... a hardliner with him.
He is NOT a "baby."
He is a Man. He is a Husband. He is a Dad.
He needs to act like one.
TELL him that.
I know, its not easy.
But he is being... really, out of line.
Have him do his OWN laundry and ironing and meals.
Since he does not act like a Man or Husband or Dad... he can do it himself.
You are NOT NOT NOT, his "maid." And you are 34 weeks pregnant.
He should be taking care of you, and his child and... his home.
It is his home too.
He is not a hotel guest.
If he cannot even.... partake in naming "His" baby too... then YOU do it.
It is his, loss.