TAKE YOUR CHILD OUT NOW AND REPORT THIS "DAYCARE PROVIDER" TO THE DCFS!!!
No car seats = LIFE THREATENING SITUATION FOR YOUR CHILD
"substitute family members without notice/ approval" =
NON-QUALIFIED, POTENTIALLY ABUSIVE PEOPLE WATCHING YOUR CHILD !!!!
The bottom line is that they do NOT respect you and they are taking advantage of you simply because you are NOT saying anything!!!
GET YOUR CHILD OUT OF THERE BEFORE SOMETHING BAD HAPPENS!!
I certainly don't mean to scare you or add stress to this situation, but seriously - these people are not responsible to say the least!!! If they are making no attempts to hide everything that you know (ie. not enough car seats, children watching inappropriate programs, sustitute-non-approved family members etc.)
----then you really have to ask yourself this question:
What else are they doing that you DON'T know about??????
It scares me to even think about it!!
And you are paying them for all this???
Paying the daycare provider for what? They certainly are not putting your mind at ease while your daughter is there.
That is something that you must have when you drop her off and go about your day - a feeling of trust, trusting that your child is going to be SAFE, and well taken care of!!!
This is a crazy world and we have to protect our children no matter what!
There are plenty of lower cost (if money is an issue) daycare providers out there that are resposible and trustworthy whom welcome open lines of communication with the parent/s. I would certainly be happy to help you find one.
Your daughter will make new friends - she is still young, so don't worry about changing her daycare/environemnt.
Make it seem like a fun thing - like she is "graduating" to a big girl's daycare now, and then smile and hug her and tell her that you are very proud of her. :)
Seriously - YOU are the voice for your child and
it is YOUR DUTY AS A MOTHER to take your child out of this unsafe environment ASAP.
You would not have written this post if you had not really thought that something was off with this daycare provider.
Follow your instincts!!
Time to pull the plug on this daycare provider ASAP, and I would report them right after you take your daughter out of there so they can't put any other child in harm's way any longer!!!!!!!