Hi B.,
You need help staanding your grounds? Well STAND ON YOUR GROUNDS!!! and don't let this "apparent" new attitude fool you. It will take a lot I mean A LOT of work and consistency from his part, to really show you he is a new man...and unfortunalety, that doesn't happen overnight, I beleive in change, I do, but not in sudden, convenient changes. It takes an inmense amount of time, work and commintment to brake old patterns, definately in his case, a lot more than free will I have to say. His been this way for a long time, and it will take that much time for him to change if he really wants to, and even THEN, to rebuild your trust? that much more.He may be feeling that this time you may really leave and eveything will be out of his control, you will be out of his control. He may realize he is loosing power over you. he is going to try to play all the games he may have left, the guilt trips, the blame game, the "you must be having an affair" card, etc, but DON"T LET THAT MAKE YOU FEEL THAT WAY...Look, if he looses you, it may help him realize that he needs to be a new man if he wants to get you back. A new, rspectful, loving, honest and honorable man, you and your kids don't deserve any less, so don't settle for any less. If he is the man for you and your kids, it may take time for him to get there, but he could...if not..then think about it...God may be freeng you from a bad relathionship, and who knows what He may have in store for you...don't miss it. Be strong and courageus, you CAN DO THIS!!
Here is my favorite verse, one that makes me remenber I am not alone..."Trust in the Lord with all your heart...lean NOT in YOUR own understanding, in all your ways acknowdlege Him, and He will make your paths straight"
A little gift to you.
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