How To? Bachlorette Party!!!

I would get a list of people first, and have everyone get together and help give ideas than assign everyone something to do, get, reserve, or whatever that way you don't end up doing all of the work and you don't get stuck with the entire bill. Also it's more fun.

Hi my name is N. and I am a Sales Director with Mary Kay. I have been with Mary Kay for 11 years. I have done bachlorette parties before and they are tons of fun. I do spa parties, that include pedicures, or I do facial and makeover parties and it is free. In the past each person that comes pitches in money in a card, that way at the end of the party the bride to be can shop for what she wants with the money in the card, then after I leave you can do the bar thing, and you will be all maid up!

Good Luck,
N.
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Hi Liz,

First, I have to say, I am a Pure Romance consultant so I am biased.

First, the key is that the bachelorette has fun otherwise what is the point?!? Has she given you any idea what she wants? It is my opinion that most girls have the most fun socializing and getting a little crazy so that they can talk about it again later.

Keeping that in mind and keeping your financial well-being in check, I would consider starting an evening with a Pure Romance party (no cost to you), having some drinks and food (you could determine the budget) and consider having a stripper come to your place (ask the guests to contribute to the cost). That way you get a little of all of that and do it from the safety of your own home without worrying about transportation, losing someone at the bars or spending a ton of money on drinks or hotel rooms....

If your friend really wants to go out, I would be upfront with her about your financial budget and still trying to do a couple of things to break up the evening. Maybe some spa treatments (pediures aren't too expensive comparatively)? Ask other close friends to help plan, decide and pay. I know I would be willing to do that for a friend!

Good Luck!
K.

I am throwing a very sudden party for my sister this weekend. What to do and where to go, and how much you pay for depends a lot on where you are and what's available. There is not much here... I'm in Salem, OR... so we are going to hang out at a friends house for a bit to have a few drinks the cheap way... everyone is bringing a bottle of their choice... and then we are going to have dinner at a restaurant/lounge sort of place... by then she should be feeling pretty good so we're going to take her cosmic bowling (If you've never heard of that, it's bowling with the lights out... black lights, music, strobe lights, etc... real good while drunk!). Before the night is over, we're going to head to some bars that I know some of her really old friends hang out at... ones she had when she was 9 or 10. She'll definately be "not herself" by then so it should be a good show!!!
If you're not into drinking, I would say... get really dressed up, like she's going to prom or something, and go have dinner at a nice place... maybe desert somewhere else that's known for good deserts or has her favorite. I don't know how "mature" you're group is, but one thing we love is miniature golf... you can always get goofy, etc.
I"m planning one, and I had one only a little over a year ago... let me know if you need anymore help... I would love to suggest more if I knew more details about likes, dislikes, area, etc.

Hey Liz,
I've never had to plan one myself but I've been to a few and they were as different as the women getting married. I would talk with your friend and see what things she has in mind. Take from her ideas and come up with a few of your own to make sure she is surprised. If there are other bridesmaids in the wedding or other close friends you could ask for them to help with planning and sharing the financial part of the party. My friends did that for my party. The last one I was invited to they took the bride on a scavanger hunt in down town seattle, I thought that was a cute idea. There are a lot of ideas on the web and some websites especially dedicated to party planning. Good luck and remember to have fun with it!!!!

It really depends on what your friend wants. I created one, but my sister-in-law was really not into the stripper thing (nor was I). Instead, we went to a comedy club (and it was AWESOME), and I made sure we had the front two tables, and I found a white hat that said "Bride" on it, and attached a sort of veil on the back of it (and made her wear it). That made sure the comedians noticed her...so she felt as if the show was for her especially. Then we ended up meeting back up with her fiance later, after he had gone out golfing for his bachelor party, and partied for some time afterward (I made sure I was available to DD anyone home...my husband and I tend to do that).

I can't say it was cheap. It would have been, but many of the women who went to the comedy club never paid me for their tickets...so it cost me about $150 just for that...but you could make sure they pay before they walk in (I'll do that next time).

We all know you're going to end up bar hopping and that stuff, becuase that's how it usually ends, but here's an idea. I went to the funnest bachelorette party, and it started out as a lucheon with some drinks, then, the scavanger hunt began. We broke up into teams of two, and we hit the city. We had to do things like, get some man to give us his boxers, steal a glass from a bar(extra points if it was a shot or martini glass) that had the name of the bar on it, have some one tape us on our digital camera singing a song whild dancing on a fountain, and all kinds of funny things. It was wierd at first, but it was the funnest, and we were so loosened up by the end of the night(we had four drink pit stops along the way, where we met up with the other girls and did a couple of shots), we were so loosened up, we had all this stuff, and wild stories to tell about how we got them. Oh, and along the way, we had to somehow convince some one to give us something that we knew the bridep-to-be really loved. We hunted down her favorite movie from when we were kids. It was super fun. Then, I suggest Karaoke, because it's fun.
I'd save the passion party for the bridal shower, because it's really funny to see your relatives squirm in the beginning, then by the end of it, they're holding toys and laughing. It's great!!

how much u spend depends on where u have the party cake decorations if u go out or rent a motel rm stripper or adult toys ect or if its just cake ice cream and gifts 4 the bride

I know where you are coming from. I have planned so many Bachlorette Parties I have lost track. This prompted me to start my own business as an event planner. First, find out what she wants for a night out on the town. Wild, mild, extravagant, silly or serious. This will help you map out the night. Next don't hesitate to ask her guests to pitch in. This should be expected and they will know it is coming. You can save a little by starting at home. Have everyone bring a bottle and a dish. Something that goes with a theme, Hawaiin Luau, Mexican Fiesta, Silk and Lace, Lingerie party, Broadway, Back to the Prom etc. This way you can start getting a little into the theme of things before hitting the road and have some food in your stomachs. This is just for starters. Please let me know if you want help mapping out the entire night and some suggestions for locations, recipes and more themes. Good luck and remember to have fun with this one!!

Sounds like you've got your work cut out for you!!! You could always have me help you with a theme featuring Girls Night In (www.shopgni-staciestoney.com for more info) to get the party started. Then carry the theme out for the entire night. Example, Martini Party...make your own martini's at the house, shop from GNI, then head out to a grown-up night on the town to a piano bar (which are totally cool!) Okay, I'm trying to push my business, I know, but you should check it out.
The other thing, what are her interests? For my bachlorette party, my sister threw me a "Beauty Pageant Themed Party", because I am a former pageant girl. So we all got dressed up in evening gowns, and she had a whole night planned...yes, it involved a male strip club, which you don't really need to do...but we went all over Seattle to a variety of clubs...we had a runway to strut our stuff...it was very memorable.
The other very popular thing right now are spas. Look into a local spa and see what they offer and what discounts they'd give you for a Bachlorette Party! Good Luck and Have Fun!

Hi Liz,
This should be a FUN event for everyone (you too!), and it shouldn't be ruined for you by having to worry about being broke at the end of it! If you are throwing it, then yes, you are completely in charge of organization. However, you may be able to split some responsibilities with one or two more close friends of the bride-to-be and be "co-planners". They may bring more fresh ideas to the table and help out considerably!
As far as the financial aspect, things like party favors, decorations and food are yours (and co-planners), but if you are crafty and good in the kitchen, then you can save a bundle. BTW-you DO want to make sure everyone has food in their belly before going club hopping...less sick/vomiting girls on your hands. As far as party limo's or whatever, these are a great idea to make sure everyone gets home (or to someone's home) safe, BUT they should be expected to pay for their share of the ride. I know there are party buses available to rent to get you from club to club, and you can divy it up depending on how many people you have coming to the party. Another idea, if you are going to party in downtown Seattle is to get one or two hotel rooms within walking distance to the bars (pioneer square?) and also have everyone pitch in. That way, people can have a little more freedom and still not have to drive. I assume these ladies know you well enough to know that you are not a millionaire, and shouldn't expect you to pay for EVERYTHING. Most people are pretty happy to pitch in some cash for things like this....it's not a weekly event, after all!
Also, there is (or used to be)a male strip club called Centerfolds near the Ballard area (on 15th) if your friend(s) are into that...it's a little pricey to get in, but there are ALWAYS bachlorette parties there. No booze in the club, but there is a tavern right next door that serves cheap drinks!
Anyway, hope this helps you out. (I'm older and have done this before in case you couldn't tell;)
Good luck!

I am just now checking my email and apologize for responding so late. You may have this resolved but if not I thought I could give some ideas! I sell Pure romance and also love and think I'm pretty good at party planning. I have been to several bachlorette parties not just as entertainment but also as a guest. Strippers can be spending but very enertaining, a limo around town is fun but is alot of money for a ride to the bar. I would recommend figuring the guest list before the planning. Most parties I have been to guest have pitched in. If you get an idea of how many are coming you can figure an amount to pitch in. Most people dont mind because its for their entertainment or ride too! My bachlorette party we had strippers, a limo, the club and everyone pitched in. You also can have a "naughty party" to entertain guest prior to going out. It could save money on entertainment and keep guests busy and give you time to have fun too! Please let me know if you need anymore ideas or maybe even someone to book a party with! Good luck!

Financially speaking, all such events should be considered no host. When you invite some of her friends and family you can discuss the amount they are willing to spend and also what activities they would feel comfortable participating in. I have declined invitations that include sex toy parties and strippers as they do not fit my personal comfort zone. Limo's should be shared equally (not by honoree but by any others who ride) and meals and drinks are all on guests unless in your home and then you foot the bill for part and ask for each guest to contribute from a list that fits your theme. Live and learn, you cannot assume full financial liability for these things because life is just full of them! Spas are a great idea and guest can pitch in to cover her spa treatments and elegant or dinner following. Good luck.

I'm from around you, and if you are looking to go a bit cheap you could always take her to Darcells. The first show is a drag queen show(which is ALOT of fun). Darcell also will make the bride stand on stage and he gives her champagne and stuff. Then, at midnight there are male stippers if she is into that. It is alot of fun if you go with a large group of friends. Let me know if you want more info! Also, for my bachelorette party my mom hired a stripper to come to my house because I was under 21...but it was fun!

If you want a Limo I can recommend you to Dream limo in Salem. We do a lot of Portland work. We have a 2007 Hummer and Party Bus. Check out our website at dreamlimooforegon.com or call ###-###-####. You could have evryone pich in with that cost and like someone said take her to Darcells. Hope this helps.

Hi! I'm actually a Pure Romance consultant, and I would love to do a bachelorette party for you. A Pure Romance party is a great way to start the evening off if you want to go out. We can discuss a theme if you'd like, and I definitely like to hook up the hostess and the bride too. We play games before, during and after the party, and really the only investment you need to make is refreshments,(and if you want to get creative, I have ideas and can bring something myself), something for yourself at the party (you get free stuff too), and I usually have the guests pool a little money so the bride can confidentially pick out what she wants. You can schedule it as a morning champagne brunch party, afternoon get together, or evening party, depending on whether you want to go party it up in town.I can help you plan it all out for you if you need help. So let me know if you would be interested!

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I also used to work at Stars, and I think they are doing Male Revues out there on a regular basis now. Would you like me to find out?