You and your husband don't need to make an announcement to her saying "we can't be friends with you anymore" But I would say, you need to not be friends anymore. Friends do not call up their married friends in the middle of the night to flirt or whatever. That's not what it means to be a friend. She' not your friend. Or his friend. Maybe she was at one time, but recently, no, she's not a friend. So don't call her one, or consider her one. She's simply an ex trying to start something up again with your husband.
I may pay her a visit just to let her know you're aware of her recent late night texting and drunk flirting, and you are hurt that she would act this way. And suggest she try dating or flirting with men who are actually single, as a respectable person would do. That's about it. I wouldn't go off in a huge tirade of anything. And I would tell her you don't care to engage in conversation any further. Don't listen to her "explain" or get drawn into anything. Just keep it simple, serious, and short, and walk away.
Then I would quietly remove and block her from your social media and phone. And tell your husband that you have done so because right now she isn't a friend to either of you, doesn't he agree? I would hope he follows suit, but I wouldn't ask him too or demand it of him. Give him some time to draw his own conclusions. He may prefer to ignore anything further and not change any settings or friends' lists, which may give this more attention, and that's OK too.
This is a grown woman, not a school girl, and I'm sure she will survive just fine with other people as friends. She does not need you and your husband to be her friend. She is certainly capable of moving on. Just be cordial if you run into her in mixed company, and don't trash her to mutual friends or other people.
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You and your husband don't need to make an announcement to her saying "we can't be friends with you anymore" But I would say, you need to not be friends anymore. Friends do not call up their married friends in the middle of the night to flirt or whatever. That's not what it means to be a friend. She' not your friend. Or his friend. Maybe she was at one time, but recently, no, she's not a friend. So don't call her one, or consider her one. She's simply an ex trying to start something up again with your husband.
I may pay her a visit just to let her know you're aware of her recent late night texting and drunk flirting, and you are hurt that she would act this way. And suggest she try dating or flirting with men who are actually single, as a respectable person would do. That's about it. I wouldn't go off in a huge tirade of anything. And I would tell her you don't care to engage in conversation any further. Don't listen to her "explain" or get drawn into anything. Just keep it simple, serious, and short, and walk away.
Then I would quietly remove and block her from your social media and phone. And tell your husband that you have done so because right now she isn't a friend to either of you, doesn't he agree? I would hope he follows suit, but I wouldn't ask him too or demand it of him. Give him some time to draw his own conclusions. He may prefer to ignore anything further and not change any settings or friends' lists, which may give this more attention, and that's OK too.
This is a grown woman, not a school girl, and I'm sure she will survive just fine with other people as friends. She does not need you and your husband to be her friend. She is certainly capable of moving on. Just be cordial if you run into her in mixed company, and don't trash her to mutual friends or other people.