How Old Is Too Old? - Dallas,TX

Too old for what? There's 20 years between my sister in law and her husband, and 10 between my husband and me. Both marriages work. Very well.

Hi A., I don't really think it would be a problem now, but how are you going to feel when he's 80 and you're 60? Just somethinto think about, but on the other hand, really sweet guys are hard to come by!

Too old for what, exactly? If you are attracted to him and he is a good man, I definitely think he is date-able. I know this sounds weird, but make sure you are not subconsciously attracted to him BECAUSE he is older--like in a father-figure type way. Otherwise, I think you should have fun and not worry about the age difference. :)

My husband is exactly 10 years old than me. I am 43. He is also in better health than I am. He is one HOT babe! And I am the luckiest girl in the world to have found him. We just got married in June and I thank God everyday for leading him to me. We are so much more compatible than previous relationships and I am thrilled. Age is just a number, but I had to think about everything realistically, too. When I am 50, he will be 60 and so on. Men age faster than women alot of the time. I decided I would take the chance.
Base a relationship on the really important things. How does he treat you? How do you feel when you are with him? Do you have the same ideas about money, sex, kids, religion, politics, etc. Those are the daily things that can get you. Age is just a number, but those other things can make or break a relationship. Good luck! B. Walker P.

My husband is 9 years older than me and he's perfect...for me! It really depends on you, your future, and what the man is like....does he act old? or does he still have vigor for life and active? also, would you consider having children with this man if you were to marry? with an older man, you have some risk of birth defects and also, he may just not have enough energy to actively participate in the child's life. I'm 42 now and my husband is 51 but no one believes how old we are because we look younger and my husband has loads of energy and acts youthful....so, for us, it's a great age. I had children at 37 and 39. I would loved to have had more but because of my age and my husband's age, we stopped at 2. But, the main thing is....how does treat you, does he love you with all of heart and it is reflected in everything he does? If so, then he may be the one. Don't worry about what other people think! Listen to your heart and ask God for wisdom! have fun!

Who cares what other people think? It's your life and your happiness. No one can tell you who is too old or too young for you because we all have different personalities. The girl above who stated she did not get along well with her 10 yr older boyfriend does not mean that you won't. If he makes you happy, then his age is perfect. Don't worry about what society thinks. If you like him,date him and if it works out,great, and if not, no big deal. Life is too short.
The good thing about dating someone older is that you'll always be a young woman in their eyes. :-)

The question is not what everyone else thinks it is what you think. You just need to check your own feelings on how you feel about him and how well he is with your kids. If you are still not sure then go out with him a few times but dont let your kids meet him until you know for sure.

Good Luck!
L

My X is 10 years older than I am and the only time we noticed the age difference was when a song came on the radio that was released during my midde or high school years. Oh, the X part had absolutely nothing to do with the age difference.

You could consider what things will be like when you are 60 and he is 75 but that is 30 years from now, thirty years and it would likely be longer, is a long time to be happy. Neither one of you have any idea which would be healthier as you age. There are a few men at church who remain in good health while their wives are not.

I would think at this juncture in your life, you would not be willing to pass on the right guy for worrying about propriety or the potential that you might be left alone in your golden years because that is just as likely to happen given male and female life expectancies if you married someone your own age.

Forget about how old you two are and figure out if he is the right guy.

at this age i would have to say it's fine, now when you are very young it is a much bigger deal because you don't really know who you are yet. but obviously you are a grown adult & so i don't think age matters much at this point

my hubby is 9 1/2 yrs older than me. yes he remembers the year i was born, but at the end of the day we are best friends with a huge spark. i met him when i was 21 and married at 25. i waited till i grew up a little before marriage. but you are past the 20s so that's not an issue for you. personally, no, i couldn't see dating someone that much older than me, but to each their own. if you match in every way that counts (kids, religion, etc.) then the choice is yours. as for kids, do you want more and does he? that is an issue that could arrise if you don't agree. take your time and talk stuff out. you'll figure out if it will work. it did for us, together over 10 yrs and married 6 of them.

My hubby is 10 years older and sometimes I think he is not old enough. :) Go for it!

My husband is 6 yrs older than me. In Dec we will celebrate 20 yrs of marriage.

I am 47 and I easily pass for early 30's. He is 53 and he looks more like he is in his 40's due to some premature graying of his hair. We are both in great shape and no one believes our real ages.

It all depends on your connection with each other. My husband is my soulmate and best friend. As long as there is no "motive" either way and you truly care for each other....go for it.

Isn't age just a number? *S*

A.,

My Fiance is 12 yrs older than I am and he treats me wonderful. No one even mentions or seems to care about our age difference and even if they did I do not care. I agree with what others have said that you are at an age where you should know what you want. If I met Sam when I was in my early 20's it probably would not have worked out but I am glad that we met when we did. I noticed that you have children but you did not mention if he had children. I can honestly say that the only differences we have had is how we raise/discipline our children but we are now working on that together. Blended families can be difficult but if you work on it together it should be fine. I would say as long as you are happy and he treats your children good go for it and be happy!!!

My husband is 9 years older than me and things couldn't be better after 7 years.

My Mom married my stepfather when she was 35 (we were 6 and 11) and he was 52... 30 years later and life is grand! He is my hero and I could not imagine my mothers’ life any other way, love is all that matters. Go For It!

Good Luck,
E.

NO! Age doesnt matter in my opinion. Go for it!!!!

My husband is almost 13 years older than me. We have been friends for over 10 years and married for 3 years now. If you like this guy and he seems like a good fit in your life, age is not a boundary. Go for it!

Too old?

No, girl have fun! You only live once. If it were me, I would just keep my kids and my new guy friend separate.

Good Luck!

Eliyah

I would have a huge problem with it if you were younger and hadn't lived your life or kinda settled into who you are yet. That does take time. By the time you reach 30, you ought to have an idea of who you are so you're not just following what someone wants of you.
My husband is the perfect match for me. He's 17 years older, and not a day goes by that I wonder if we were meant to be. We just fit, and that's all that matters. Once you're both mature enough to know who you 2 are, the age difference begins to shrink. Good luck to you.

I really think more than 10 yrs is too old. I dated someone around 15 yrs older for a while. An even got engaged but after time went by. The difference in our age created disagreements at times. An we ended up having a hard time getting along. So I had to call it off an leave him. I really advise you not to date anyone much older than 7 or 8 yrs older.