Grrrrrrr... I really don't like being called out in public or calling someone else. But I have to also agree that I'm giving an anti-flower, thumbs down, and the rasberry to what Joan C said.
First of all, I've been a family caregiver for 24 years and I don't run an orphanage! Second of all, if I had the money to run an orphanage, I'd do it lovingly and make it fun for all! Grrr...
Okay now in answer to your question.. My average daycare parent works 8-9 hours per day with a 1 hour lunch. With drive time included it's an average of 9-10 hour days. In fact, single moms will be 10-11 hour days. Two parent families often have one drop off later and one earlier so that the child only needs to be in care 8 hours or even a bit less depending on their schedules. But the average child that I see is not from a two parent home.
Many of my kids have been with me since birth or soon after. They become like part of the family. Take 2 children I have right now in particular. 1 of the boys has been with me since 8 weeks. He's so comfortable with me that he gives me the same angst at times as he does his mother LOL! Most kids are better behaved for everyone BUT their parents. Anyway, he's a great kid, absolutely smart as a tack, and when he goes to school I will have had him 6 years because he missed the cut off for school. Does that sound like a boy that is lost and lonely without his mother? He's 5 and reads a little already and writes like a 1st or 2nd grader. He loves math and I could tell you intimately all his favorite foods, games, and the like.
Boy # 2 started at 16 months, also missed the cut off for school and will be with me until his mother moves out of state. He's been with me 4 years already. I've taught him almost as much as the other boy. He'll be ready for 1st grade when he goes back to school. Again, I know him intimately, his likes, dislikes, and of course, I know a lot about both these moms after all these years.
Our youngest baby is 6 months old. He's a dandy little guy. My mother and I love him to pieces. He's happy, expressive, learning so much it's astounding. He couldn't be happier. I'm on facebook with his mother and I see the pictures she posts and know pretty much all the time what his parents are up to, family visits, activities, when he was baptised etc. We are in constant communication during and after daycare. Does this sound like a child SHOVED someplace and missing out?
My best advice to you is find someone in their 40's, Christian, that has been providing care more half or more than half their life like me. Choose a home over a center because they will get more attention. Make sure they are smoke free, drug free, and that their home seems always to be clean and cared for. There are MANY of us in the world that make childcare our life. We are in every city. Just look and don't stop looking until you find the right person.