How Do I Say That It's Mine?

Tell him the truth. You use the juicer plus it has sentimental value for you.

The son may have asked because he could put it to good use if the juicer is just sitting on the shelf. But it's not, you are using it so it doesn't even make sense for you to lend it back to him. One of you is probably going to have to buy a new juicer. And since you want back the one you have, it makes more sense for the son to buy a new juicer for his dad as well as his wife's new dietary changes.

if it is for sentimntal reasons and not costs, I'd J. offer to buy him one and say the other has sentimental value.
it;s not worth the fight or bad blood it could cause in all honesty

I'm happy to lend it to you, however, it was a gift from your father and it means a lot to me. If you like, I can buy you a comporable one to use. Or I can bring you this one if I have your solemn promise to return it. I'm sure you know how much your parents mean to me and this is all I have to remind me of them.

Perhaps let him know that,
"You know, your father gave this to me after your mother passed, and it has a lot of sentimental value to me. I'd appreciate it if you would be really super careful with it, because, to me, it is irreplaceable."

He might decide to just buy his own.

ETA: I like Tracyxo's post better than mine. ;)

I lika Aunt Mel Mel's answer. Something like " you know, I think of your mom & our time together every time I use this thing--I was touched when your dad gave it to me after she passes. I don't think I can be without it for too too long. Could I help you find a new or used O. in the meantime?"

Buy him a juicer and let him know the one he's using means something to you.

Truth..."Please understand that I mean no disrespect here but you're dad did give this to me after your mother's passing and I use it and when I do I think of her, please make sure it is returned to me."

He might get huffy a little but at least your honest.

His asking you for the juicer makes me think that he's not aware that it was GIVEN to you by his dad. Otherwise, if his wife is starting a new juicer health-kick, why wouldn't they invest in one themselves? Honestly, if you use it quite often I'd just say that you're so thankful that his dad gave it to you because you use it all the time and the gift means a lot to you.

Heather, I don't think that he'll give it back no matter what you say to him. It is really strange that he is asking for it.

I doubt that it's really so much about using it for his dad. I think it's more about his wife using it.

Dawn

If it has sentimental value to me I would not loan it because they could not replace the value of it.

Do not loan it out. You will not see it again if you do. It is more than an odd request that he asked that of you - weird actually! If you can, purchase a juicer and give it to him.

Since it's in your possession I would NOT loan it out. If you do you won't get it back, I guarantee it. The reason the son is asking for it now isn't to borrow it but to reclaim it. Taking you at your word that it was already gifted to you by your relative and her husband, I would say,

"I prefer not to lend it out because it means so much to me. Your dad was so sweet to give it to me after your mother passed away, and it reminds me of the time I was lucky enough to spend so much time taking care of her. I use it regularly because those memories are so special to me. I'm sure you understand."

That way you're establishing your claim and politely saying, "No." If he insists then you say, "I'm sorry, Thor, but I'm done talking with you about this. I would be happy to contribute to the cost of a new one. I'll write you a $50 check today and drop it in the mail, but this subject is closed."

If you feel that strongly about it maybe you should just say when your done can you call me and I will come by and get the juicer since I do still use it. Or you can buy them one. I would not even lend it out to tell you the truth....you never get stuff back. I mean really its yours cant they just go get one. Sometimes a little white lie doesn't hurt.....I might say it broke.

I would have written what Lee Lee did.

Good luck to you and yours.

sounds like he is trying to reclaim it. maybe say...
since it was given to me we use it all the time, so we really cant be with out it. Sorry.

I'm sorry but its a juicer! If you don't want to lend it out, you don't have to. You say that you use it all the time and would prefer to not loan it out. I don't know what they cost but it seems to me that he could go buy one.

When people loan me anything they usually say "Use it for as long as you need (or in this case as long as he needs) it. But I want it back when your done". Usually works. Sometimes it with a reminder. It would be harder with this situation to pick the perfect time. It might be given away if you wait too long and might seem rude if you ask too quickly. I would think after a month if you havent received it mention it again. Call and ask or drop by and see how they are doing mention " if its easily accessible could I get the juicer back?" Good luck I hate sticky situations and would most likely give it knowing I would never get it back.

I would buy them a cheaper one and just give it to them to keep. If they ask what the H*** I would remind them that the other one was a gift and it is special to you.

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Do you have any of those sticker address labels?

That is what I use on my things when I loan them to people. If you do not have any, use a sharpie marker to write on the bottom of it...
"Please return to HeatherL P 800-123-4567"

When you drop it off say, "I have my name and number on the bottom, so call me to pick it up, when you dad is finished using it. I love this juicer that he gave me. It reminds me of the times I was able to spend with your mother."

Write your name on it in permanent marker. :) Nah, that's kind of passive agressive. You got some great advice, I would go with that!

Out of curiosity, what brand is it?

Curious who has possession of the juicer? If you had it wouldn't it just have been easier to not turn it over to them? Or if they have possession of the juicer because it was still in the home and you were not in the home I question the value of that juicer to you because your never took possession of it.

Personally I don't place that kind of value on things. The memories are what matters. To keep the peace, I would just buy the same brand juicer and be done with it if they already have possession of the juicer you were promised.

If you are still living in the house, you can let them know in polite conversation that the juicer is yours. Honestly the juicer is being used and is probably closer to the end of its life rather than the begining of it. Keep that in mind too.

One of my relatives fought for a record player that was in the family house so long ago. They did win it but suddenly it stopped working, not because of any foul play but because it was just old. It actually costed more to fix it than a new player but was worth it to the family member because of the sentimental value. Again I value people sentimentally not things. Success with this matter to you.

First of all you should not have offered it. They will probably not want to go to the trouble of doing that and it will get stuck in the cupboard. You are giving yourself anxiety now because you offered it and they did not ask. I put my name of things that I want to get back with permanent black magic marker so that I get things back from office pot lucks and church socials.