How Do I Help My 7 Year Old Understand

I think at seven they are capable of understanding but are still a little self centered at times. My seven year old was moody and mean to her sister until I realized that she was jealous of my little one being home with me during the day whle she was at school. My husband works a lot of nights so taking her out really wasn't a good option. Instead once a week I let her stay up late after her sister has gone to bed and we do different things together like bake cookies, play games, watch a movie etc. She feels like she is getting something extra and I always get a big hug at bedtime that night.

Do you have the option of hiring a sitter one afternoon/evening a week so you could take your older son out to dinner and for some mom time?

I also know there are good books and resources out there explaining to older kids about their younger siblings special needs...do some internet searching! =)

Rachel,

Are saying not once during the week your husband cannot watch the little one so you can take off and have mommy time with your seven year old? Does he work 24/7 during the week? Sounds like you have your hands full and you need mommy time alone also. I would hire a babysitter if my husband cannot help. Good luck!

I would make "dates" with your elder son and let him stay up later to do so. I assume your 2 year old goes to be earlier than the 7year old. Wait until he is down and then order pizza delivery, get a movie, read together, ice cream sundaes etc. Just the two of you. If you can go out, then go to a Chinese restaurant and let him order what he wants. That sort of stuff that a 2 year old isn't ready for. Best of luck to you, Nat.

it does seem that each child needs their own time with mommy. it doesn't have to be a whole day so you don't need to wait for those days off. maybe could try for an hour here and there. early morning, during evan's naptime, later at night? good luck

Hi Again....yes any behavior problem with Aaron is likely stemming from lack of time with mom. Kids with siblings who have any kind of special needs are often left out. I would suggest that you find the time - whether you get a babysitter or a mother's helper might be good too - a younger girl who can come play Evan while you and Aaron do your own thing elsewhere in the house- play a game together, etc. Aaron's needs are just as imperative - they just aren't as visible. You might also want to talk to Evan's dad's and see what you can work out - maybe he goes there for dinner one night a week so you and Aaron can have some time alone.

The other thing you can do is try getting Evan to bed early enough that you and Aaron can has some time alone to read, talk, play star wars or whatever....
Best of luck - you are doing a great job!