I am looking for advice on holiday cards. Currently I am technically married but almost two years seperated from my husband (he had an affair) we are over the hurt etc and are co-parenting the best we can but are getting a divorce. We have a 3 1/2 year old daughter (Maddy) and my "husband" has a 19 year old son (Mark) that i have raised as my own for the last 6 years (his mother is not in the picture at all)
Cards i'm giving out this year are to family, friends, mutual friends from being married and acquaitenances (sp?)
How should i address cards? Should i write Sincerely D., Maddy and Mark? do I exlude my stepson? That doesn't seem right either. I'd be surprised if my ex does cards but don't really feel like asking bc it could spark a fight. we get along as best any divorced couple do :)
Thx for the advice everyone! For some I put Sincerely D., Maddy and Mark and other's I put The Jone's Family - this was more appropriate for acquaitenaces we both have. ! Thank you!
I don't think anyone would fault you if you didn't send cards this year. Not sure how you feel about that, but it's an option.
It's just me and my daughter although she does have her dad's last name (we were never married) so our names are different. I sign them Love, the Smith-Jones Family. Because we are family despite our names being different. If you all have the same name, The Smith Family is fine, in my opinion. Good Luck and Happy Holidays!
Mark is an adult so usally most stop signing their adult children's names to cards unless they still live with them and are single. But in this case I would make a point to add his name so that he and others understand that you and both children are still a family, especially if you and Mark look at each other as family whether you and Dad are married or not. I think it would go a long way for Mark, you and your daughter to add Mark's name so everyone knows you three are still a family. Then every year after that you can ask Mark if he will be doing his own cards, and ask him if he would like his name added to the cards you're sending out. I did that with my son until he got married. His opinion was, "Whatever", lol. They're guys, lol.
K. B
mom to 5 including triplets
I kicked my cheating ex out on 12/27 and was divorced the following June. So many people that only got my annual xmas letter/pic was a little suprised if they didn't hear about it thru the family/friend gossip mill. So that following letter I simply said that unfortunately we divorced because he was "not making family friendly choices" and then signed it me and the kids. I would do the same if I were you and yes, include your step son. Good luck.
I personally wouldn't exclude your stepson. He's still your stepson, you are NOT divorcing him, and he's your daugther's brother. That said...does he live with you? Are you still involved w/ him? The answer to either is yes, I would stick w/ my first answer. If the answer to both are no, I guess you could leave his name off.
be the bigger person & put everyones 1st name on them & leave out the divorce part
Make it easy on yourself. How about signing:
The "H" Family
how about just using your last name and leaving it up to interpretation? you've been separated for 2 years so it's not like it should be this big awkward thing.
"merry christmas, the joneses." insert your name :)
Sincerely D., Maddy and Mark
Perfect
You include who it is from without the mr and mrs.
I like the suggestion you offered - Sincerely D., Maddy and Mark. That seems natural and "right" to you, so go with it.
I would sign it "The Smith's" (insert your last name). Guess it depends on how much information you want others to know (and if you're going back to your maiden name or keeping his). Best of luck.
I would think it odd if you included an explanation.
Sign your name, your daughter's name and your SS's name........
Let your husband worry about what to do on his, and if she also includes his daughter and son--no biggie, right?
