D.F.
Hi J.
I just recently lost my husband. The best thing you can do for her is listen and see how she is doing. I had ALOT of help. My BFF and my mom and lots of other family were there for me those first days.
The one thing I really have a hard time doing is going to the grocery store. I just can't concentrate enough to get what I need. I end up going a couple times a week. I didn't cook for the first month. We ate out alot. Which was very expensive.
My kids are older so I can't really help there. We each have our moments when it hits us and we break down. We hold each other and talk it out. We usually end up with a good story about him and laugh.
The one piece of advice I would give to your friend. LET YOURSELF FEEL THE EMOTIONS. If you are MAD be MAD. If you are SAD be SAD. As women we try to take care of everything else and stuff our feelings especially when we have kids we need to be strong for. I am still working through it. I am very sad. I miss him so bad. Luckily I have a job. When I am there I stay busy and don't let myself stay in the sadness. I can come out of it for a while. Does that make sense?
Thank you for being a friend. I am sure she will appreciate what you are doing.
Good Luck and GOD BLESS!
D.