Helping a Fellow Mom with "Mom Guilt"

Is there a room in the house with a window she can look in and not be seen by him? I know when I dropped my son off at daycare, the thing that helped me most was when I had to talk to the director and then went back and looked in the room and saw my son playing happily. Then I knew he was ok. If she can do that, or if you can maybe take a video with a camera that has a clock on it so she can see what time it is, and video him after she leaves when he stops crying so she can see he's ok after a few minutes of bye-bye crying. :)

My son did the same thing and as soon as I shut the door, he was fine. I could hear him stop crying through the door. Can you take a video to show that he stops crying so soon? Doesn't have to be fancy, it can just be on your cell phone. Or have her peek in the window after a couple of minutes.

Tell her that his crying when she leaves is his way of saying he loves her. Wouldnt she be upset if he was happy she left him and ran off to play without looking back? But yes great idea others had, as soon as he stops crying, take a picture with your cell phone and send it to hers, She will know it was right then, and will be fine.
Nice of you to be so willing to have the kids that early. When I did day care I had a couple moms who worked in a bakery and believe me,, they had to show up in the middle of the night. I did it happily too.

I'm not sure what you could tell her except that this is very normal behavior. I would think that her seeing how he's happily playing with your daughter when she come to pick him up would be enough.

Can you video him on your phone and then show her how he stops so quickly?

Text her 30 seconds after she leaves with an update of picture of him being just fine. It's VERY normal.

Show her pictures of him playing and enjoying himself. If you have a camera that time and date stamps you can prove that he's normal just minutes after her exit.

I agree with the video taping. Try to talk her into keeping him with you with the video tape evidence. My son was like that at that age and in retrospect I think he enjoyed the time with other kids so well it was worth the couple of minutes of being upset to him

take a picture with a phone or time stamp camera (you can set up digital cameras to print the time stamp) and email it to her or show her at pick up - I do this all the time with my daycare kids

I guess great minds think alike LOL!! I suggest video as others have already. Do either of you have video on your phones? Or have her come back to the front door a few minutes after she leaves. A video is worth a thousand words.

All these mamas are exactly right...I run a home daycare and have to deal w/ this occasionally and it is very hard for a parent to leave, go do their job and do it well, if they are worrying about their sad child...usually kids snap out of it pretty quickly...and parents REALLY appreciate seeing a picture of their smiling face shortly after they leave to know they are ok! I always text and send pics as soon as the child stops crying (usually before mom and dad are out of the driveway) and they have told me it makes them feel so much better! It's definitely normal behavior and you are a good friend to be helping her out and by being concerned! It'll all work out! :)