R.W.
Hi S., it sounds like you may need to spice it up a little. Try the sexy lingerie after the kids go to bed. If there are no problems in that area, ask a friend to watch the kids for a night for you and make plans ahead of time. This way, he won't back out as easily. Could it be he doesn't like the people you go out with? If it is, make plans for just the two of you. There are many things that couples can do. If this doesn't work, you may need to just be honest with him. Tell him you miss him and you want more time with him. Good Luck.