Hi there....My son was diagnosed ADHD when he was 5 years old. I definitely feel it was something that was "pushed" by the teachers at his school, because he didn't fit in the their spectrum of what a student should do and what they should act like everyday. He was busy, and still is. He is 11 years old now. Well anyway....he was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 5, we battled different meds for a couple years, then I took him off for a couple more, but it got to the point where we had to do something to help him, or he was going to fail a grade. We found this Dr. that had done more testing on him that any other had done before. She did physical testing, and took all kinds of blood to check for things in his blood, salts in his brain, just a bunch of stuff. So I was very impressed just at that. Well, she came to the conclusion that he could be 1 of 2 different things, or a combonation of the two. And that was ADHD and Sensory Processing disorder. You should read up on the sensory one, it fit him so well. So she actually did placebo trials with meds that would help with both things and showed him little tricks for him to do himself to help his mind slow down enough for him to focus. Since then, school has been wonderful. There was a time when it wasn't. He will still have a few days where he gets a inconsistent, but thats every kid. School is another story. They are so quick to complain, pigeon hole them, take away needed recesses that are sooo important for our special children to burn off excess energy....the list goes on. I'm proactive when it comes to my sons disorder and I have gotten into it with teachers and principals over him. I know alot about certain rules at school and laws that I ran into when we were having trouble a few years back. Not all teachers are like that though, but you can pick which ones are going to be usually right away.
Another issue for my son was his routine. It still is too. If he is "interrupted" with what he is doing, he gets very upset. He used to tell us when he was younger that it "hurt" him when we would tell him it was dinner time, or time to go, or time for whatever and my husband and I were baffled by this and just thought it was just an excuse for him to not come to the table on time, or not hop in the shower on time, or not go to bed on time. Well, after we found his new Dr, she said his routine was very important. We had to start giving him like 15, and 10 minute warnings for things so he knew to expect them. She said children like him need that, or to them, it's just as annoying and bothersome as physical pain is to us, and so that is how it made him feel, only not in a physical sense. So his "tantrums" got less and less severe. My husband used to just say oh there's nothing wrong with, and I'm not going to baby him, or what on egg shells for him. But now he knows.... I always did, because I was exactly like that when I was his age. Only back then, they didn't know alot about those things 25 years ago. If they had, I could probably be a Dr myself.......let me guess, he is very smart and picks things up almost, a little faster than other kids right?? My son too. My Dr told me that our kids that are special like that, are just that. He learns at a faster rate than all the other kids in his class and doesnt need the same amount of it. the school cuts all of his work in half, and he gets better grades than alot of other kids. His Dr wrote me a note for the school so they can challenge him more. She said if the work seems to easy and he has to do too much of it, he won't do it cause it's boring to him, where if he is challenged more, he'll be more interested..........Wish you the best of luck to you and your family......I hope things work out well for your son. I think they should have "groups" for Moms with children like this so we can share and relate issues, ideas, knowledge,etc.....