Help with Fears

Hi K.. You must be the "coolest" Mom if he wants to be around so much. :) Seriously though, it may be a stage. When did you notice this change? It may be due to transitioning back into school. New grade new dynamics of kids and teachers, new expectations. Maybe with the transition and coming off of summer with you the new schedule has emphasized the time away and he misses that and the security that comes with that. He may just want to be near you and not know why. You could also do some things together and give him specific tasks to help you but give you time apart. Arrange for a friend to come over? Just some ideas. Good luck though. Hold onto those years when they become preteens he'll be tellin' you to drop him off at the corner and dont' by any means kiss him. :) Happy Fall.

My daughter used to do that. I started setting up more play dates at my house with her friends from school she was occupied with them and still was close enough to me, She is almost nine now and doesn't want me around for the most part, so get all the hugs kisses and cuddling now. Hope this helps!!

My son when through this and still sometimes does (age 8). And believe it or not, he got his fears by watching Scooby Doo. I did and still have to bring him to his room and get him settled by turning on the lights and tv (pj's on) and then I am able to go back to my chores. There are times, few and far between, where he will want me to watch a show with him because he doesn't want to be alone. I blame that on being the only child. It will pass and being alone can be scarey even for an adult. Hope this helps.

Hi K.:
I have 4 girls: 7, 5, 3 and 2 y.o. My 7 y.o. is kind of doing the same thing where actually she has nightmares of us being in accidents or something. I've asked what is making her have these awful dreams and it has to do with the fact that we're moving in July '08. She's sensing our stress, etc and it's affecting her. My husband and I have decided not to discuss anything further with her regarding our move or where we're headed b/c she only seems to get very emotional every now and then.
My suggestion to you is to ask him directly what it is that he needs mom so much. He's at an age where he can tell you. Perhaps something is going on at school, perhaps you need to try and arrange a friend to come over after school for a little while. He may even see your 4 y.o. girl getting more attention and wanting the same. Observe the situation and see what's going on around him.
Most of all be patient, children sometimes just need reassurrance and that's our jobs as moms, to help guide, protect and love unconditionally.