Help W/ 9Yr Old Daughters Hair

Use Pantene Conditioner, you could also braid her hair at night to keep it together. My grandaughter has hair that gets knots in it also but hers is not all that thick. We use pantene cond. and leave in for a few minutes, and you could also comb her hair while it has the cond. in it, then rise it out. We really like the conditioner, cause it is the only thing we have found that works. B.

When I as little I has the lots of hair and was tender headed. My dad used to braid it at night - that kept it from getting tangled and the mornings were much easier. In fact, I did this through my 30s until I had it cut and donated to Locks for Love. Also, have you tried one of those spray no tangle products? I used that on my son for years - okay, he is 13 now and we still use it on occasion as he keeps his hair long. It works wonders and makes my mornings as a mom much easier now!

You might try getting her hair trimmed and ask them to use the thinning scissors to make it more manageable.

Growing up with super thick, long hair, I too was frustrated with it. I opted for cutting my hair, however, my daughters (who inherited my super thick hair) won't consider it. Thankfully, now there are options that weren't around when I was younger. What has worked for my girls is a leave in conditioner called Neutrogena Triple Moisture. They apply after towel drying their har, and I have also taken some and put it in a spray bottle with water for when they brush their hair after it's dried. It works wonderfully, and the best part is that it has a sunblock in it to protect their scalps! This works great for us! Good Luck!

I comb K's hair in the shower while the conditioner is still in. Then she rinses it out. I dry her hair and then we do something with it to keep it tidy for bed. She likes french braids but I can't really do those with dry hair so I usually braid it early in the morning when she showers before doing daily routine. She doesn't really ever go anywhere without her hair being in a ponytail, pig tails, dog ears,etc.... It is time for her to start being responsible to brush her own hair too. Have her sit near you in the evening with a brush and slowly work on brushing it out.

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I love K to have very long hair but I have come to realize my likes have little to do with what is practicle. I had to have a day to say goodbye to her long hair then we got it cut. It is about bra strap length and she is much more able to do things with it herself.

I dislike the thinning because it causes split ends later on, but braiding DEFINITELY works. I still use it on my hair so many years later. You may find that with a young child, braids get pulled out in their sleep, so if you don't know how to french braid, I would learn it and use french braids at night. They are less likely to get pulled totally out.

Conditioner works to help combing through after a bath/shower, but you do have to leave it in for a couple minutes before rinsing it out (a lot of people miss this step and get tired of conditioner).

I also will use the "no more tangles" spray if I have to comb through dry hair, partly because I know it worked on my long thick hair as a child. Also, know that the thicker the hair, the more you may have to use, like make sure you get into the undersides and spray inside several separate bunches of hair, not just the top and/or bottom.

Hi M. Im sorry my daughter has no hair and what she does have is so thin it falls out...LOL However my sisters daughter has very thick hair and long. She uses a detangler before brushing her hair. I would tell you to go to the store and get one but I started using an all natural products with my kids because they have asthma and the shampoo and detanglers I used to use have Quaterium 15 in them which is a form of formaldahyde which is linked to causing asthma eczema and cancer so I switched stores. I hope that you find what you need and if you are curious about were i get my products let me know.
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First I would go to a salon and get her hair thinned out. Her hair will feel so much lighter to her and be more manageable. Second, I would use a good shampoo and conditioner that won't dry her hair out because that causes tangles and will make her hair unmanageable. As soon as she gets out get her to blot her hair with a towel and wrap it up until it stops dripping. If she does that instead of just drying it anyway it cuts down friction with the hair.Once it stops dripping let her spray her hair with a detangler. Then take her hair in pieces and brush it. If it is before bed , braid it at night so it won't be so tangled in the morning. You can also buy a head wrap for night. Hope some of the suggestions help.

My daughters and I have suffered through the tangles, too. Some tricks that work for us include: Wash and condition her hair - use separate conditioner even if the shampoo says "two in one." If you go heavy on the conditioner especially on the bottom half, it should be pretty easy to brush at that time. Make sure and brush it after washing it and before it is dry. We also use detangling sprays and they help some. The best advice I've gotten is to braid it before they go to bed. When she gets up in the morning, it won't be tangled. Brush it several times a day so it doesn't have the chance to get really bad. My oldest daughter just cut 11 inches off to donate to "Locks of Love." I think the short hair tangles as much or more than long. Good luck!

We had similar issues with my daughter's hair when she was young, and finally decided that it just wasn't worth the hassle and had it cut short until she was old enough to care for it herself.

I'd say cut it short.

What kind of conditioners have you tried? There are a lot of awesome brands. Use a good conditioner and/or spray-on/leave-in detangler, and keep it cut shorter to make it easier to manage. Like a cute little bob style. That's what I would do!

I agree with brushing it in the shower while conditioner is on it, then making sure not to let it tangle before it gets dry. Keeping the split ends cut off will usually help quite a bit too.
I don't know if she is in the wind a lot, but my hair gets impossible to brush if I ride in a convertible, on a motorcycle, or even if I'm just outside on a very windy day.

I have the same problem with my 6 year old daughter's thick hair. I have found that using ample conditioner on the ends and Argan Oil on her hair after she's out of the tub really help. You can find Argan Oil at beauty supply stores, a popular brand is called Moroccan Oil. It is around $25.00 a bottle, but a bottle lasts us around 6 months. It is well worth it! It only takes about a quarter to half dollar sized amount applied from the middle to the ends. It absorbs really well and does not make the hair greasy at all. Another trick I use is to start from the bottom up on the hair. Once you get smaller tangles on the ends move up to the next set of tagles and the comb will successively comb through till you've made your way up the hair shaft. Hope this helps!

I would maybe see about getting her hair thinned out by a hair salon, I have had these issues with my hair and they thin it out ever year for me right after the winter.

I agree with trying conditioning on the ends, and getting it thinned if that still doesn't work. I have had my hair thinned before and you can't even tell, except that it's more manageable. However, you may have to accept the fact that your DD's hair just isn't meant for the "long" style right now and get her a shorter cut. A bob that can still be pulled back, or over to the side, or put into pigtails, is adorable!

I know some people are attached to the idea of little girls "having" to have long hair, but IMO it's what's easier for you (as the mom/stylist) and especially for her (as the one who deals with the pain of tangles). Again, just my opinion, but I'd rather have a child with a shorter and more manageable haircut than the one you see out in public and think 'Good Lord, that child's hair is an utter mess!' and wonder why the mom doesn't do something about the mop. ;>

shampoo and conditioner

My 9 year old niece is very sensitive about her hair. She hates to have it brushed because it hurts her so much. I found an "Ouchless" brush at Wal-Mart and she said it helps some. She also uses a leave in conditioner and conditioning spray. All those little things add up and she's a lot better about brushing her hair.

Good Luck,
A. k

Try braiding it before going to bed at night. I had this same problem when I was a little girl and that is what my mom did. Also, when you wash it, use conditioner. Use it especially on the bottom half of the hair. Let it sit for a couple of minutes then rinse it out. Comb it out, then braid it. I hope this helps!

M.,
Wow! That totally sounds like you're talking about me! My hair is super thick, my entire head is covered with cowlicks (which means that while it does tangle at the ends pretty bad, it tangles at the scalp even worse) and my hair is totally straight and tangles like nobody's business, not to mention being incredibly tender headed! My first reccomendation would be a shorter hair cut. There are lots of hairstyles out there for little girls now that shorter, cooler and way too cute! My second thought would be spray in-leave in conditioner. It works wonders. It's still not perfect, but it's better than trying to comb through the mess with nothing. The third thing you can do is if you decide to leave her hair long, every night at bedtime braid it up. It will cut down on tangles considerably and make a world of difference. I really hope this helps. It's so rough to be tender headed with thick hair that tangles easily. Good Luck!
S.

I use a product called Olive Oil on my hair you can find it in the shampoo ilse it is with the ethic section.

I have twin daughters that are now 13, they both have very thick hair. The style that we opted for as children was a short stack style that is shorter in the back and longer on the sides going toward the ears. One of them wore side bangs while the other had shaggy bangs. It's a very hip style! You can go to any beauty shop and browse through the style books there. I hope that this was helpful to you.

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hi M.,
a paddle brush may help. as well, aussie mega makes a "3 minute miracle" conditioner that is ideal for tangled hair - it has a little tea tree oil in it, so if it gets in her eyes, there may be some irritation. you can get it at all drug stores/target/walmart.
good luck!
K.

I have really long really thick hair and you can buy stuff at the feed store called Cowboy Magic Detangler and Shine. It comes in a tube and is leave in conditioner. If you use just a little, it works great.

My 6 year old's hair is like this, OHHH how I hate messing with it. It is SOOOOOOO thick. So what I do is:

1. Cut it short (shoulder length) and get it thinned out underneath the hair. Underneath is very important...use thinning shears.
2. Use seperate shampoo/cond, as someone else mentioned, and comb the conditioner through before rinsing out.
3. Use a detangler or we use Avon dry ends serum. (I am not an Avon rep)

I tell you my daughter's hair is a nightmare! When she was a toddler, we'd have to hold her upside down to even brush it...yeah traumatic you think? LOL!

Good luck!
T.
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dd's hair isn't thick, but it does tangle easily...just remember that it'll tangle more when the ends need trimming, so make sure they are being trimmed every 6 weeks or so. I french braid dd's hair before bed to eliminate the tangles from sleeping...it really does work wonders.

If it's already very tangled, start with a broad-toothed comb; if it's in good shape, a brush will do: make a "ponytail" with one hand holding her hair and do your usual downward brush strokes, but start them near the bottom of the ponytail, where tangles don't have much chance to accumulate. Then gradually work your way up, starting your downward strokes higher as her hair gets brushed out and freed from those potentially tangly areas. i have really long, kind of thick hair and it works like a charm.

i also like to keep mine braided, even overnight.