Help! Potty Training My 19 Month

I feel for you mama. I had the same problem with my 1st born. I spent what seemed like forever trying to get her to use her potty chair with hit and miss results. After about 6 weeks my mom finally to me "put a diaper on the child and leave her be. She'll go when she's ready". Conceding defeat, I did as told. A few weeks later I started finding clean, dry diapers lying beside a used potty chair! It didn't go this smoothly with my 2nd born, but you might give it a try. If nothing else, you'll both get a breather before tackling it again.

Sounds like she might not be ready yet. She might like the attention of being a big girl when she goes, but may still be a little immature to care enough to tell you or recognize it some time. I would not push it, but still reward her when she does, but maybe give her untill closer to 2. Pull-ups didn't work for either of my kids either, we did the same naked baby technique. I tried to push my older son because he seemed ready for a while but then he lost interest and it just took twice as long.

Hi A.,
I watch a little girl( her name is Rhapsody) myself that is 20 months old and we are what I call "dabbling" in potty training meaning if she says she has to go we "go" and if she does awesome and if she doesn't ok. At this point it is hit or miss and they fully don't understand and make the connection until they are a little older. Her mother and I both agree to take it slow and go at HER (Rhapsody) pace.
For example my daughter had been using the "big potty" from about 2 yrs old up until the end of Feburary off and on. But about the 1st of March we got really serious, we went straight from pullups to panties in one day and we were fully potty trained in a week. And have been doing good ever since.
My advice keep doing what your doing offer the potty to her before bed, when she wakes up in the morning, before and after nap, keep it at these key areas for 1 year or so. And when doing this NO disappointment when she doesn't go and praise when she does. Then when you are about to approach her 3rd b-day make the switch no pullups during the day only panties.
Have you ever heard the phrase "slow and steady wins the race" that is what you are in, take it slow, easy going. no pressure and I promise you without a doubt you will have her potty trained in 1 week when the time is right. You are in a power struggle she holds the power to PEE (wherever and whenever she wants) and if she don't want to theres nothing you can do.
The keys to potty training are consistency, patience and the BIG one the correct age for each child. I know how it feels to have 2 in diapers/pullups I do myself but I cant force something to happen that isnt at the right time. You will be far better off to take it slow and have far less headache and stress. Hope it helps for the both of you. Good luck W. mom of 4 and home child care provider

Like alot of the other mothers I think she may be to young still. I started my little girl right after she turned two and it took her a long time to go number 2 in it but with in two and a half months she was fully trained.

If she is struggling she might not be ready. 19 months is young and they mostly don't get full control until around 2. If you push her she can have set backs for doing it to early. I would lay off until she's a few months older them try again.

Hi A.! I know how hard potty training can be, I've been through it with 3 kids. My advice would be to quit until your daughter turns 2 1/2, they are much more aware of what's going on with their bodies and much more able to actually control it.
Save yourself and her some trouble and wait, you'll both be much happier. Good luck!!!
M.

Potty training can be a long process and your daughter is still very young. This is an area where she has the upper hand - you cannot make her go potty. My advice is let her learn at her own speed with your encouragement, so it does not become a control issue and cause problems.

I have successfully potty trained one and now I am in the middle of potty training my second daughter. It is really all about the awards. What works for me is that when mine goes in the potty, we are having a huge celebration. We are clapping and dancing and singing that she used the potty and she loves the excitement. She is excited to go because she cannot wait for the applause. She wants to wear her pamper or pull up so that she can be a big girl and take it off when she wants. Leave the potty out so that your child can see it and know that it is there if they need it. Let them see you go so they know that this is what they are supposed to do. And when they go in their clothes, I know you will feel bad about this but you should show signs that you are sad about it. Tell them this is not what is expected and let there be no celebrating and they will try the next time to do what they are supposed to in order to get the praise. Get books and read them about characters that are using the potty. My first daughter loved the potty elmo too. Good Luck

She might not be quite ready yet! Just keep "offering" the potty. When she's ready it will happen! My daughter wasn't completly trained till she was about 30 months. Mainly because little brother was born and she wanted to wear diapers like the baby. Good Luck

Hello,

As a parents of three children myself, I know how frustrating it can be. Everyone will give you helpful hints and tricks, but as they always say they will do it when they are ready. My daughter and my first son were easy, however my last son was stubborn just like your daughter. We tried to reward with candy, toys, or whatever we could think of. Nothing seemed to work for us, I did the naked baby thing as well. I just kept trying and then one day it just seem to kick in with him. I don't suggest the pull-ups, I feel like the child looks at them like a diaper, and will go in them. Stick with it and don't give up, I promise she will get it.

She most likely does not have complete control, and what control she does have in only when it has her complete attention. It worked for a while because it was something new to try, so she focused on that.

Remember all development comes in spurts, and usually accompanied by slight regress in another skill. She's probably busy working on some other developmental skill right now, so that has taken the back burner.

My advice is to lay low for 3-6 months. Let her know that it's okay, her body just isn't ready. Keep reminding her that someday she'll get to use the big potty just like Mommy! Cast it in a positive light, as something she has to look forward to.