The Housing allowance, if the soldier receives it, is for the family, also his seperate rations. Your friend can go through the legal office, but the best way is to call the military spouses commanding officer and tell him she wants an automatic payment set up for that amount. the commanding officer is obligated by regulation to counsel the military member and make him aware of his obligations. the service member can be couseled and or kicked out for non payment. she also needs to get the separation agreement done (with him) from the legal office. also whoever files the divorce papers first has advantages, whatever state it is filed in has jurisdiction, so if she is moving back home she needs to think about that and be the first one to file, unless they agree to everything and have already signed an agreement, (some states don't honor these agreements, so watch out. she can also get a child support payment done through the state. which state is she palnning on being in? all states have different rules. some are bad.