Ok, so i have been trying to serve my ex for 3 years now. My lawyer will not proceed witht he case unless i have his exact home address. He is in the military. I know what base he is stationed at. I need to know if anyone has any tricks on how to get his address. Any ideas would be appriciated
I guess i wasnt soo descriptive when i wrote my last quesstion. I am going the the state to try and get the child support. So needless to say they are really shitty. I have called his commander. and no on returns my calls, i have even called the fire station, he is a fire man in the airforce. they wont even let me talk to him. i dont know. i just dont feel like the des office is doing anything to help. all they told me is that the attorney general will not proceed with my case unless i have an exact home address. He lives on base. it shouldnt be this damn hard. but i cant get any leads. ugh
Address it to his squadron commander or superior officer! The military doesn't like dead beat parents~ I have heard they have even garnished thier wages!
Well your lawyer should know that if he is military all's he needs to do is contact the base & they will give him the info he needs.. Military does not allow this kinda behavior.. If you know what Military base he is stationed at I would call yourself & tell them what is going on & they can direct you to the right person. They will deduct it from his pay... You can always ask to speak to the commander in charge also.. Good Luck I might check into a new lawyer if he's not willing to do what you need..
that is why you have a lawyer - he should be getting that address if you are having a hard time - maybe find another lawyer if he won't help you
When i did my child support in 2001 i did not go through a lawyer, i went through the State, with DES Child Support Enforcement, and they did everything. I had to give them the last known address i had, and from there they found him, and where he worked, and they served the papers. Now, his social number is in the system so when he gets a job, it pops up and they start garnishing wages, and they have current address for him. He also applied for medical, and in our court papers states that he has to provide medical for our son, so when he applied it found him that way too. Child support enforcement is very helpful, and it didnt cost me anything.
Good Luck!!!
If he is in the military, talk to his commanding officer or the Base Commander. The military does NOT put up with that. I don't think much of your lawyer if he doesn't know that. Military frowns on any type of infraction of the law. Even a speeding ticket gets you undue attention.
Yes, my ex-husband is in the military as well and decided to 'disappear' for over a year after we were divorced for about 3 years. At that point I had the support I needed to file for sole custody and try to find some back child support as well as future monthly support.
I did call and speak to his supervisors and purser and finally found out what state he was in and what base he was working at.
I then had to hire a local private investigator. Apparently my ex husband could not be served on base, yet the investigator had no problem taking care of it. It did cost about $60 which I was awarded reimbursal by the Court.
I have never heard of an attorney needing an exact address to file, although if I remember correctly I couldn't get to Court until he was served.
Do be careful here, because when I did finally find him he became extremely upset that 'I was taking away all of his parental rights' and 'all of his money' which was not my intention. His upset was most likely due to me seeing someone else and led me to wonder if I stirred the pot unnecessarily.
It was a long ugly road and as of today is a better situation in that he speaks to the kids maybe once a month rather then not at all. I did sacrifice all of the several thousand dollars of back child support and 1/2 medical bills not paid, and settled on a ridiculously low monthly amount, yet in the end I do have Sole Custody and I can always feel confident that my kids (if ever found out details) would feel like I made good honest efforts in supporting their relationship with him...
let me know if you need more support here, this is a definitely hard place to be for all of you.
one last thing, just make sure you've got the interest of the kids in mind, not the money or not being right, ie. keep a clear conscience in a highly emotional situation...
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If he is military, go to the military, his commanding officer and tell him that he is not obeying the child support requirement. Tell his commanding officer and find out who it is from where he is stationed how much he is in arrears and if he does not pay, you can do what they call a "garnishment" or dock his pay order. If he works for DOD they will require that he live up to his child support obligation. Do it quickly while he is still in service. The military knows where he is at ALL times, and they will make him pay. Best of luck!
Your lawyer is a BAD one...go to legal for the military!
You can get ahold of his superior officer at the base. They force him to take care of it.
